What to do with TWO?!

this was a story i wrote in a contest I entered where you had to write a story on how you've managed to keep romance in your relationship after parenthood. I received runner up!

What To Do With Two???

    When my Doctor revealed to us that we were having twins, we suddenly realized that romance as we knew it, would never be the same once the babies arrived! How on Earth are we going to find time to raise two babies, go to work, attend school, do household chores, and still be intimate with each other? There just didn't seem to be enough hours in a day to get everything done, and enough sleep at night to find the energy for romance.

    Before we became pregnant, things went smoothly as we wanted them too. Whenever there was a movie playing, if we wanted to go see it, we would just go. After the movie we would go and grab dinner at Olive Garden or somewhere kind of nice just to kick back and enjoy being out. Go and hang out a little longer and then go home when we felt like going home. At home, anything that popped in our heads to entertain each other, we did. We would play cards, watch movies and eat popcorn. Cook a romantic dinner and have a couple glasses of wine or champagne. Having a romantic life was easier before the babies arrived.

    The day I was due to have the babies it still didn't really register to me that I am about to give birth to two babies. We're going to go home with two babies. I think I was still in shock! After the babies were born the hospital stay was relaxing but painful and at that point I became nervous because I'm thinking to myself how can I smoothly care for two babies and my body is aching so badly!! The moment it clicked to me that I gave birth to two babies, and that we have to care for and raise these babies on our own with no family help, was the day we brought them home 2 days after giving birth.

    As soon as we walked into the house, chaos began. I was running around the house like a chicken with his head cut off trying to keep up with the babies' schedule, and keeping the house clean, making sure bottles are clean and that we have enough formula. It seemed like there was so much to do in so little time it was very overwhelming. That's when I knew our romance life was over because we give all our time to the babies and everything else, that we are not spending no time with each other. It's times where we don't want to talk to each other because we are both so tense from being busy and not getting enough rest, so how can we have a romance life?

    We thought, “How can we add this into our already busy schedule? The babies have us constantly on the go all day and all night."


    Time went by and things are still pretty tense between us because we are sleep deprived, and just exhausted from being constantly on the go with raising twins. Everything that comes out of our mouths end up becoming an argument, everything and everybody is on edge. As the babies grew older things started to light up a bit. It's not as tense because they are sleeping through the night now so no more every 2 hour feedings at night anymore. Their naps during the day are a little longer so it allows us to get some rest or complete some work early. Which in all means now we have some extra time for us as a couple.


       The twins are 6 months now and things are so much easier now that they are older. Things are not as tense and on edge as they used to be between my husband and I. The babies sleep longer during the day and then sleep throughout the night, so it allows us to rest, attend school and study, and do some work around the house and still have breathing room to do other things or kick back and relax. Just when we thought there was no end to the chaos of our lives, the storm blew over and the sun is shining bright! Romance is not scheduled anymore, it just happens.

Author's Note

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