Fitting in with others!

Human beings really are strange creatures!

We do things to please others

and basically to fit in

to others agendas.

Inside of doing things to make yourself

happy first and foremost.

It is like we think if we fit in.

They will accept, like us better.

And we will  then in return

feel better for them

treating us better.

When sadly and ironically and

truthfully.

We need to treat

ourselves better

and actually, love 

me for me

first.

And then others

afterwards.

Who treat us

decent and kindly

and respect us

for who we are.

Then we go

and are happier

in general

with life.

Reviews

[Dave]

Hello Dee -
Much of what you say is true. We indeed have the feeling of needing to be accepted, to belonging. We must, however, remember who we are. We can't lose or sacrifice our identity to simply please someone else or another group. "To thine own self, be true."

Take care - nice meeting up with you - Dave

[Onlyme]

Thanks Dave, thank you for your insightful review.

[sette]

the need to be accepted is more than what is emphasized in Maslows theory of needs but then sometimes we have to be our real selves and just wait for them to accept us or not but still there are other options or choices

[phill..m]

Great subject dee, there is a psychology of giving to others, it makes us feel good but
it's a two way street, your poem covers that sometimes its a one way street and you become the person
doing all the giving. Good write.

[Earl Schumacker]

Hi Dee,
Great observations. You can not love others without having love for yourself first. Keep up the good work. Take care. Earl

[Onlyme]

Thanks Earl.

[Earl Schumacker]

Hi Dee,
I just sent this to my friends and family moments ago. I would like to share it with you as well. Earl
https://www2.bing.com/videos/search?q=joni+mitchell+youtbe+california&&view=detail&mid=17E0B817D41CD5018A6617E0B817D41CD5018A66&&FORM=VRDGAR

[Onlyme]

Thanks Earl,Just can not access it can not copy and paste, but thank you for thinking of me also. hugs

[Earl Schumacker]

Hi Dee! Try You Tube - Joni Mitchell. The song is called "California.: The studio version is best. Take care. Earl

[Stella Armour]

I don't necessarily do things for others because i want to fit in, or i want them to like me.

i do things for others because i enjoy making other people happy...

[Onlyme]

I agree on that point Stella, like myself. Love to help others and make them happy. But for the point of the poem. I was being literally one way or the other so to speak. But great point I must admit. You pointed out to me. Stella. :)

[¿]

I truly agree at your sayings Dee...and as we start living for our own a bit..we're called selfish!! Huh..I so wish if every strange creature had understood this one...would've loved this place more than I do!!
Thanks for sharing Dee☺

[Onlyme]

Thanks Tahsin.

[¿]

Wc😊....!!

[Crowley]

One of life's most forgotten truths. A truth we know in our mind but can never seem to transfer it to our hearts and souls. We truly do , do things for others more than we do them for ourselves. Shame really. Great comment and great writing!

[Onlyme]

Thank you, Crowley for your insightful review.