Staving Off Intent to be Human

Short instructional about how to approach the response within our heart, by connecting emotion with urgency appropriately.

I obsessively agonized over my melancholy the other day. I realized it’s extremely difficult in this condition, to write out something inspirational for others. Most people just think that writers shouldn’t have to have bad, down-in-the-dump days. After all, it’s not like it’s real work. Just putting a bunch of words out on a paper for others who may, or may not actually finish reading it.

Today, I want to discuss the possibilities of how to stave off potential emotions, that could fuel regrettable scenarios. Whenever you’re driving along the road, and you try to avert a pothole. If you’re by yourself, it’s not so bad to jerk the car away. However, if others are riding along with you. Well, let’s just say you can get real encouragement about going back to driving school.

Why? Well, because we are by nature a connected people. And others ride along in life with us. We can potentially hurt them by hesitation, and failing to be alert.

We are also by nature, an emotional people. We live, breathe, and die by our emotions. Some wear them on their sleeve, while others bottle them up until such a time as… well, you’ll eventually read about them or see them on the news. Now what is it for you and me, that seeps deep into our heart, and perhaps it’s there now. That soon must resurface itself in the form of expression for you. Emotionally. For me, the sadness or blues shows up in depressing types of writing like this, which I’m sure is probably all the less than entertaining for you. (Anyway, that’s for me)

Now, maybe today for you it was a little anger in that the spouse gave for being a little too inattentive with you lately, and eventually it resurfaces as road rage. Or perhaps your failure at trying to complete multiple projects under a certain deadline, shows up as this overwhelming anxiety, and eventually lands you in the ER as a panic attack.

Every emotional expression demands a response from the heart. Every inward intent demands an expression.  Even Paul, the famed Bible guy, said “Be angry, but sin not”. The idea was not to repress the feelings as if it’s unholy. Nor does he say to have feelings less than what would be done at say, a Church. The method of thought here was that if this occurred because of the propensity of your heart, be careful how it responds. Because it must. Just don’t let it be sinful.

So why do we have these feelings? What is going on inside us, these feelings that cause so much harm?

It’s usually geared towards some sense of authority. Authority dictates, and authority rules. We rebel against the very authority over us, (either physically or emotionally) causing us to retaliate. Neither of us likes the fact when someone or something is controlling me. And to counter that, our response is to get mad at the controller, rather than communicate. Generally ending up with some type of dangerous emotional outbursts. Mostly, because we’re not paying attention to the intent of our emotional heart.

Whether it’s hate,anger, jealousy, pride, etc. So the science goes, in that no one is free from its grip. Every intention must get displayed so they don’t just stew in our heart. It’s as if the arena of life, is a place for your heart to show itself off. So dumping feelings on others then, seems normal. We gotta dump them somewhere. Since we don’t want to mistreat ourselves, (and dump on ourselves) we end up taking it out on others. Our response to the expression, then gets played out on the world’s stage for all to see. Having to live with the type of regret that can exhaust us for any tomorrows.

What we do with That? What do we do with that pent up emotion?  That kind of anger that just needs to be released. That type of jealousy that makes your heart sick, because it can’t be communicated. What do you do with that?

At Judy House we constantly respond to the disconnected men of our community because these men rebel against the authorities the most, and are most likely those who’ll have their backs against the wall. And for us there’s always this chance to show generosity and compassion. To show our response to their expression.

You should think to yourself that most all of us, have this good intent and are not pressed to have to react. However, what we’re discovering as a society is that most are not taught how to allow our emotions to express themselves in a value-based manner. There’s nothing wrong with having the emotions, it’s not immoral as said earlier. But, what we do with them. It’s how we respond.

What possibilities do our actions to make the world a better place today? As we pad and shape and form our expressions into what we desire, as our emotions boil within us and nearly erupt. Those closest to us undoubtedly feel the effects first. Similar to a bomb blast. It’s not fair. It just happens. Take time to deal with the issues in communicating the hurt to someone who cares, and is qualified to help with the healing. Everyone will be the better off. So I best get back to my blues that are nicely fermenting now, and if you get time tell me how to release my intent, so as not to blow up on you with more of these writings.

Author's Note

Learning curve to be a better writer. Need honest feedback to get better.