Love Paradox

The dire paradox of something I have resorted to label as fusion.

Hm...

Take a moment to give it some thought.

I will start this off with a question: How can one love someone passionately, deeply and purely to an extent that has not yet been seen in common social environments, yet one is not "in love" with that person?

To answer that question another question needs to be asked: Do you know what love is?

Now lets stack all that up and put it aside so we can look at what comes before love.

Growing up is one of those interesting things in life, in fact, it is the most interesting. As we grow up we learn what things are, we learn what people are and then we learn who they are. Along with this we learn language, because language is the medium we use firstly to label things and make sense of them, to place them in a frame of reference relative to ourselves. Secondly we use language to communicate, bond and collaborate, to build a social network. Language is what we use as a platform and a machine to process things in life, in existence, to break everything down that we take in through our senses and produce an understandable, transferable and reproducible model of life around us. 

Since talking, writing and typing has become such a mundane task to perform and is nearly unconsciously performed many times I will move on to the next level: Observation and awareness of language.

I have now included body language in this part of the discussion. 

We as human beings originate from an existence much less civilized and much more primitive no matter how much you dislike the idea, hence our ever present sense of a need for what is known as love. Now we all know the ultimate point in love is the peak, the purpose, the revered and misused, the beautiful and abused... wait for it ... Reproduction! The act of ensuring the survival of our species. Did you really expect me to bluntly call it sex? Of course not. 

Since we have the natural tendency and inclination, even urge to reproduce programmed into us there is no need to think about anything other than which person of the opposite sex seems most fit for a partner and mother to the children you are to produce. 

All the above mentioned things have become so obscure within our own minds that we hardly realize that it is what we are truly doing at any time given the right circumstances. Fact of the matter is, that IS what is happening! That is the goal and purpose of the mechanism within you! 

With all these things in motion and working constantly through, in and on us, we transmit a signal, or many signals for that matter. These signals come in different forms and functions but they are all transmitted through body language, speech and, what I like to call "silent communication", a sort of connection made through eye contact wherein information is transfered in what could be the purest form known to us in human interaction. 

Not much happens when two people whom have found something in each other that seem fit for partnership make eye contact, not much information is shared either! What makes the difference is that when two people decide to speak to each other through their eyes the language is so rich and intense that however little comes out is so strong that not much needs to be said after all. When those two people connect, share and agree on what they have seen to be a fit, that is when and where you have, love.

Before I go too deep into any specific subject I will wrap it up and come to the point where I am able to answer the question.

This is a short but ,how should I say, crude part.

You see love is not just a class of "chemistry" between people. Love is not just there to help us reproduce, it is also not to bring beauty to life and make us feel good, even though it does that. Love is a mechanism to unsure - at least to a certain degree - that any two humans that have come together, to ultimately reproduce, will remain content with each other and stay together for as long as it takes the offspring to grow up to an independent state wherein they can continue the cycle. In that view love is like egg white, the juice a chick grows in.

Now that you have an idea of what love is in origin, lets step up and wrap it.

The analogy I have been making with language and the model we are able to create with it out of life is: when we are able to communicate our life-model with someone else and we are able to share it, that is when we have social interaction. When we find someone with the same life-model as ours - even if it is only the same in a few ways - that is when we find the gap our nature is constantly looking for. That is where our life-model is able to merge with others and cause "chemistry", that is where love lives.

Thankfully, this is not where I flick on the light and say "well in that sense you are inevitably in love with that person!"

No, in fact, this is where I propose the idea of a higher consciousness, an advanced nature with advanced tendencies and inclinations. Here we have finally come to the subject of awareness.

If you have raised your consciousness and are aware of the plain workings of nature, if you have aspired to a better human existence, then these things change a bit. A line is drawn between the reproduction love and the sharing-life-with-those-who-have-models-in-common love, and therefore one is able to love deeply and unconditionally without the troubles of getting lost within the complexities of human nature. This might seem like an excuse to love someone you really should not or have no perceived right to since this person is already "taken" by someone else, which it might be!  But in truth this is a more efficient way of going about what so many people have already been doing, but have misunderstood and made a mess of.

We have finally come to the conclusion! If this comes as a surprise to you, you should reconsider yourself... You missed it!

If you see the fullness of that which I have been trying to explain in my quest to improve my ability to communicate in this format then I congratulate you.

"Fusion" is a cleaner, clear cut and more powerful substitute to the common love that has become unnecessary, messy and disposable.

Author's Note

Enjoy the ride. Then tell me what you think

Reviews

[Paige-Louise JessicaBun..]

bloody hell.
that was a lot of information to intake in only five minutes. actually, a verry complexed amount of information to intake..well, for me.

i do understand your 'explanation' actually. i realy dont think i could have explained it in any better way myself! well done Frikkie ;)