How misfortunes make us grow stronger

becoming who we are

When a loved one dies, many things in our lives can change. First, we have to process the death of this person and thereby go through several emotional phases. Grief generally has many facets and manifests itself differently in each individual. Sometimes a loved one dies unexpectedly, and sometimes it is predictable that a loved one will die. Sometimes we still have the opportunity to say goodbye and to say the things that we did not dare to say before, and sometimes we do not have the chance to say goodbye to our loved ones. Also, the age of the deceased person plays a role in our grief. If someone has died at a young age, it appears to us to be more unfair than if someone dies at a high age. All these factors show how different it can be to lose a beloved person. However, fact is that the deceased leave traces and memories in us, whether good or bad.

But it is not only a loss of a loved one that affects us and shapes us into who we are. Strokes of fate can also happen to us in form of illnesses. Illnesses are unpredictable and can have a significant impact on our lives. This applies to serious diseases that affect oneself as well as diseases that affect a loved one. Serious diagnoses can put us in a state of shock and change our whole life and the way we look at it. They make us question our past life and reflect on whether we should have done certain things differently. They make us think about what we want to achieve in our lives and what matters most to us in life. Strokes of fate caused by an illness can also make us realize that we should value life even more and be grateful for beautiful things. Either we decide to let the illness determine our life, or we decide about the illness and our life. Illnesses determine whether or not we give up or whether we continue to fight and not get discouraged. However, even diseases that we overcome will be a part of us forever and play an important role in our lives. The feelings and decisions that diseases bring with them are not often as easy to forget as the strength it took to fight it.
 
Throughout a lifetime, every person experiences several strokes of fate. Some people experience significantly more misfortunes and some less. Some are already marked by misfortunes at a young age, and some only as they grow older. How we deal with these misfortunes reveals a lot about what kind of person we are. The kind and number of misfortunes we have experienced define us as the person we are. Grief can change us in the short or long term and can make us become a different person. Some people display their grief clearly, and others hide their grief in public behind a smile and suffer in silence. They say, "After every rain, there is sunshine". Sometimes we have to go through bad times and sadness to appreciate the good times in life even more. A life that only consists of heights would not make us happy in the long term, as we often do not appreciate the highs enough unless we have also experienced bad times. Often, we only appreciate things or achievements when we realize that it also could have been different. Often, we take things for granted until we realize that it could also be otherwise, and even if the low seems to last unbearably long, we have to learn to "[...] dance in the rain". In other words, we have to find a way to accept our low and make the best of it in order to overcome our low in the best possible way. Grief is an essential and unavoidable part of our lives, and without sorrow, our appreciation and our highs in life would not be the same. Those who have lived through hard times appreciate good times even more. Those who have overcome difficult periods in life know they have the strength to overcome further downs. Those who manage to distance themselves from their own grief manage to become increasingly stronger as a person instead of drowning in sadness.

Each life has ups and downs, those who can accept both and are aware that both periods do not last forever can be more optimistic about the future. Whoever goes through a low will more easily overcome it, with the underlying thought that a low does not last forever and that after every low, there will be a high again. Those who experience a high will appreciate it more, as they know that it often won't last forever and that it also could be much worse.

 

 

 

 

Reviews

[Coyote Poetry]

You are right.
"Each life has ups and downs, those who can accept both and are aware that both periods do not last forever can be more optimistic about the future. Whoever goes through a low will more easily overcome it, with the underlying thought that a low does not last forever and that after every low, there will be a high again. Those who experience a high will appreciate it more, as they know that it often won't last forever and that it also could be much worse"
The above lines are true. I saw the worst of men and the best of men. I had terrible days and I had good days. I landed on my feet and I can help people near. Life is lesson and more lesson. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and your wisdom.
Coyote

[sedulous_mind]

Thank you for stopping by. I really appreciate your review. Take care - S

[Coyote Poetry]

I enjoyed your work and you are welcome,