Dating , Doting, which is Good??

Out of my personal experience with roots and importance of precious Man of life.

                 Love is not Love of body but it is Love of being together for the eternal time. 

I was wondering is Dating (including checking compatibility of Physical body) and Doting (excluding checking compatibility physical body), which is Best?

My personal experience says, I have and want to give my heart and body to my Man, where he feels so special, and no jealous of somebody touching her. Yes time is needed for the people liking each other, to develop love and commitment over the time. This is kind of dating, without sex, where we see people really interested in us and do need us in life. But this trust goes beyond where people dont take commitment even after long time, and they have to give up realtionship, it really makes the other person to fall down(out of my experience). But at this stage only, you need to take right decision, how to move on. 

 A broken heart can take time to get fixed, before that why a heart is broken, - it may be if someone cheats. This can only be fixed by replacing, becuase she/he is not worth of you. But broken body or used body is nothing less than, a prostitute body, where people are so mentally weak, needs sexual pleasure. 

Is there a need for enjoying sexually when you are just liking each other. If you are just liking only to feel sexually, then that is not a Love at all, it just being lust over her/him, it is mistaken by feeling of being emotional, if you are that emotional, means you are just weak with women, greed of sex. 

We are living in a society where parents, family, have family values, respect, it is our responsibilty to keep their family respect by not looking so weak minded. they used to get Gandharva vivaham(giving promise to God, that we love each other and want to live together and get married without any people around), when they like each other, and lead their lovesex family life, they just didnt missuse of their bodies for sexual pleasures. It just reminds me the story of Shakuntala and Dhushyanta. 

Even in olden days, 

Current life of students in college, live ins, is really hurting, parents are also encouraging, its not a wonder, since the parents do that live ins with their friends partners. It is torturing life of good people who want to live happily, and securely, where she/he is losing trust on partner, where he/she may cheat. We need to stop this ugly and nasty culture which is hurting Human values and God , making the gracious mother Nature, anger to destroy with natural calamities. 

Why people are becoming so weak, to just enjoy sex, naming the relationship as friends, and friends of benefits. Also in the name of helping friends, they make them stress release through sexual pleasure, touching ugly their bodies.Losing good friends, where they cant be trusted, and beautiful relationship of Friendship. I may that relation just stays with unisex people. 

I heard recently in USA, students from nice family background, are looking for part time job of giving sexual pleasure in the form of helping stressed people. It is nothing but life of Prostitute. Parents shouldn't just ignore their kids to go in wrong path. I know Government is becoming so irrational that they are forgetting family laws, and spoiling family life of people, what for Govt, is struggling if it not controlling evil in the society. Youth is the backbone of the Nation, if you let spoil youth only, how that Nation will turn to? It just gooes to Destruction of Nature. 

Hope its not hurting anybody's feelings, but letting my thoughts so that they think in right way. 

Reviews

[JessyJacob]

Dear Yumna,
I got some clarity, if we see musalmaan, eat beef, and they only cut the meat and sell, you dont see a Hindu or a christian(eats) doing. When you become accustmed to cut the big animal like cow, you will loose your natural nature to be human slowly changes to kasayi thanam(cunning even to dare to kill humans).
Similarly if we just date with physical emotions of touch, till you find a right person to get married, he/she loses interest in sex and makes you treat emotionless, after long term you feel, I need a caring person for my life, because all the people whom you dated, were exploiting us.
Its like, to look more sexy, we are cutting and removing parts of perfect gown for bride in wedding, to show the skin, slowly we have reached to a point where just n****e is hided, to show her physical beauty.To exploit pleasure, we are just physically involving too much, for temporary reason.
If we continue to look this of sexy and erotic, soon we will die with deadly diseases like AIDs, and more cancers too.
Why do we need to show our body, is it for beauty, and sex for loving a man, to see whether he is perfect for life. I can only say that what is necessary are to be done, you can look so sexy in bed room, and prsotitution f**k(i want to use word f**k to show irreplaceable for term of Love in home) after married life.
If we just think and see by just talking, and being little close, then you dont and will not get a chance to feel sad when he/she cheats you.
I would like to see your reply for above my
thoughts.

[Phill Oz O'fee]

Makes you think – perhaps we are heading towards a state of ‘natural selection’; the process by which forms of life having traits that better enable them to adapt to specific environmental pressures, as predators, changes in climate, or competition for food or mates, will tend to survive and reproduce in greater numbers than others of their kind, thus ensuring the perpetuation of those favourable traits in succeeding generations. But wait, aren’t we supposed to be the planet’s dominate species, with responsibilities to look after each other despite our failings? Sorry, I’m going off on one – superb write as it does provoke discussion and debate.

[JessyJacob]

Why do you want to be sorry, you are never sorry to anyone, and dont own it, seeing your nature, and thoughts. Somebody else has really right on it, where he also never be sorry.

As far as natural selection, the earth has been going through from beginning, where life started to begin, Mutations are necessary, I do agree with you, with a slight touch of Green, Recycle, would lessen load of s**t on others. Live and Let Live.

[JessyJacob]

Yumnakay,

I have my views, it doesnt mean they had to syn or just crap, it doesnt matter, and I just respect your thoughts by listening them. Only like minded people reamin under one tree. A mango tree never give apple, and apple tree never give mango. Unfitting views takes you out from family of tree, where you mistakenly attached it, saying i born here an di belong here, and this is my family type.

[Dr. YumnaKay]

As long as 2 people having sex does not affect you, I don't see the need why we should be bothered.. It's human nature to want to be wanted physically and to have experiences. And if that leads them to dating or having relationships then you're wrong to term this as prostitution.
Just stating my views here, like you did lol ...

[JessyJacob]

If i listen to you then no wonder you will fall in love with prostitute too, to have a relationship, and for that do we need to become prsotitute, hope our base and family, doesnt like, it. If we think why they restricted then is it because, woman, is very sensitive, compared to man, where they can be suffered, without deep affection of kids, because men never bear kids in stomach, making them to give rise, and also very strong where he doesnt hesitate even to abort, as they are not being affected with 9months pain, and love where they only can feel, how many births men take, they are never going to feel that love for kids for those 9 months.

Hope you understand, my detailed, thoughts. I am also taking it easy, not taking too serious your comments.

[Dr. YumnaKay]

I wholly disagree with your pov. According to you the people who love and have relationships are prostitutes? That is hilarious!
Well good for me that I don't take your writings seriously hahah they are a bunch of crap tbh

[JessyJacob]

if people give that much importance to physical needs, and experiences, then why shoul dthey commit to relationship for long with someone else. Thats scary thing for other, not knowing what they really need, so it puts a question mark? what is love? who is your love?

[Surya]

haan a deep write having emotional stree on your shoulders, I agree with your every word people didn't experienced what love is, That all makes the difference, They are in a thought that lust is love...but it's not, well again sacrifice doesn't means love too....A write I loved here....:)

[JessyJacob]

A tragedy only be called as love, not a lust. But we also need to come out from that, atleast for caring who needs you and loves you. Nobody feels a sacrifice, its done to feel bad, no more pain. We need to find more pure than that, getting better, reaching what you had to get(given by God for you), for the reason you are born, dont trash yourself, your life is precious to you only, nobody cares as how much you care, you just need to find that person, who knows your importance more than you of your life, like parents, siblings, wife. Friends come later. Courtesy and sympathy come later after that.

[JessyJacob]

sorry forgot, wife/husband.

Dont get dishope seeing some bad persons out, not feeling importance of relations, but they are good people out there, we just need to get their love out, with our love for them.