Yes, to recover from grief, we must embrace it. When I was 17, my boyfriend (on and off relationship) was killed in Viet Nam. I didn't know how to get through the grief. When I got married four years later, I began having disturbing dreams, which continued for at least a decade. My husband helped me acknowledge my grief and I allowed myself to grieve. Finally, I was well.
Posted 1 Year Ago
1 Year Ago
What an awful war it was, and you were one of the victims...
You have a very understanding hu.. read moreWhat an awful war it was, and you were one of the victims...
You have a very understanding husband to help you like that...I applaud his acknowledgment and that he helped you.
j.
The only way to deal with grief is to experience it, actually, embrace it. You said in a fistfull of words what it took me 3 pages to say. That is prosody at its finest.
A good write and a great metaphor. They say it's "healthy" to grieve. I've never had time for it. Life has always demanded my immediate attention more. I just had to get on with living. One size doesn't fit all I guess.
Posted 1 Year Ago
1 Year Ago
I have often been too busy to grieve at the moment...but eventually it catches up to us.
than.. read moreI have often been too busy to grieve at the moment...but eventually it catches up to us.
thank you, Fabian.
j.
1 Year Ago
I guess I grieve a little at a time. A steady drip as opposed to a flood of emotion. I think my sink.. read moreI guess I grieve a little at a time. A steady drip as opposed to a flood of emotion. I think my sink is probably as clogged as my arteries and I can't let it drain my energy.
It is the epic sacrifice of self for the other..
This is what I (selfish me) understood from this powerful piece
Posted 1 Year Ago
1 Year Ago
I read your poetry, W.M....
no way you are selfish...not when you can write the way you do.read moreI read your poetry, W.M....
no way you are selfish...not when you can write the way you do.
j.
Wow! A sad heart welcoming grief, out of habit perchance, or maybe so that no one else should be burdened by it.
A bit like if you usually take two sugars in your coffee, would putting in a third really matter anyway. I only say that as I just poured a coffee and forgot to put sweetener in and it's two thirds finished, and all for my inability to walk three paces to the colicky thing that must have an actual scientific name and not just the click thing.
I'm rambling again. See what no sweetener in my coffee dies to me? 😊
Master brevity at its finest Jacob. And no, I'm not talking about my review, obviously. 😊
Originally from Bronx, NY, I live in Carbondale, Illinois...teach English at a community college and have been writing and publishing poetry since 1970. I am here to read for inspiration from other po.. more..