Things I Learn About Life

Hopefully this will benefit anyone who reads this, and help them enjoy and live life to the fullest guided by wisdom

* it is easier, or that it is the path of least resistance, to give up your ideals and desires and how you want perfection to be, and accept the situation and work with the circumstances, and hopefully after a while it will end up to be the conditions that you want in the first place. Imposing your will unto someone else creates alot of friction and instability. Giving in to someone else's desires, if they do not clash with yours, should be done as often as possible, in order to gain blessing and favour.

* stay true to your heart, let your heart and gut guides you in making decisions, be it large or small decisions

* a life of suffering, or sufferings in life, is a result of making wrong decisions. Thankfully we can escape from suffering by making the right decisions again. Follow your gut, heart and instinct to make the right decision. Forget about what religious teachings, the law?, and other people say about what is right and wrong. Follow your heart, and it will lead you to make the right decisions, as in each scenario. And when you reach that place where you are doing what you are supposed to do and be what you are supposed to be at that particular time, you are right there "in the zone". And if you are in the right track, doing what you are supposed to do and be what you are supposed to be, but have not achieved what you are supposed to by that time in your life, you will enter into a momentum, just like a wheel rolling down a hill, you will be accelerated to finish what you are supposed to achieve by the time you are currently in

* Respect covers up to the minimum distance of how close a person can be to another person. The further the person is emotionally from the other person, the more respect he has for the person. However when the emotional distance between is too close and is less than this minimum distance, lack of respect happens, be it from both parties or just from one party, and turmoil, fights and arguments happen in their relationship. But if the distance is too far, there is no interaction, and you hardly know the other person. Just like chemistry, with atoms and molecules having different affinities to different elements, some have more negative or positive charges, hence some will repel from each other to various degrees depending on the amount of polarity, while others stick like glue very easily also to varying degrees. The same with humans, we have varying people in oue lives whom we can get close to and can't. We shoud always strive to find this balance and keep this minimum distance of respect with other people, if we want to live harmonious and enjoyable lives.


* Feelings of distress, frustration, anger and sadness are caused by discrepancies between how we want things to be and how they really are in real life. The easier way to escape from the above negative feelings are to accept the situations and the change in circumstances and let go of our desires for the perfect circumstances of how we want things to be. The faster you are able to do this, the faster you feel relief and escape from the above negative emotions. A good thing to console ourselves with is that what we desire may not always be good or the best for us.
The other but more difficult and arduous way to escape or respond to the above negative emotions, is to strive to make the "perfect reality" that you so desire come true. This is usually a longer and more difficult process and sometimes do not yield the fruits we so desire. Revenge and hatred belong to this second option.

* we reap what we sow, there is no escape or shortcut from that. Do more good and be good, so we will receive more good in our lives and live happier lives. People who do bad things will end up having bad things happen in their lives. It's our choice to make.

* humans are born with innate personality traits, in which within a trait spectrum, the person have various degrees of inclination towards one end of the trait or the other end. For example in the trait of introversion and one end and extraversion at the other end, or the trait of friendliness at one end and hostility at the other end.
If due to conditions imposed on the individuals, imposed be it by oneself or other people, be it due to work requirements or expectations from other people to have a certain personality trait or set of traits that differ from the individual's innate trait(s), ie for cultural, gender, occupational or status reasons, if it is to a minor degree it will cause discomfort to the individual, which can manifest as difficulty to sleep, stress, anxiety, etc. If the degree of discrepancies between the imposed personality trait(s) and the innate are huge and/or multiple, the person can develop various personality disorders and have disturbances in their lives, be it in terms of relationship with oneself and other people.
Therefore it is important to know one's natural or innate personality traits, and to hopefully place oneself in an environment and be around people that support and are congruent or complimentary to your personality, such as having a career that make the most from the strengths of your personality.