is there love?

This basically questions about the existence of love

This is a question which comes to my mind every time I hear an incident involving an awkward love, a mindless ending to a love story or hear teenagers belting out dubious promises to each other. These all seem delusional. They bring us all back to the main question: whether or not love does, in fact, exist?      I myself have never been a lover, meaning I have never fallen head-over-heels in love. As far as that goes, I have never even loved an object to that extent where losing it would kill me. You may call me heartless or a sadist if you wish, but to tell you the truth I feel that I am better off this way, as it saves me a great deal of time, money and, most vital of all, sleep. Many of you will find this selfish, but to me it seems smart.       Many would say that I have not found the right person, or that I have not searched long enough for my better half from among my friends. Some might even go so far as to say that God has kept my chosen one secluded away from me, elsewhere in this vast world. To me, this seems mindless, as I firmly believe that love DOES exist.      When I hit the bed at night, I can sleep peacefully only because there is love present in this world. I believe that what passes for Love may often have been misinterpreted, due at least in part to the inference of the media, and marketing generally. The media give the illusion that the lust which naturally occurs between attractive men and women is the same thing as Love. This mistaken notion has seeped into everybody’s heads to one degree or another. Women have been so filled with these ideas that they only speak about love, love, love and more love. Love is like a drug for them. And each and every one wants their boyfriends to be like the Edward, the chalk-white hero of the Twilight saga, or Jacob, his lupine counterfoil. A great many young girls have continually been fantasizing about a fallacious image of what a man are, men as projected by the media. Then, they try to attain men who are more human, more realistic versions of their 'ideal' man. Thus, we actual men are compelled to exist within their wholly fantastic conception of what a man ought to be. This makes the whole point of Love look flawed, as real Love must be based in truthfulness and honesty.       I would like to define Love as those feelings in which the participants do not expect anything in return, but will try to please each other in every possible way, as well as to protect one another from any harm or danger. Never would either expect anything in return. This seems a good starting point when trying to establish a definition for Love, and attempting to determine whether such a wondrous thing can yet exist in today's world.

 

Author's Note

this involves mainly how media is corrupting love.............

Reviews

[Crowley]

I like the thought you have put into this subject which you seem pretty passionate about. The writing was good and the thought line was good, there are a few grammar errors, but I don't really review that kind of thing cuz it usually pisses people off. I would personally say that love is alive and well, with the zillions of words that are written about here every day including yours, I think as you have talked about in the piece its the way that people deal with the feeling and the attachment of love that may be the real question. The lusty part of it being born out of instant attraction is kind of like a plumed birds mating dance, when it gets real is when we can get past all that as lovers and appreciate the good and bad things about being "with" someone that loves turns into something else. It may be the cultural stigma of being a failure if it doesn't last forever that may be a problem. Great thought provoking start here...I loved it.

[Priyankaabhilaashi]

Good effort..!!

[Cafe Reader]

This is very well written. The other reviewers have said it very well. I enjoyed your thoughts. Thank you for sharing this.

[Devons]

I assume this is intended as an introduction to a series of stories relating to this theme... I think this is a very large subject to approach, with so many differing examples and points of view which inevitably many readers will have in their various -and sometimes peculiar- past experiences. The danger is that you may not be able to relate to these people on a broad enough scope. Everyone has their own ideas of what they call "love". It is specific to the individual.
In the passage you have written here I'm not sure there is enough implied knowledge to be able to approach the subject in the manner required. With the question which you are dealing with being so vexed and variable as to be almost boundless, I fear that what you have alluded to here barely even scratches the surface at all by comparison. An inevitable lack of knowledge and experience is always going to be apparent with such an introduction. Anyone of any age and with even the most varied experience would come across in such a way, I think. Better to avoid getting into this question at all in terms of introduction, unless it may be approached in a more general sense, and perhaps with a more open-minded and objective attitude that there is much to learn that you don't already know.
I think it would be better to skip the introduction altogether in fact, and let people draw their own conclusions from the story or stories that transpire.

As for the writing of the introduction itself, it doesn't really capture the imagination as perhaps it should. Also, in terms of language, I think you need to be more sure of your grasp of that language before releasing it to general view. You should go through it with a fine-tooth comb, and read it aloud to yourself to ensure it comes across clearly and comprehensibly - especially if you are attempting to convey meaning to the audience, as it were.
On a more positive note, I think your point concerning the media's influence on the way people think is a significant one, and perhaps you should concentrate on that as the crux of the theme - although I think it has more of an influence on sexuality than it does on "love". Perhaps they are even inter-changeable, but that should be brought into it more.
I hope this has been of some help.

[Workingonit!!]

I agree that TV, advertising and social group pressures attribute to what people look for in love. It is in fact in my opinion more lust driven than love and both are dangerous if explored in the wrong manner. If say an attractive person dates a less attractive or a rich dates a poor.. this unbalances a scale that perpetuates the forces set against a couple. Even the truest form of love is pricked by the barbs of a vain society. Coming from experience it makes it hard for that love to flourish as we need the love and support of others especially family and friends else your personal life becomes unbalanced.

