we can never forget those times we should have acted and didn't....regrets are palpable.
I was just talking with someone today about that...saving a man...he was in a pit working and the side of the pit was all rock and it collapsed on this man...He had already had a heart attack before...
Two of us just jumped in and cleared the rocks away...ones we could never lift ordinarily...
but you just do what you do when you have to...
and if you don't....you regret it forever.
j.
How sad, when this happens to someone close; or even to notice it happening around you. The very last few words, about it now being the writer who "cries" could be deliberately ambiguous. Either, she now cries for her bullied friend from the past; or having since found herself a victim of bullying too..? It's possible that the person described, wasn't necessarily a direct friend. She might have been just a fellow classmate, for example? Often, bullies have some form of weakness; which they use as an excuse; to take out upon other people. They tend to be cowardly too, without even the bravery to tackle their own weakness or weaknesses. This is quite an emotional read, and perhaps brave for the writer to share; if based upon experiences upon actually having been bullied herself..? Of course, only the writer knows for sure.
You really have hit the emotion button with your words, Mari. The past can catch up with some people, not always as deeply as thought but then, age carries guilt along with many other pains. That feeling of being everyone's whipping boy... true, dear Lord, how true it can be. Strange how groups love to work together to drown a person's will. But is best to think why each involved is unable to stand alone? What is the matter with people who spend time behaving like children in the playground! Your writing has always been honest and raw - in the finest positive way. Many thanks for being you.. ..
Years have passed I think of her
I wonder how her life endured
all the pain from you and yours
…and now it’s me who cries'
Crying now is allowable.. and repentance if nothing else. A fine write.
we can never forget those times we should have acted and didn't....regrets are palpable.
I was just talking with someone today about that...saving a man...he was in a pit working and the side of the pit was all rock and it collapsed on this man...He had already had a heart attack before...
Two of us just jumped in and cleared the rocks away...ones we could never lift ordinarily...
but you just do what you do when you have to...
and if you don't....you regret it forever.
j.
These words grab me by the heart, for they are so true. They say bullies are that way because they, themselves, are bullied. Maybe that's true, but I don't think it matters when you or someone you care about is the victim. Because I was one, I always root for the underdog.
Posted 6 Months Ago
6 Months Ago
Oh, so sorry to hear, and perhaps the only thing worse is being a parent of a child who is bullied. .. read moreOh, so sorry to hear, and perhaps the only thing worse is being a parent of a child who is bullied. It's awful no matter how you look at it.
This is a very important topic you write about here. There's so much rhetoric about gun control these days. I think we would all be surprised how much better things would get if we all treated each other better. Unfortunately it's easier said than done. Thank you for this.
Posted 6 Months Ago
6 Months Ago
Thank you for your input, Jodash.
6 Months Ago
You're welcome Mari' Emeraude. Your name is so interesting.
6 Months Ago
I looked up your surname on Google. It's says it's French for Emerald?
My dad gave me advice. I had told him about how I was bullied on my little league team. He chall.. read moreMy dad gave me advice. I had told him about how I was bullied on my little league team. He challenged me to forget my fear and confront. It turned out well. He was actually a coward.
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I was bullied for a short time when I started a new school (as a lot of kids are,) but I stood up t.. read more I was bullied for a short time when I started a new school (as a lot of kids are,) but I stood up to them and they backed down. It didn't make me feel any better cuz I'm not a confrontational person. I told MY dad and he had little patience. He wanted me to just get in there and 'throw the first punch!' 'm told our 3rd(?) cousin was Jack Dempsey. Maybe that trait ran in the family! :P
I wonder do these bullies ever care to reflect. Sometimes, things are hard to swallow. And it is harder to sabotage the memories. I remember my engineering days when I too witnessed some not so good cultures. The lament and tears can be understood.
- mou
Posted 6 Months Ago
6 Months Ago
I've often wondered that too; if in their adult years they develop a sense of empathy somewhere. One.. read moreI've often wondered that too; if in their adult years they develop a sense of empathy somewhere. One can only hope.