One Day, Two Days, Three Days, Four

Life, if you can call it life, after losing a wife of 49 years ...

One Day, Two Days, Three Days, Four

Written By Marvin Thomas Cox-Flynn de Graham

Copyright © 2022 Marvin Thomas Cox

DBA: Marvin Thomas Cox-Flynn de Graham

All Rights Reserved

One day, two days, three days, four,

then seven made a week,

and I missed you even more.

Days turned into months,

months of months, of months,

and I miss you more today,

than I did that very first day

with you dead and gone,

leaving me alone to miss you so.

That Ache of missing you so,

has no end, no end, in sight,

though I love the Ache

almost as much as I love you,

still, now, this very moment,

this very day with you gone.

And what am I to do,

but embrace the Ache,

embrace the pain of loss,

as if I were embracing you,

and you here again

with me once more,

to never leave me again?

Embrace the Ache,

hold it closer each day,

than the day before,

that I shall do and never cease,

never cease doing so until the day,

until that day when, at long last,

I shall die, loving you still!

And Ache no more ...

(Written July 27^th, 2022)

Reviews

[Lisasview]

Oh my dear dear friend... the ache of losing someone you love... I do so feel for you... I know that time does help but having someone say that to you feels useless..
I have lost quite a few people dear to me over the years and I do know that time did help me... although, the ones that are gone do seem to drop by in my memory...So the ache does appear again..
Of course you will love her still...forever and ever..
Lisa, finally on my computer after a long long day..

[Marvin Thomas Cox-Flynn de Graham]

Thank you Lisa!

[Lisasview]

You are most welcome Marvin..
Lisa, here in Spain

[Julie McCarthy (juliesp..]

So sorry for your loss
I heard someone say once years ago to the effect of that God only gives you enough bad times or grief that he knows you can handle
I hope that is true
You will never forget or stop missing her though
What a beautiful memorial tribute you wrote
She would be very happy to read that and proud of you.

[Marvin Thomas Cox-Flynn de Graham]

Thank you, Julie ...

[Betty Hermelee]

This is so sentimental; missing a beloved is to be expected....however you show that the pain and ache of missing your love is all you have to hold onto, so you carry on keeping that ache near and dear to you, and that's how you live your life. The love will always be there.
Best, B

[Cherrie]

Powerful and heartbreaking. We can't turn the corner on this kind of pain. Hopefully we can learn to lay down the emptiness of their passing and embrace the joy they gave us and let their memories and soul walk With us.

[Marvin Thomas Cox-Flynn de Graham]

Thank you, Cherrie, haven't heard from you in a month of Sundays ... I hope such as the topic of this piece never comes your way ... It sucks!

Marvin Thomas Cox-Flynn de Graham

[Cherrie]

I know it's been forever. Much to long.

[Chris Shaw]

That ache is the price for loving so deeply. The greater the ache, the deeper the pain. I can tel how you miss your woman AND how loved she was. Thank you for sharing this tribute to your lady. All good wishes Marvin.

Chris

[Marvin Thomas Cox-Flynn de Graham]

Thank you Chris!

[jacob erin-cilberto]

to hold the ache closer, to die loving another...eternity is long, but love can make it seem shorter sometimes...like a long distance relationship...where the two shall meet again...
beautiful write, Marvin.
j.

[Marvin Thomas Cox-Flynn de Graham]

Thank you Jacob ... Personally, I do not believe in an Afterlife of an sort's essence, though I do respect such beliefs of others, just as I do support and advocate Religious Freedom for all, practicing, nonpracticing, Agnostic, or Atheist ...

So, I do not believe that I shall ever meet or be with her, ever, again ...

But, I shall go to my grave loving her, all the same ...

Marvin Thomas Cox-Flynn de Graham

[John the Baptist]

Here we have a grief poem with an unusual twist. The speaker decides to embrace the ache of loss. This could mean an intent to let the pain be what it is and to stop resisting it, a type of emotional judo that goes with the unbearable to make it bearable. Has the sound of wisdom.

[Marvin Thomas Cox-Flynn de Graham]

John,

as you probably already know, I am not into Organized Religion or any sort of Afterlife's essence ... I do respect that you are and defend your right to believe and practice as you choose to do ... I fervently support Religious Freedom, though I, myself, choose to not be Religious in an form, matter, or associated kind ... I am an Intelligent Desing Free Thinking Creationist, so go figure that one ...
And yet, I do believe that love means the mental and emotional conscious and unconscious act of loving that special one until that very moment whence you do cease your breathing, and oblivion shrouds you in the darkness of, "Sleeping like the Dead ..."

[Coyote Poetry]

Thank you Marvin for sharing this poem.
"Embrace the ache,
hold it closer each day,
than the day before,
that I shall do and never cease,
never cease doing so until the day,
until that day when, at long last,
I shall die, loving you still!
And Ache no more .."
The above lines. We must learn to grasp my friend. I am sorry for your lost.
Coyote

[Marvin Thomas Cox-Flynn de Graham]

Thank you, Coyote, my friend ...

[Coyote Poetry]

You are welcome my friend.

[redzone]

so sorry for your loss Marvin.... when my mom died, my brother and I felt the pain of this, but my dad even more.... he was able to live another 8 months after her passing and finally passed because of a bad heart.... but being with him twice after her death, I think part of his death was due to a broken heart.... you never get over loss of a loved one, part of them is always there because of your love and because they helped to make you who you are today... thanks for sharing your pain and this poem Marvin.

[Marvin Thomas Cox-Flynn de Graham]

Thank you, but if she were here after 49 years, she would say, "No, thank you!"