I have dated a few people all of different social standings, the attractive know they are attractive and come with high markups and expectations are more prone to cheat (beLIEving they are worth more)they are also propositioned more to dethrone that perfect relationship if they do not cheat and makes it more likely that it will happen in a weak moment. No matter which way you go it is hell when the breakup comes especially when children are involved or as ridiculous as it sounds the family pet.. it's then a war over property and children and pets become the possessions fought over. I still think love is worth fighting for but it's worth holding out for "the one" however dating prior is a necessary tool to help build confidence and understand the opposite sex better. This is different for everyone so the above is just a small part of what I believe.. but most of all love is tremendous pain fraught with misunderstandings in unbalanced times that is certainly hard to keep stable.. anyone out there that can do it I give huge KUDOS to.

There will always be love, it will never go out of fashion it's the one thing that everyone needs whether they think they do or not. It's simply a priceless emotion that for the most part is psychological (it's in the mind.. your heart pumps blood.. though the little heart images are still pretty). The tight feeling in one's chest when they break up is simply panic attacks.. love can be a stressful disorder.

[Levana Hyll]

Ha... and here I was thinking I was going toread a poem. I really like what you wrote, it's what I hear allot when people want criticize my stories and their perfect looking characters. I married very young because I was rised to believe a good girl finished school and then settled down to have a family. I wasn't bad-looking, but after I got married I became the ugliest cow to ever walk the earth...at least that's how my husband made me feel. He'd been a handsome young man, but soon after he gained 200 lbs and didn't look after himself, to the point that he didn't even bathe when he came home from work to sleep with me. He was fat, and smelled bad. And he treated me like s**t. One day I really got tired. I had a conversation with myself and I asked me if I was happy,"NO" I asked me if I was ever happy in that relationship,"NO". Then I asked me if I ever thought I was going to be happy, "HELL NO". Not to go into the "HOW I LEARNED TO LOVE ME" thing, but I decided to get rid of everything that did not bow down to me like I was god and treat myself like the most important thing ever. You're probably shocked right now reading this, saying how narcistic of me, but you know, I believe if a person can't even love themsleves, how can they love someone else. The love has to start in you first. I lost weight, let my hair grow VERY long, the way I'd always wanted it-to my a** and started working on every aspect of my life. Today, after getting myself a profession, dated LOTS of hot guys and got myself economically independant, I finally met the guy who I could love...and love ME the way I deserve. Being ugly is an excuse a lazy person uses to not get their a*s in gear and take care of themselves (because they really don't love themselves). If you take care of your body, treat yourself with self-respect and importance, you will be attractive to others, believe me. It is in the nature of any creature, be they human or animal to feel sexual attraction to the ideal opposite. That's how evolution promotes the best of the best, its not something we humans made up to demean those that consider themselves to be ugly. Alos when I read a story, I want to be taken away from this world of nsty ugly things. If I wanted to read something that happens in the normal every scheme of things, I'd watch the news, or become the neighborhood gossip. I read to be carried away to a world were everything is almost perfect. But that's just me. Books are like people, all different... a different flavor for everyone out there. So. my friend, write what you feel and feel what you write. I really hope that someday you find the love I've found and that when you look at this person you can feel the passion that you should feel as a man, because there's nothing like that feeling, when you're in someone's arms, with them looking at you like you're the most beautiful thing they've ever beheld. Beauty comes from inside, from your own self love. So be beautiful my sexy friend...and live, love and laugh!

[Malcolm Orestream]

I'm amazed by this one. It was an interesting read, from the start to the end you just wanted to read more and more, from my point of view. The subject 'love' is hard and complex to define. I really like this one.

[Wondering Mind]

I will not be much help with grammar or writing technique as I lack in both tremendously.
Your write reads well and your thoughts expressed clearly. Your opinions on the subject, I can neither agree nor disagree , as they are your own. Good luck with your journey.
For me, Love cannot be defined, I can only explain parts of it's infinite essence

[Liza]

there are many forms of love
the first we learn if we are blessed enough is
love from father and mother - or one or the either
then love from a sibling
then love from family
then love of friends
then love of things
maybe love of nature or animals
a love for creativity
but when it comes to romantic love
that is where we have to learn again
the ways of love
it is not unconditional like what we receive from our parents or friends
it is learning to share love
not take
or let ourselves be taken for granted
somewhere in between all these phases
we learn how to love ourselves
to give from our full heart
instead of believing these fairy tales
and media driven images
that love is magical
with no work
just ease
love does not have to be boring or exciting
it must beat to your heart - in a peaceful calm

[Amanda]

These are some very developed, very interesting and deep thoughts. I generally agree with you. Love has become a fabricated emotion that people feel they can call on at will, and it simply doesn't work that way. marvelous job. Keep writing!