The point I learned ...

What is your correct relation?

When I started feeling fear about relations? I may not have the exact date and time but I can roughly tell you the moment I started building them. The moment I started understanding this world, the same moment fear about maintaining relations started growing in me. But why? Exactly I do not know. However, I can tell you that there is something wrong the way we perceive and understand this world. May be it is about the relations we develop when we grow along with others. However, everybody feels happy to stay with his or her friends and families. Right? Then, why fear?

I am not talking about happy times but sad times. For most of the people, who do not have those steel nerves, the whole world falls apart during these times. It is during these times, we expect support from our relations. We start relying on those relations, which we have been nurturing since the time we created them; sometime going beyond the call of duty. But what happened now? When I am facing problems, all those relations whom I relied on ditched me.

After knowing that I am in problems, they not only stopped visiting me but also stopped receiving my desperate calls. I relied on them throughout my life. I believed in them. I never realized that they are somebody else and always felt that they are part of my life. What mistake I did?   What crime I committed against them? Nothing, as far as I know and remember! I always kept them happy. Those happy times when we used to meet each other during the weekends and celebrate parties throughout the nights have become history now. Nowadays, every weekend brings me a dreadful experience.  

In this world, spending time and money on people you love and care for and nurturing relationships with them is treated as a good investment.  However, in my case, it is exactly opposite. I invested in these relations but lost. I became a loser in this investment game. Actually, the reason why I am facing these financial problems is due to these blind investments only. When times are good, everyone is ready to give his or her life for you, even for a petty reason. Nevertheless, when time becomes bad and you really need them, they immediately change their tune and sing a different song. You always wonder about what forced these people to change their attitude in such a cruel way toward you.  

No matter what, during this episode, I realized one thing, it is not the RELATIONS that rule the world but TIME (read Supreme Power). When Time goes bad, even your best friend turns against you and becomes your sworn enemy. As they say in the spiritual world, God sends you alone in to this world and calls you back alone; even if you are a VVIP who prefers to stay in the middle of a tight security 24X7also, you have to leave this world alone just like in the same way the pavement dweller does.  In this mean time between birth and death, the time you are busily trying to owning everything in this world, whatever relations you create and nurture, those won’t go beyond a phase of our life.

The moment life enters this mortal world, it continuously strives for permanency and perfection; a ridiculously waste exercise. One realizes this only when s/he becomes a loser. When we take birth in this mortal world, we get a certificate; similarly, when we enter into a relationship, like marriage, we get another certificate.  Like this, we keep on getting certificates for our birth, death, marriage, etc, just like companies give warranty, guarantee certificates to the goods they manufacture. What is the point in thinking that we stay perpetually here, when we all know that it is not true?

The only point that I learned in these difficult times is this: you have only one relation to maintain and that relation is with the universal supreme power. I need to invest my time, effort, and money in that relation. Because this is that one kind of relation which stays with you irrespective of not only in your ups and downs of life but also throughout your life as long as you stay in this mortal world.  That’s it! All ‘other’ relations are dummy.

Actually, we need to create one more term to identify these ‘other’ relations. What do you think?