Undefined Scope of Relationships

Every relation has some meaning in our life, some purpose, no matter for how long they exist in your life. Some relationships stay only till the time you can hold the sand in your hands and some relationships are meant to last forever, but each one of them are equally important to a person whether it's a small talk relationship with a friend who makes you realize how important your time is or your soul mate with whom you can spend hours talking. But isn't this true that each and every relation holds its own importance and its own value. I wonder why we generally forget that, why we start expecting too much from a relation when we know that our expectations are certainly not in the syllabus of the Book.

Why do we always try to put the burden of every relation in our life on a single relation and expect to get what we want. Have you have ever seen different types of fruit on a single Tree? No, because an Apple tree cannot give us Mangoes. That's how our relations work. You can't expect your friends to be your parents or your parents to be your friends. Your friends can try to teach you something but they will still be your friends and in the same way your parents can enjoy with you in the parties but they will be your parents. Expecting what is not promised in a relation often makes it feel like a burden which you are carrying on your shoulders and it destroys every purpose of that relationship.

It takes courage to stop at the point where you will start noticing that your relationships are getting ruined because you are putting too much burden on it, probably more than that relation had promised you. It’s not easy to kill your overthinking mind. But it’s necessary for the survival otherwise every relation you are going to have will be killed by the burden of all other small relations you want it to carry.

The problem here is simply that we all are too weak to accept the things. We often get carried away by our own desires that we stop accepting the simple fact that those around us probably start feeling the pressure of the relationship long before we start to notice it.

Acceptance does not mean that we are happy that things are the way they are. It just means we are at peace with the situation and not using our energy wishing things were different. When you argue with reality, you will lose and it is in our best interest to lean into life situations and embrace the reality of what is.

And once you start accepting the scope of every relationship in your life, you will neither be the reason of your own sorrows nor of others.

Reviews

[nauman]

I remember, when I was leaving a country for another, I was to leave behind my childhood trio of friends.
we were all perplexed knowing not at all why this was happening, and how could it be that we might never talk to each other again.
but then, the loveliest heart of them spoke to me, like she always did, and consoled me 'even if we do not have the choice of stopping or continuing our age-old friendship anymore, Nauman remember we were probably meant to last this long, and our journeys were meant to be full of colors and made beautiful by each other's presence up to this point. And beyond, the memories is what we take away."
I smiled, and we never saw each other again.

[Sachin Tomar]

Very true. Whatever you have written is true but how to define the scope of any relationship? its very hard to stop increasing your expectation when no one is doing it for you

[Deepankar]

well written under the scope of your growth in life

[Deepankar]

Karyeshu Dasi, Karaneshu Manthri;
Bhojeshu Mata, Shayaneshu Rambha;
Roopeshu lakshmi, Kshamayeshu Dharitri;
Satkarma Nari, Kuladharma Patni

Works like a servant, Advises like a minister, Feeds like a mother, makes love like a nymph, is as beautiful as Lakshmi, and forgiving like the earth.

According to me scope of wife's relation is not defined.