Looking Beyond the Wrapping

People always seem to be so superficial and self-limiting that they sabotage their own lives and happiness... here's what they need to know... at least in part...

The Blooming Season

 

I’ve always been fascinated by people… by the things that separate us and put us at odds. I grew up in a very conservative and narrow-minded region during a time when race, sex, faith, sexual orientation and more were the defining factors in who people were and what they did.

 

I grew up as the personal computer was just coming into existence… during the age of home video games; in fact, I still have my original Atari and all of the games. I grew up reading and loving to let my imagination roam the universe… and the video games allowed me to be the things that I could not be in the classroom nor on the fields of sports.

 

I still love video games. Some of my friends used all that time they were told they were “wasting” and turned such fanciful things into millions in income as they design the top games today, the wide plethora of simulators that train pilots and more… they taught me that the package is only a package… that the real worth is the prize inside.

 

The one thing I have found with my friends that game is that their age range is limitless. They are not defined by race, culture, sex or any other modifiers that seem so common in society.

 

In fact, what I have learned is that all people around the world simply want to live, prosper, love and laugh. Take away the governments and you will find that all people love all the same things. Though the perspectives and specifics differ, their loves in life are essentially the same.

 

One thing that interests me about dating websites is that people go there to search for what they don’t have… and yet they continue to search with the same parameters that led them to be here in the first place.

 

If you never change your approach, then your results will never change either.

 

I have to laugh when I hear people look at a couple and say, “What does he/she see in her/him???” and yet what I see are two people who are happy and not looking for love in any other places.

 

People  limit their scope… they think that such limitations will “filter” the responses and help eliminate the chafe from the wheat, so to speak… but what happens is, they put on blinders… and blinders only work if you’re a Horse who is either plowing the farm or running the Kentucky Derby. LOL  So it seems to me, in the case of PoF, that there are many horses out there fishing, which strikes me as funny… and yet, with today’s commercials, totally possible… after all, the Budweiser Clydesdales get together during every Super Bowl for their own football game! LOL

 

I’ve always kept an open mind, and in doing so, I have discovered the most wonderous things in the most unusual of times and places. I’m not talking about chemistry… that is something that you filter with later… I’m talking about opening up your mind to things you think you hate… yet have never tried.

 

One of my dislikes in life are those people who “hate” things that they have never tried. I grew up in that atmosphere… so for most of my life, I hated sushi and opera… and being a country boy, that is certainly normal one might think, and yet now, I hate myself for having wasted so many years “hating” things that I finally tried and found that I liked or loved.

 

We’re all here because we have gone through some trying times and we’re trying something different, but it can’t stop there. Everyone wants the Hope Diamond… most would not have bothered to dig in the muck and mud or bothered to wash away the crud covering it to discover the diamond inside. People are essentially lazy in most ways, though they are sure they are not. They want to use filters and they don’t want “any baggage” – to which I say, if you have no baggage, then you’ve never lived because we all have it… it’s called life experience… and what you do with that is up to you. I chose to learn and grow.

 

The tough times in life are merely a “Pruning Season” which is always followed by a “Blooming Season” – a season of tremendous growth and prosperity into new areas of our lives.

 

My advice to people here is to take off your blinders… if the person you meet can take care of themselves, and you can take care of yourself, then don’t look at your social or economic differences. Feel that person out… discover if they are hard working or just looking for a free ride.

 

I always remind people that some of the wealthiest and prosperous people in the world are very blue collar and often unnoticed. Here in Texas, we have one of the world’s greatest landscapers… why is he great? Because he loves landscaping so much that that is what he will tell you he does for a living.

 

How does that make him great? It’s makes him great because in his spare time, when he’s not working, he enjoys his other love in life… as being one of the most sought after and one of the premiere concert pianist in the world.

 

I wonder, what person here would date a landscaper? LOL

 

Many people choose to be happy. If you fail to look beyond what you think they lack, then you’ll never know what they truly have… and you will continue to look with blinders, never seeing what has been right beside you your entire life.

 

Happy fishing!

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Reviews

[Still Growing]

A wonderful story. I feel changed after my first reading, as if some of your wisdom has rubbed off on me.

[Coyote Poetry]

Poem has a lot of good wisdom. What make a man complete is his happiness. Your story was well written and told a story that should be read. A excellent story.
Coyote