Who Am I to Judge

day of reckoning

As the weeks have passed and the days grew short

I spent time thinking of father's day

My father, the relationship.

So, who am I to judge

I have never judged harshly, my father;

As I have grown old and been in that position,

It may be that I have failed too.

So, who am I to judge

There was never a manual

Our brains were not wired the same

The input as we grow and learn can be good and bad

So, who am I to judge

So as this day passes with no words

To come to me

from anyone in my past

So, who am I to judge

The day's not done 

Hope reigns supreme

I am at peace with life

So, who am I to judge

Author's Note

Late in the day blessed with a message from my daughter. If I received one, this is the one that means the most.

Reviews

[sereenaoutloud]

This is a great write, i need to learn to come to peace with my father and his actions but i have not yet down that!!

[Willard Wells]

Most parental conflict needs to be released. There are exception to this release. Physical abuse and verbal abuse and other high level actions cannot be forgiven, but you can step away from it and live a new and better life. We expect our parents to be perfect because they are our mentors, but often they came out of a totally dysfunctional family and have no idea of what is correct. It comes done to whether the actions were done because of ignorance or because of a dark heart. A person with a dark heart is not to be forgiven, but removed from your life and memory. Thank you for your review and allowing me to ramble.

[sereenaoutloud]

you are not rambling at all ...it is great to hear peoples views.!! I totally agree with you!..My dad just disappeared off the face of the planet when i turned 15yrs old without warning or telling anyone.
Now i am a parent myself i find it even harder to excuse... if that makes sense!!

[Willard Wells]

But something happen in his mind or his life that took him to the place that made him leave. Maybe he was just and SOB and then again maybe life was too much for him. You must make peace with it as you are the one suffering needlessly. Peace Out

[sereenaoutloud]

LOL...true!!

[AaronFreitas]

Nice words my friend. Me and my sister always talk about her father my stepfather and we had a rough childhood but it's not easy being a father. It's a greater challenge than anything else. You do your best day in and day out regardless of a bad day, frustrations and personal needs. Being a father is one of the toughest things I have ever experienced but I wake up everyday blessed with the opportunity to love my girls and be the best father I can be. Funny how once we have our own kids it changes how we feel about our own fathers :)

[Willard Wells]

My belief is as the saying goes, "I have not walked in his shoes". Sometimes I error, but I try to not judge just for this reason. I learned things about my father late in life that explained some of his issues in life that I did not know. Thank you for reading and commenting.

[John Alexander McFadyen]

A very though provoking piece Willard.I relate to this as my lovely daughter and I often rub one another up the wrong way and we fall out. Yesterday she came to my son's and gave me a new cover for my Kindle. It was a book cover style of The Jungle Book which she reminded me was the first 'classic' I had persuaded her to read. She even attributed it to her reason for studying English literature at university. I was overwhelmed!

[Willard Wells]

Very nice John. Glad you had a great day with your family. It is so easy to judge how we grew and yet fail to see the repeat of what is now Dejavu. Appreciate the review.

[Perkele.7885]

Line #1 passed
I believe a comma is required after each So,
Line #5 a comma after harshly
Line #17 day's

I like the poem Will. I am glad that you shared it with us.

[Willard Wells]

Thanks Raj. I must have an issue with passed and past as you caught that before. hahaha

[Perkele.7885]

There you go! lol

[Melinda McQueen]

A nice reflection of one's self.
Well written.

[Willard Wells]

Thank you, your time and comments are appreciated.