"Fate" - Values which drives your life.

This is for children, and my son, who really want to grow with high values, which make them how to lead life on this earth, being with Evil in surroundings, and to clean the society.

Kama, krodha, lobha, moha, mada and matsarya - lust, anger, greed, illusion, pride and envy - all have their proper use for the Supreme Personality of Godhead and His devotee.

A beautiful song for children from a old film, "Nanne munne bachce tere mutthi mein kya hain...." 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UJvcbkxG20A

My inspiration are children, who just listen without hesitation, as they are not with dirt which they learnt from surroundings and from Evil in scoiety. Humans born with godly characters, as their growth starts to nurture, they grow with good things, but they are born with their purpose and nature(chittha) which is in their core, which slowly outgrows, through age. 

It is very hard, if a person like Ravana or Hiranyakashipa, demons, which slowly nurture their nature, which take advantage of God to get changed. These people cannot be changed, and these are to be punished. 

But people with little good in them and can be drawn towards a good purpose, making them to lead life better. Person as he grows what is wrong with him/her, the way they grow and the things they do gets influenced to do bad. Then they must start thinking to stop their bad things, atleast people in family should observe them and guide them towards right path. 

Parents nowadays concentrate so much on children, making them learn, giving ambitions, letting them play and enjoy. But also help them to learn good values, for their better judgement, when in troubles, to decide what should be done. 

I am trying to concentrate on what values a kid should be given, so that they will lead their life and also be ideal to others too. 

The heading which i have mentioned, are the arishadvargas, 

Kama, krodha, lobha, moha, mada and matsarya - lust, anger, greed, illusion, pride and envy - all have their proper use for the Supreme Personality of Godhead and His devotee

If we know the proper use of above characters, we can control them for leading better life. These 6 qualities are just bad things, when we see them in bad places(in bad persons), but also turn to good qualities when we see them in right place of family, society and Nation. 

Kama - is a Desire/Sexual Pleasure(at average levels not too deep in spirituality)- Kama is our desire, but not just the limited sexual desire as is frequently taught.  Kama is our experience of divinity via the senses.  And ultimately, it is a vehicle for returning home to our true essence. 

Note: It becomes negatively used, when we literally exploit being desirous, with people outside(nowadays more than one boy/girl friend, friends outside family, prostitution and desirous of sexy women). It looses its actual meaning. People also see that when one is desirous of someone, then it let out, or care a person who is emotionally stressed, by giving love of sex, which release harmones, the stress complexes, which are linked with mind and emotions. But people should justify, how far they are risking or being true to somebody, and what they are caring for. 

In Hindu weddings, couple promise before God to share their life together in these four aims

Within the Ayurvedic system, it is recognized, for householders, that four main aims are taught:

1. Dharma - following virtue and values
2. Artha - Spending and earning money
3. Kama - fulfilling desires
4. Moksha - going towards ascetic life

Kama inorder to be in real life, is by turning to Love for him/her. When it crosses the limits by expecting physical need, though the person doesnt agree, then you are doing something wrong, give them time to know about your value. But when person seeks crossing the limits, but stays for you till the end, then that is also pure love. But if anybody extracts just to be needing pleasure, and doesnt stay for you, then he is using for pleasure, its not love. Sacrifice of love, doesnt come into Kama, but its good when both agree can live without each other. But if someone missing and other doing sacrifice, then both should balance it by taking the risk.  

 Love can be achieved/given out 

  when you really miss the person,

     in thoughts(needing her) or in heart(missing her).

        But both can happen simultaneously, then it should 

         be love for her/him. You can patiently achieve her/him 

           when do love without expecting desirous needs, but doing/risking                  everything for her/him. Then you are in path achieving true love, 

               with the help of removing obstacles in the path, by God, you will                     reach your soulmate. Only soulmate only gives the love, which                        is inside and outside also.                                        

Krodha/Anger - anger should be used to punish a demon who is envious of devotees. For normal life, we should keep our anger under our control, meaning, calm down and raise when it is necessary. We need to get where it is necessary. Controlling anger is an art, for Lord shiva, who is manifestation of anger, really knows when to get Anger and when not to get anger. The mode of mind(vritti), of once decides your anger levels, and through yoga and meditation, slowly you can change mode of mind to react to situations. 

               Krodham, when you patiently listen to other, 

                        understanding the other person views,

                          and thier importance, where with 

                             your behaviour you will   ach

                                ieve everything   including

                                  the other person          to 

                                   feel your love,         so

                                    it should be      love

                                     or care for     oth

                                       er person     w

                                         hich      mak   

                                          kes     him

                                           good    /

                                               God         

I feel the above two are really important and primary characters, which children need to start learn and art them for their healthy and responsible life. 

Making of my Son

Author's Note

Character, Attitude, Responsibility(to self and others) are the three important things where the above arishadvargas are the basis, which paves the path toward's your life.

Note: I am not writing for any appluads, but atleast one could get the gist of my writings, which is my sutra for writing, the reason and logic for writing.

Be like a Lotus in muddy water, taking in the water but not the mud - Inspiring for everyone, in this present yuga, where evil is directing us. My roots in my family taught me - a Woman in Family or Society or Nation, can make Hell or Heaven if she wants - "A very valuable quote for Female children". Dont think how much she is stressing/working hard, right attitude, right samrtness, right strength - will come for a heart, for what she wants to do.

Reviews

[JessyJacob]

I just feel men are being treated as children, and woman are being treated only to give love. But it becomes responsibility for each other, what needs to be thyself, to face the troubles in life. When men are being treated as immautred seeking fun, they just get offtrack of what they do for food, instead they should be given inspiration how to be smart and work hard. And women being capable for loving, can make a Leader/Political Roudy, so its her to decide what type of love to be given to a Husband, who is always behind him, as support not as a dark shadow.

Came out after seeing, the growing generation, in college, office, thought of sharing this.