Marriage

A year ago my childhood dream was to marry the one. To give a lifetime promise to another in good times and bad. Today I wonder if the concept of marriage is a wishful belief spread by our society. Nothing is forever. You find the love of your life and in the end, it's still not enough. This is exactly what divorce rates represent and even many marriages that last 20 years or more often cannot be taken as an example. So many spouses who live past each other, have nothing more to say to each other or are dishonest with each other. Often there is not much left of happiness and love.

As a nanny, I have heard so many mothers complaining about their marriage on the playground. Unfaithful men, women who no longer feel desired and even husbands who have abused their children. At Kids' sports, I have met many husbands who gave me their number and wanted to go out with me even though I knew their wife, and their child was playing unsuspectingly nearby. And also at the tennis club, I heard about various affairs or financial dependencies.

Why is love not made for marriage or marriage not made for love? And why is it nevertheless our greatest longing and one of the greatest securities in life? And which role does the right for happiness play when it comes to the exclusivity of a marriage? A marriage which in the romantic sense is only meant for two, but which is no longer romantic but rather has developed into a solid team?

Reviews

[Coyote Poetry]

Love changes. I have a long marriage. Start with lust, then the children and now the grandchildren.
"Why is love not made for marriage or marriage not made for love? And why is it nevertheless our greatest longing and one of the greatest securities in life? And which role does the right for happiness play when it comes to the exclusivity of a marriage? A marriage which in the romantic sense is only meant for two, but which is no longer romantic but rather has developed into a solid team?"
The above lines are true. Me and the wife is team. Trying to keep the family afloat. I enjoyed your words and thoughts.
Coyote

[Dave]

You ask the million-dollar question. The answer? There is no answer! By chance, I met the love of my life 66 years ago during our first week in college. We married after graduation and started our family four years after beginning teaching. Through all those years, I can recall so much happiness and tears, most of which I caused. Yet she endured, and we have remained as one. Thinking of all I have put her through, I wonder if she could still love me. Still, there are those moments when she says or does something that leaves no doubt. My only hope is that she feels those times from me.

[Vertigo Cat1111]

Your thoughts in this come out as so deep and profound, Thoughtful in a lot of ways that people never actually dig down to, and I really appreciate and admire that a lot! Not only is it an interesting read, but brilliantly written with a ton of care obviously put in this.

'Why is love not made for marriage or marriage not made for love?'

I love that part right there. So intriguing to think about and your writing pulls out thoughts, certaintly!

[sedulous_mind]

Thank you for your kind words! One could ponder endlessly over the sentence you picked out. But in the end, it is usually the heart and not the head which chooses marriage.