Death by friendship.

So, this is just another one of my little rants about people on this site.  Having friends is great.  You get to have memories with them, and memories are what we charish most in this world.  On this site, you get to have cyber friends.  They're not quite as real as your "real friends", but they're friends.  You don't quite get to have the same memories with these friends as your "real friends", but you get to have conversations, by way of reviews, comments, emails, and such.  These are memories, I suppose, in some form.  Even despite the loose definition of these memories, I charish them.  Each and everyone, which is why I've never deleted an email I've recieved yet.  Meeting new WritersCafeans is cool.  You can read their stuff, they can read yours, and a cyber friendship forms, with all the little cyber memories.  But I have a reason to be friends with these people.  I can't stand the people on this site who send you a friend request but give you no reason to accept.  Then, some of them even send you an email saying something along the lines of "Please be my friend" or "I would love to be your friend."  No.  I will not be your friend.  You irk me.  The purpose of this site is to read and write.  Not to collect as many friends as you can.  That's something called MySpace, FaceBook, or IDon'tHaveALifeBeOneOfMyInfiniteFriends.  If you do not give me a reason to be your "friend", i will not accept.  If you give me a reason, and I don't particularly like your stuff, I will not add you.  Nothing personal, I just don't have a reason to add you if I don't like your stuff.  You may think this is snooty, or that I have such a high view of myself.  Well, I don't.  I just don't like your stuff.  Feel free to not like my stuff.  I actually think most of it stinks.  I just post it because someone might like it.  So don't send me a friend request if I've never even heard of you.  Don't send me an email saying you would love to be my friend.  I would not love to be your friend.  On the other hand, I may really like what you write.  I may even accept your request.  I may even read your stuff before you even send a request.  I may like it.  I may review a number of your pieces.  I may send you a friend request.  But, I don't expect you to add me.  I am not one of those people, and I hope you're not either.

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[Blackbirdsong]

This rant is the reason I often clean out my friend's list here. This isn't Myspace or one of the other socializing sites where you just collect friends. At least it isn't to me. I feell that if I haven't heard from people on my friend's list in any way in months that they've either left the site or don't care about me, so off they go. Those who I regularly read and visa versa, who I also built up a friendship with, yes those are my friends here. There are others who want to collect friends or readers for themselves who have no intention of getting to know you or even read you. There are also those who want to friend you so that they can read what's going on in your comments. It's all silly really, but I definitely understand what you're saying here and I just wanted to say that. I don't think it's snooty to be selective about who you choose as your friends. I think the word "friend" is used too loosely since just clicking "approve" does not make someone a friend in any sense at all. So again I agree with you.

[Fear Corrupts!]

Well, what an honour that would be, you accepting my friend request.
Wow.
Why would you even post this?
I know that you're not trying to sound snotty, but nontheless, you're still coming off snotty.
WritersCafe is a about socializing, making friends, friends that will tell you the truth about your writing...
If you have a problem with a member on here, simply ignore that person, you don't have to tell the world, you just sound ignorant...
There is far more important stuff in this world that you can be complaining about.
Get over it.