Worthy Of You

Ranting about as usual..

Life is too short. Too short to really care about who does or does not feel good about you. Or think about whether you're likeable enough or not. 

Trying to impress people has never been a good thing. You end up getting hurt yourself. And shattered by the one you were inspired with. 'Cause that's what people do. They ruin your self-respect and it gives 'em this power... a superiority complex, that they are above you... it's a mindset and you can not change that. 

What you can do is get away from them. As fast as you can. And never look back. In the end, you'll find the ones really worthy of you without even trying. 

Life is short. Enjoy it to its fullest. As much as you can. For life can be lived without people and without love as well. You don't need love in charity, right? It finds its way over to you if it REALLY is yours.

 

Life can be meaningful and so much more if you only knew the right ones for you.

Author's Note

An observation merely. But added to lessons of life..

Reviews

[Sapientiam]

It's funny; I came across this when I was most fearful for my future and beyond... Yet, this instilled so much hope in me to cast away my worries and focus on simply enjoying life. Sure, things can happen that may deter us or steer a different path, but to have that will to keep going... That takes courage and emotional strength. Because we all know life doesn't give us what we think we deserve. Thank you for sharing this!

[Dr. YumnaKay]

I'm glad you found hope through this one and that it resonated with you. Thank you for adding your thoughts here, Sapientiam! Truly appreciate it ☺

[Sir Drift & Mr. Pulse]

Your observation is something very advice worhty

[Dr. YumnaKay]

I'm glad you found it worthy. Thank you 😊

[Kesha]

This kind of relates to something I believe "your heart isn't breaking, it's just growing" I like your thoughts in this one :)

[Dr. YumnaKay]

I think mine has expanded beyond growth or repair lol
Thank you! You're too kind, I think 😉

[Kesha]

You'll be okay dear :) & you are very welcome ^.^

[Azmain Nisak]

No matter how long humans can live, life will always be "too short." I entirely agree that it is important to not take one's life and one's good fortunes lightly and that it is good to appreciate these things.

As far as the comments of other people go in impacting one's self-esteem, it probably depends on the person. Some humans are more sensitive than others and become disappointed when someone says something they do not like. It is important for us to be aware of the words we say to other people because what may seem innocuous to the speaker may be seen as hurtful or isolating to the listener.

People who are close to one another should have two qualities: (1) they should be aware of the feelings of the other person, such that they continually support the growth of the person even if it entails logical, constructive criticism; (2) be aware that you are dealing with humans and that it is entirely possible that they are saying or doing something out of emotion, but don't really mean it. Be forgiving and understanding of them.

However, those humans who continuously want to exert power over you, are stubborn about getting their way over yours, who revel in your misfortune and weakness, who could potentially be sociopaths, psychopaths, or emotionally immature adults, should be distanced from you. You must be strong willed against them. It gets complicated, however, if they are part of your family...

Remember that you are not living life passively. To live life to the fullest and to appreciate life is to be aggressive and assertive in your life. You are the one in control and you will do what you intend.

[Dr. YumnaKay]

Thank you for such a detailed review and for adding your insight here! I truly appreciate it!
People have differing perspective in regards with their experiences but it really comes down to what you said, that it depends on the person undergoing situations as how best to take life. And it can be for granted or full of meaning. Either way, life moves on..
Again, thank you for your thoughts ☺

[V]

I can relate. Amen to your first part.
You're right there's more to life than the concept of love as love between two people but it seems senseless to me and although I had very bad experiences similar to what you expressed in the first paragraph and although I've been rid of love quite a few times again after that, I don't want to miss it or give it up. Sure you can live without it but life wouldn't feel filled to me, then. It'd defeat it in a way.
Charity is another form of love to me, a more selfless one without expectations that's what makes it purer. If you applied the same to a relationship between two lovers, less expectations, it'd be more satisfying maybe too but we always seem to build up certain expectations with the ones we're with...
You're very right with the last sentence although I see two ways of interpreting it, either you still stick to people and your happiness depending on people or you fill yourself with it by doing things for yourself or for others as you mentioned charity (which actually is also doing things for yourself because I think it also satisfies your ego in a way, if you love to help other people you're also doing it because it makes you feel good but that's a normal shade of egoism, sorry too much psychology here but I'm really into it, also into thinking way too much and far as you can see).
I like your reflections in general though.

