Love languages.

Before Temilola met Ada, she had previously come across the book called "The five love languages by, Gary Chapman." At the time Temilola found the book, she didn't get the chance to actually read through but just skim. But this time, she read all through, in all but a short time because the book wasn't hers. she was gracious enough to grasp the vital information about the book.

Gary talked about the five love languages and to be honest Temilola was deeply inspired by it regardless of the fact that she had her own views/opinion about love, not withstanding, but the booked enlightened her well enough.

Well enough to admit her faults, and to forgive herself for the past mistakes she made in her previous relationship.

And also promising herself that she would be better in her next relationship.
Finding love.

Having gone through a rough time with Oke. Oke not trusting her actions.
Actions she made which were based on her beliefs regardless of the bitter circumstances and communication gap she was experiencing at that time.

The true words she told Oke and the manipulation, deceit and lies he made her believe.

Realising how hurt and and how bad the breakup was, Temilola promises herself to heal, with as much time as she can, and also try to be the better woman for "THE ONE" that would heal the wounds/scars she carries and nurtures secretly, aswell as sharing her dreams, ambitions and goals  with HIM. 

The intimacies of her life itself

Temilola meets Ada.

Act Of Service:

It was the first time they were meeting after seven years. The first was at a church event.

And since they both live miles apart, It was a  good opportunity for Temilola to finally meet Ada after the very many late-night chats and calls.

Ada wanted to fix her laptop so they both decided to visit computer village together. Since Temilola was going to inspect a car with a potential buyer and Ada was coming to check her result, at the same location where Temilola was, it was the right day and time for both of them to meet.

And they met.

They both headed to ikeja. After a couple of warm hugs and an almost kiss.  Was it a connection?.

At the back of Temilola's mind she needed to help, to assist Ada in whatever way needed. And since she knew computer village quite well. (That's because she had worked as a sales personnel at the very popular phone and accessories hub called SLOT) she had no other choice than to protect her from those miscreants "fufu phone boys" that are always lurking around looking for who to "scam"

Although ada came along with her cousin, whose more like a brother to her, one guy wasn't enough to avoid them especially with the way those boys harass women. 

"Aunty come buy phone for my hand, aunty come fix laptop hia"

Ada got some laptop accessories for herself and her mom and a phone, as a present to herself for passing her exams. Thereafter, Temilola met someone she knew who took them to get the laptop fixed. The dude was kind enough to fix it, and let them know that it was something she could do without having to come down all the way from ajah.

Without having to charge them a fee, they were both grateful for the super gesture.

As they were heading back to the car something beyond ecliptic happened.
Ada touched Temilola in an unusual place and manner. All the while Temilola was thinking of ways to maneuver and ensure that they move away from the crowded environment full of boys without getting harassed or robbed unnoticed, she felt the touch.

It wasn't something she hadn't felt or experienced in a long while, but it was a bit overwhelming for her considering the fact that that action had been done by someone she was extremely intimate with five years ago.
Someone who gave her a love scar.

It was a good sign/feeling for her to know that she was protecting someone, and that she was doing something right, that she had willingly accepted to do this little act, knowing fully well that in some cases, she won't accept the offer unless of course, there was a fee.
(Yea, your you could call her Temilola the hustler)

Still, she was doing it and she was doing it for Ada.  

There were other times when Temilola was also willing to do some other things for Ada  but she declined innocently and humanly.

Like

... when Temilola came over to see Ada, prior to the first visit,

Ada cooked fried rice and chicken and it was delicious as it was a playful request from Temilola.

Or when Temilola loved the way Ada sometimes fools around.
That use to crack the crazy out of her. As she said to Ada that  "it was the laughter that was genuine and came from her soul."

She enjoyed every moment of the laugh, of the feeling.

The easiness that come with just being around someone who's just as much as innocent you are.

It was the small glimpse light in her darkness, for her.

Now, after the good meal, Temilola offered to wash the plate but she declined as usual.
Temilola did that out of reflex or maybe courtesy but after thinking about what she did, she sort of felt stupid that she didn't control her reflexes well enough, when she said he wanted to do the dishes, she failed  to realise that this was her first time at Ada's place.

Doing that made her feel off cos she felt it's was only proper to be courteous and say thank you after the meal.

You could identify the easiness in what just happened.

she was with Ada. A woman who was binding her to her regions of intimacy,
Of bewitched her into the abyss day-dreaming instances of love


Conversation

Temilola words-
  "Ada I just want you to I understand"
"It's like my poetry. When it comes to you, I could say that inevitably, I know now, I did not fall accidentally but willing decide to fall for you out of the necessity of knowing your existence is my gravity that holds together the density of my soul perfectly"

Postlude:
An act of service is an emotional language that can be understood better by partners in a relationship or marriage. It is freely and willing offering to do something you love.
However it also doesn't necessarily have to be for someone you are emotionally connected with, but telling them how much you really care and appreciate them being in your life. And how much you're willing to be there for them especially in the most difficult and intense moment of their lives.

The importance is to show that you are  emotionally, physically, psychologically. Mentally "there" for them, and you are ready to commit, to sacrifice "you" in ways the partners/persons, will eventually appreciate.

It's a vital part of communication.
It is a love languages that's particularly not  'limited' to just partners only. Meaning that love itself is all encompassing. "Agape"

As humans, it's important to show love to those who are in need of it. This is sometimes where we tend to understand the true meaning of it.

So we don't need to limited our act of service only to someone you regard as your better half, NO.
It should be for everyone. Especially for those that are in dire need.
Let us be "committed" in the act to them.
Offer a little sacrifice for those that are in need, even if it's just a little "act of selfless service."

And Christ said:
(When I hunger you gave me to eat, when i thirst, water to drink. Now enter my Father's house. For whatsoever you do to the least of my brother, that you do to me.)

Giving of gift:
To be continued ...