A heart-broken dilemma

Have you ever had those times when you meet a certain someone who is so special to you? I mean, you don't know anything about him/her but when the two of you talk, it seems like you should make a move; tell her how you feel. But because of today's society, you couldn't really go up to a girl and randomly say, "hello, sorry to bug you, but I think you're very beautiful, would you like to go out sometime?" and expect that person to take you seriously or not be weirded out by you. Of course, no one would be so blunt; they'd say something more elaborate. Not to mention, you don't know if this person really takes you seriously. Cutting through the bullshit now, I am talking about a girl I know, every time I say something about how beautiful I think she is, she says that I'm being cute.

 

Is that normal for a girl? I wasn't trying to be cute, I was trying to be sincere. Does it really matter what she says? Does she know that I'm trying to be sincere and she just happened to use the word, cute, or is it because she really doesn't take me seriously? I want her to take me seriously.

 

For the record, this girl is what most men (and maybe some women) would describe as HOT. She is, like, Playboy Model, GORGEOUS. Totally out of my league type. But she and I talk (at least, whenever she's online) and she claims that I crack her up, which is awesome to me because I have normally only cracked up unattractive girls in the past, or at least girls that wouldn't be caught dead in a Maxim magazine. Although SOMEHOW that's been changing recently.

 

Anyway, I'm talking to this girl and I've already asked her if she'd like to go out and see a movie sometime. She said she'd love to, so I took that as the exact opposite of a rejection. So here I am, excited as hell about taking this REALLY attractive girl on a... would your first time out really be considered a "date"? I mean a date is all about getting to know the person, to size them up and see if you two are really compatible. Isn't dating the idea that you believe you two ARE compatible? Anyway, about the only thing that was left to do was know when she'd like to go, what movie she'd like to see, and of course if I have permission to call her. Well she never truly answered my questions (bad sign?) and now, recently I discovered on Facebook that she is now in a relationship (and I'm suffering a bit of defeat). But here's the thing: on her myspace, her marital says that she's married, and I took that as she's got a boyfriend whom she is MADLY in love with, but her Facebook didn't mention ANYTHING about her in a relationship... up until recently that is and I noticed her martial status on her myspace well before she changed her marital status on Facebook.

 

I'm not asking for possiblilities as to why her marital status' are different, believe me, I'm a pessimist, I've thought of them all, even optimistic ones. What I want to know is if I should bother asking her out at all anymore, if I should even continue hoping that she'll go out with me.

Reviews

[Airabella]

Wow, alright, well first off i liked this a lot. If a girl has different statuses on different accounts, it doesn't always mean they are true. Some people put statuses up to avoid certain things. like false ages, false real names and all. I once had a situation kinda like this, where every time i talked to this guy, i always got nervous yet really excited and i was always happy and interested in what he was going to say next. Then he started to call me names like 'beautiful' and 'cutie' and what not. Im not the type of girl that full on accepts those words, because in my opinion, im not those words. So if a girl says, 'your just being cute' or something along those lines, she might struggle with accepting complements. In that case girls like to hear that a guy is being serious and nice. If she still tries to push that away, then she has doubt. Meaning, she feels or has a feeling that a guy is just saying that to get something out of her or that he says that to every girl and really isn't meaning what he says to her. I have that problem a lot. Us Girls are strange, beautiful, but dangerous beings. I only say that because I am one and I observe many others. I realize that this was put up in 2008 and all, but if this ever happens again, don't be too quick to run to that thought of not trying, or giving up on a girl. If that makes sense to you! :)