International Dating 101A Story by Guys and Other DrugsHow to work the minefield that is the global dating game.Dating is a complicated dance as it is. One wrong move and
you and your date are out of sync, which can ruin the whole date. Then you have to take things to an entirely new
level when it comes to dating across country lines. At the moment I am studying
in the US which is like an entirely different planet! One thing to remember is that countries have widely varied
dating etiquette. In Scotland things are a lot more relaxed that America. You
can go on a date and see how things go; in the US it’s more like an unwritten
invitation to start a relationship. 1. It’s important to know what both parties expect from the
date. Now I’m not talking marriage and kids, I’m more saying is it casual or
are there more feelings involved. Starting on the same page can make all the
difference. For example I was asked out for a drink by a guy in my
class. I went, I got drunk, I had sex. No big deal right? Wrong, to him it was
like signing away my life. Ok so that’s a bit of an exaggeration, but he did
tell all his friends about me and proceed to ask me on 3 dates in one week. He
expected a relationship and I expected a date. 2. Probably most important to remember is that people
communicate differently. As much as this is true between people from the same
place, across boarders it’s like an emotional minefield. If you are passive
like me you aren’t going to want to tell someone who has just bought you roses
that they are bad in bed and you have no interest in being more than their
friend. The flipside of this is being prepared to be offended. Americans in
particular are A LOT more direct. You could think things are going slow and
steady and then they will hit you with a ‘So… I don’t think things are working.’
This isn’t Europe; these people are looking
for love and marriage, not casual sex and a good feeding. 3. Also you should take everything with a pinch of salt.
There are exceptions to every rule…and thank f**k for that. All people on first
dates are all guilty of painting the best picture of themself they can. It’s
natural, a shop doesn’t show its ugliest merchandise, it entices people in with
the best it has to offer. At the end of the day though, real love means that
people know your flaws and love you anyway. I think it’s naive to think that
from one date you know everything that a person is bringing to the table. As much as international dating can be daunting, it is the
same as every other date you’ve been on, if you bring yourself then it will
sink or swim but at least it will be real. © 2012 Guys and Other Drugs |
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Added on February 9, 2012 Last Updated on February 9, 2012 Tags: #dating, #love, #international, #breaking rules AuthorGuys and Other DrugsEAU CLAIRE, WIAboutWe're two friends in our early twenties writing things you'll love. more..Writing
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