All Starts From Nowhere.

 

 

All Starts From Nowhere.

 

       After being in a strangled relationship for 5 years, my primary belief in the relationship that start with a mere infatuation had faded. Those 5 yrs with her were full of ups and downs, much like a roller coaster ride. But mainly we realised that we were pretty much different, we had different goals and different perspective towards life. It was time to fall apart, thankful it was not dreadful situation because we both knew that our relationship was heading towards a dreaded end.
    The relationship ended and I was enjoying my freedom. Since 5 years I lost many of my friends especially due to the relationship I was in, so it was time for me to rebound the lost ties and create new ones.
One such effort was to retire for trek with a trekking group. Meeting new people was frankly not the primary objective for joining the group; it was more from the urge to get out of the usual monotonous life. And soon after the trek was completed and reroute the way home i realised that it gave me new friends. Those friends that would be like my family in the years to come. Now at this point I feel that I had made a good decision to head for a trek, specially when I look into my girl's eyes each time I see her.
         I had made 2 great friends on trek, Mayuri and Sai. After the trek we stayed in contact with each other, planning one trip after another just to enjoy every moment more than before. So among the 2 one became my girl, the girl I love the most. Mayuri, it is, the girl who is very different, who made me feel different but more importantly she made me a man who is much more refined with all positivity and a unmatched positive attitude towards things.
         Being a introvert or may be a person who doesn't like to talk much, it was not me who would complement anyone for their qualities, to add on to it the business quotient eroded my positivity to a great extent. My work was such that it always contrived me to look into negatives of people. But in wake of this my attitude towards life had greatly changed, I was a person who could unparalleled love for negative qualities and never respected the inherent good that people had within them.
         She was the one who made me chasten my flaws, from the time we first met, till today she constantly tries to make me a better person, a person who can grow with life. She was the change I always needed, a girl who is witty and at the same time assertive enough to change me and my habits.
         She was the one who schooled me how to appreciate others and specially appreciate myself which was frankly out of my books. She taught me appreciation and complementing was the key to a person's heart. This simple technique made wonders, people start appreciating you and the whole environment around you will be in turn positive.
           The second most important thing she taught me is to always be good no matter what and not cracking under external pressure. In life it is really difficult to be good, by good I mean keeping up with our morals and values at all times, however difficult the situation might be. She made me realize that it’s our determination that will withdraw us from making wrong choices. And what she schooled is always evident from her actions. Being a avid smoker and having an innate love for alcohol I always wanted her to try out smoking and drinking, to be frank she tried it just for me but she made sure she doesn't fall for it nor let me fall deeper into it. This made me love her more, a woman with strong morals and an unprecedented laxity for things that were not righteous.
And the finally the third and most important thing she brought to my life is creativity. Being a person with bugbear for creativity, wasting time was passion of my life. I used to do nothing productive in my free time; instead my free time was wasted watching TV, dining with friends or just pumping up iron at gym. I am well aware that creativity is subjective and there are people like me who are inherited with a trait of being uncreative. I never used to venture out of my fields of interest to learn something new, but that’s an old story now. She changed it all. She always made a point to tell me what she did in her free time it may be reading a book or painting walls or writing script for a play. She thought me one simple thing, it’s very stereotypical to stay in a niche carved out of our personality, and we need to get out, explore new fields as well. I know there are many things we try out of curiosity. It may be hitting gym just because our friends pump iron, but lately we realize that we are not meant for that it doesn't give us innate pleasure it’s simply a task for us and I strongly recommend leaving back such things which doesn't give us innate pleasure. But lately you will understand that just because of curiosity of trying new things, one fine day you'll find a field of interest a hobby or a sport that gives you pleasure, which gives you a way out of all the problems you faced during the day. Trying new things has other aspects as well, as we try new things we come across skill sets that may be used in time to come and more importantly you will have a topic to converse, your skill sets work as your conversation starters.
      She is the one because of whom I m refined, a man with more than a practical perspective to things, a man who can make others feel at ease. It's just to look out for, we need a change driver, that person can be anyone from our life or even a stranger who makes us think about life in a perspective unknown to us, the prospective with which we can grow as a person, nurture our talents and possibility find new things to love.