Reasons to Enjoy Your DivorceA Story by John Brown
1. Divorce Won't Mean You're a Failure
When you are feeling stuck, frustrated, and unable to progress, it's easy for your mind to blame what happened on your spouse. But if you aren't willing to take responsibility for the negative feelings and circumstances, then when your divorce turns sour, you are forced to look for someone to blame. It is easy to fall into victimhood thinking that there is a part of you that will always blame yourself. If you aren't willing to admit that you did make mistakes in your life, then when a divorce turns sour, you are forced to look for a scapegoat to blame for the situation. This can lead to further depression and despair. 2. Divorce Won't Mean You're a Failure Marriage is a lifelong journey. When one partner decides to end their relationship after a few years of marriage, it may mean that the marriage is not what they thought it would be. This can mean that your spouse is a hardworking, loving, committed person who isn't as committed to you as they may have been when you were young, or it may mean that this person is not good enough for you as you have envisioned for yourself. This can lead to frustration and frustration that can lead to more infidelity, divorce, and divorce. Divorce is not a short term problem. The divorce takes time and energy away from all of our relationships. Divorce is not about looking to find the right person to replace your marriage. Divorce is about looking to yourself to find the right person to replace your marriage. 3. Marriage Doesn't Equal Love It's important to remember that marriage is not a one-time event. When you get hitched, you're not choosing a new life partner, you're getting married to your spouse. Marriage isn't about choosing between good and bad, but about choosing to live with a marriage that is right for you. Some people look for the quick fix, they look for a quick fix. When someone does it, it's easy to get caught up into the idea that "because I'm married, I have to love him/her more" or "because I'm married, I have to do more." It doesn't have to be this way. Marriage doesn't have to be about love. 4. There is a Time for Everything If time, money, or relationships are in short supplies, divorce really makes total sense. When there is no more time, money, or relationships, you may find yourself wishing that a divorce happened sooner than you may have in the past. Divorce doesn't mean that your marriage is over; it's more of a reality check that it is not. 5. Love = Your Soulmate, Your Ideal When you find love, there is no shortage of love. Love means looking at your partner and seeing where you share your similarities, and where you may still be looking for that one spark of beauty. Divorce leads many couples to forget that, when it comes to love, everyone's different. Love is universal. Whether your spouse was in love with you before you came together, or after the relationship began, it's important for each person to remember, love isn't just a feeling between two people; it's a real connection between two people. © 2020 John BrownAuthor's Note
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Added on January 31, 2020 Last Updated on January 31, 2020 AuthorJohn BrownAtlanta, GAAboutMy name is John. I work as a lawyer, specializing in divorce proceedings. more..Writing
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