The Marriage

A very brief synopsis of marriage and divorce

Shoulda, coulda, woulda; can't, shan't, won't!

Six years time wasted, basting in that terrible sun,

while you pondered great fun, 

at the expense of my health. 

They say love is blind and it must be 

true, for if it wasn't, 

my mind and all else would not have come close to being lost. 

You, you acted like the boss of me as my 9 years junior. 

Little did you know, 

you were  peculiar. 

Still, you were quite coarse in the divorce filing. 

I found myself writhing in that hospital bed, 

yet I was hardly dead. 

I reached for the phone for a lawyer,

like an angler catching fish.

I caught the big one,

and neither of us won.

Author's Note

ignore the punctuation issues

Reviews

[Linda Marie Van Tassell]

I have a different spin on that old saying, "Love makes you blind." I don't think love makes you blind, but I do think it makes you stupid. We see things and refuse to see. We hear things and refuse to hear. We know things to be true but refuse to believe. Inevitably, all the things that we refused to see, hear, and believe suffocate us in its karmic grip. It's hard to accept that what you wanted, never was; and what you wanted to be, will never be.

Anger, hurt, sadness , confusion, frustration and resentment are very real, reasonable emotions during the divorce process. Staying stuck (or being dragged unwillingly back by the various unending circumstances of the day) in these emotions can completely weaken your reasoning and decision-making abilities. They can also rob you of your future happiness. Humor and laughter can increase your chances of success.

Remember to:

1. Get angry and work through it.
2. Forgive yourself and the other person.
3. Live
4. Love
5. Be happy
6. Be healthy

[Jay Steitler]

Thank you. I am far, far away from where we made our nest. The distance is it's own catharsis.

[Linda Marie Van Tassell]

You're very welcome. May each mile erase an unpleasant memory to make your load a little lighter. Best of luck to you. :-)