One or the other

 One is exactly what I needed

The other is exactly what I wanted

 

On was light and carefree

The other was serious and intense

 

One held me forever at arms length

The other longed to pull me close

 

One held my heart

The other my mind

 

If I could combine one with the other 

I would have the perfect man

 

but both I can not have 

I must choose

 

How will I choose between one and the other?