[Dr. YumnaKay]

I agree, this piece was written at my most vulnerable moments so yes that part does seem a bit clichéd.. But when you've lived most of your life without emotions or haing trying to suppress them as much as you can but you're suddenly introduced to a whole new wonderful world of emotions only to be forced back into your previous self that's how it feels.. Love has many forms and one really can't stop loving although the other person drifts apart..
I would say, letting the people you love go on with what they want, because if they really are the ones, they'll return...
Thank you for your thoughts here, I do agree on most parts....

[V]

You're welcome. Maybe, yes. All those things you listed and thought about are natural ones when facing a hard time. But don't be too hard to yourself..

[Dr. YumnaKay]

Not being hard, just self-reflections. It's really an in-between situation of wanting to forget everything but also trying to do the right thing...

[V]

Ok then. Good luck with that.

[Isabella Ivy]

All true! Great advice :) I.I.

[Dr. YumnaKay]

Hey, Isabella, thank you! I'm glad you could connect ☺

[Isabella Ivy]

The pleasure was mine :)

[Jibey]

This a sad and salutary piece. It is certainly true that we need to be self-possessed and choose friends wisely. But this writing speaks of painful experiences.

[Dr. YumnaKay]

Yes, well, with each passing day adds on to my experiences....
Thank you for your thoughts here, Jibey! Means alot..

[Tony Jordan]

I think it's really easy to feel inferior to others if low self esteem is present in the mindset. It's easy to hand someone the keys to your own happiness when you have no confidence in yourself.
As time goes by this 'reliance' on people will wane even for those who are deeply ingrained with the feeling that they are not good enough.
Another thought-provoking piece from your pen which is wise beyond it's years, old soul.
:)

[Dr. YumnaKay]

I agree and no one but ourselves is to be blamed for that..
I'm wise only in words, Tony! Otherwise I'm the most naivé person you'll ever have seen lol..
Thank you for your thoughts ! They are always valuable to me ☺

[Tony Jordan]

But are we?
Is the one-legged man to be blamed for not winning or partaking in the marathon?

welcome Yumna :)) always welcome

[Dr. YumnaKay]

So, basically you mean it's the situations to be blamed, right? Or the fate?

[Tony Jordan]

I mean DNA. Genes. Things beyond our control. You're beautiful because of your DNA - not because of any choices you made.

[Dr. YumnaKay]

Err right! Solid point 😛

[Tony Jordan]

But I concede that some behaviours are learned too. They can be unlearned (CBT).

[Dr. YumnaKay]

Yes, but old habits don't wear off that easily 😛

[Tony Jordan]

I agree. They can be borne in infanthood as a misdirected survival or coping mechanism. I think some are gouged deeply into the psyche and will only ever be managed not defeated. Others will be defeated - if the will is there.

[Dr. YumnaKay]

You've pointed out the main thing.. The will to change...

[Tony Jordan]

As long as we don't give up or give in there's always a chance to change.
:)))

[Dr. YumnaKay]

I second that thought ☺

[matrixmark]

Life is too short....that it certainly is. Trying to impress is never a good thing - I like that line because it is so very true, but I have always just been me and if people don't like who I am then so what.
I feel that this piece was written after a bad time. But time moves on and the ones who truly love you and care about you will always be there for you. While the others....who cares.

Mark.

[Dr. YumnaKay]

When you've been unemotional for too long and suddenly the appearance of a person in your life changes your whole personna of living life, only to find that all of that had been for naught, it's hard to go back to being your older self.. That's what I'm trying to do and that is what brought this on.. Thank you for your thoughts and uplifting words, Mark! Means a lot to me ☺

[matrixmark]

I totally understand what you're saying. I have been in a similar situation myself (many years back) I felt disconnected too. But now I am a much stronger minded person. I know everybodys situtation is different and I know my words won't mean anything to you. But I am a much better and more positive person today than I was back then.
Small words of comfort I know - just putting it out there...thats all.

Mark.

[Dr. YumnaKay]

Thank you! In due time, I will be too..

[matrixmark]

I wish you well - i really do.

Mark.