If it sounds as if I'm pontificating, shoot me, this is a real problem in our society today with the use of date rape drugs in abundance. Ask anyone on a 'survivor' sexual assault/abuse site...e.g. 'Escaping Hades'
"Drug Facilitated Rape typically involves the use of a the "date rape drug" (Flunitraepam, Rohypnol, GHB (Liquid E or Liquid G) and/ or alcohol. It is quite common, but not limited to, many college campuses across the United States. According to recent studies, alcohol is the #1 drug used to facilitate a sexual assault. For rape which takes place on campuses, alcohol is being used in 90% of cases."
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This is so intensely powerful that it made my skin crawl while i was reading it. Your use of words drives home the utter horror that so many women have gone through. The question is when will society and our justice system start holding men accountable for violence against women?
Excellent question A.M. I have no answsers unfortunately...thanks for the support my friend.
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Neither do I :-/. You're welcome hun.
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Truth be told, most people don't want to hear about it, and there's a minority that really give a ff.. read moreTruth be told, most people don't want to hear about it, and there's a minority that really give a ff!
Frieda, your voice comes through loud and clear, at least to some of us. This is definitely a problem which receives little press. Your words hit home and hopefully open some eyes. You seem to always know how to touch a nerve and do it in such a way that makes us sit up and take notice. You are a wonderful poet and an even more wonderful human being. Nice job.
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Thanks so much Jack, I'm so pleased to hear that. At least some people understand this is a violati.. read moreThanks so much Jack, I'm so pleased to hear that. At least some people understand this is a violation & brulatity in it's lowest form, it has nothing to do with sex, it's taking of another person's dignity and essence. I appreciate your kind words truly.
"what part of NO did you adulterate"
~ well i see alcohol drives people outside their boundaries and plunge to the darker sides of lust and desire… I guess alcohol and drugs are much a-like(they can be very addicting), though we know there is quite a difference….. but still it can cloud your mind into doing something unimaginable side of your nature….
Great work my friend.
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Darker than dark Pax...thanks so much for reading this one...
Your not pontificating Fp..... you've used your strength of character to express your thoughts in this powerful poem on a subject matter that needs to be addressed. Your poem has just highlighted these atrocities, reminding us all that this is still happening out there to vulnerable women all over this world we are living in. These monsters need to be stopped.....
You've written this with conviction and empathy in your heart Fp...
POWERFUL...
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Thanks so much for your thoughts here YB, much appreciated.
One of my biggest fears with having a daughter! This world is so much more tangled with dangers. Not that we didn't have them in our generation - it is just so much more complicated and easily accessible to be in the path of a predator. Taught her how to kick a*s when she was around 11 or 12 - she's a fighter but you can't help but worry and wonder what is out there. Thanks for the post and for bringing awareness to an epidemic predatory mindset that has us all on our toes.
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Can't say that I blame you there Sera, we need to teach all our kids, sons and daughters limits and .. read moreCan't say that I blame you there Sera, we need to teach all our kids, sons and daughters limits and respect. I think it's a good thing to be 'aware' ignorance is not bliss in this case, thanks so much.
I've been involved with a few women that have survived sexual assaults. One in particular was Amanda. The night I met her she was provocatively dressed (at first I thought she was a hooker) She was funny and talkative, she gave me all the right go signals, she took me back to her place and as soon as I started escalating physically she panicked. I don't mean "Slow this rodeo down cowboy you're moving to fast" aversion, I mean stark fear panic. I was very confused by all the mixed messages so I backed off and asked her what her deal was. Turned out when she was a teenager Amanda had been abducted, severely beaten, raped and left for dead before someone found her and called the cops. I was flabbergasted with what she told me and had no clue how to react so I just sat next to her on her couch feeling like a complete idiot and held her hand. After a time I said "I guess I should be going" she was sobbing and said "please stay here with me." I felt trapped and conflicted as to what to do so I went into her bedroom with her, laid down on her bed next to her with all my cloths on, held her and went to sleep. It was still dark when I woke up so I woke her up and said I really had to go. She said "I really like you, please call me." I didn't want to call her but somehow I felt responsible for her. Not for her Rape but for her vulnerability in opening up to me about it and I felt so sorry for her. It's like Jesus, what in the hell was I supposed to say or do? I knew I couldn't make her better and she was going to be difficult but I called her anyway and we dated for 2-3 months before I just couldn't take the drama anymore. She didn't act all broken hearted or clingy when we parted ways. She was used to going through guys like gasoline. As much as I tried to understand it and empathize with her I could never imagine what it's like to have something like that happen to me. I know what terror feels like. I don't know what being helpless in the face of terror feels like and that's completely different.
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Thanks so much for sharing this with me Baby, that does sound so typical of a survivor, and you did .. read moreThanks so much for sharing this with me Baby, that does sound so typical of a survivor, and you did the right thing in that moment, the best you could do. Survivors just need a safe place and not feel threatened, you provided her with that....on the survivor site I mentioned, there's a place for secondary's who are in relationships with someone who has gone through this, that can equally as upsetting and complicated. Funny you should say 'she went thought guys like gasoline, that's a common trait, to go to extremes, it's either all or nothing...it can really ruin a person's life. Also, it's not only women, there are lots of men on who have violated, and for them it's a whole different mindset that goes along with being assaulted in this manner. Helpless is terror also...thanks again, really appreciate your thoughts here.
You really got gritty and raw in your words, but a subject like this should not be taken lightly. You certainly got across just how down right devastating this is to the victim.
Rape is a terrible thing. There is no excuse for it at all, for someone to ruin someone's life like that is terrible and absolutely heart breaking
Your poem is very raw and strong. I know your views on the subject are strong and I know how you feel, I can tell you- I feel the same.
There is no need for it at all.
i gave you my review because you shared this with me before posting, so you know how i feel about this write. but, for the sake of others i will say this again.....there is no excuse for rape, it is about control and power. an act of violence and should be punishable by castration....no exceptions. stellar write.....
This is incredible...even though it's in the victim's voice, it's hard to tell who's voice it is at some points, which makes it all the more unsettling...an overwhelmingly powerful and poetic statement.
If you want to know me, read my poetry, it's all in there. I am a mother of three sons (my finest moments) a sister, a survivor and a little bit crazy. I lost my beloved sister to suicide, so you'll.. more..