Escaping from the pain

Here I am alone in a mall waiting for a dear friend of mine with her favourite pineapple, listening to loud random music n writing something that I really don't know how to do. "Escaping from the pain" trust me - there is no escape from the pain a person suffers through the life whether its caused by the scars you have got while having a fight to survive or the pain and suffering of losing your closed ones or simply the pain of not having freedom to do what you desire the most. I don't know mine falls in which category. Actually in the attempt of escaping the pain I had learnt to absorb it, it goes deep within my soul and what I really need to learn now is how to close its door. Loud music to divert my mind, my work, following my passion, my awesome random get away with friends or with strangers that turn out to be good friends later on, all of these helped me to bury the pain inside me. 

There is philosophy of mine 'NEVER EVER BLAME OTHERS FOR YOUR MISERIES'. I realised this when I noticed that I cry the most when I feel helpless, when the things I want to b done depends on others. I like myself to be d reasons of my own happiness my faults, my miseries and my pain. Then there is pain of others. We as human being often have a misconception that we suffer the most. I had seen people who cant achieve their dreams or even follow them just because they are not capable of doing it physically or because of some pressure. I had known a friend who still doesn't know her husband is dead n its been 1 month. There are many more things around us but we choose to ignore them and often get lost in our troubles or the troubles of only our loved ones which also depends on situation to situation.

 I had often said I had suffered, enough to know the realities of the world. But hadn't everyone have. Everyone is looking for the same thing that I am looking for "Escape from the pain". But this is the one thing you cant escape from. You simply can deal with it absorb it and live with it. It will keep banging your doors again and again sometimes with random stupid reasons. But honestly the reasons seems so stupid to us can b a lot to take for others. You can never imagine the pain the person sitting next to had suffered, but try to see that light & that strength which covers all the life's pain and suffering in a cute innocent smile that says a lot if you just try to listen it. You can only handle the pain by burying it deep within n try to keep it there only and ignore it for a while and try to feel the happiness around you. Its hard I know but then who said life is going to be so easy. It is meant to b like this not just for me or just for you but its same for everybody else too.

Quoting the words from the book I recently read:

"Pain is a very powerful drug. It's in our daily lives, in our hidden suffering, in the sacrifices we make, blaming love for the destruction of our dreams. Pain is frightening when it shows its teal face, but it's seductive when it comes disguised as sacrifice or self-denial. Or cowardice. However much we may reject it, we human beings always find a way of being with pain, of flirting with it and making it part of our lives. True, no one wants to suffer, and yet nearly everyone seeks out pain and sacrifice, and then they feel justified, pure, deserving of the respect of their children, husbands, neighbours, God. Don't let's think about that now; all you need to know is that what makes the world go round is not the search for pleasure, but the renunciation of all that is important."

P.S. She came at last, one hour late though. But it was pleasure to watch her smile after seeing the pineapple beside me which she ate like a little squirrel.

Reviews

[Anuj Malik]

Heading well justified..!!
I would say - Pain is a state of mind.
Things leading to pain are always there in one or the another form but it's intensity is decided by our state of mind.
For eg., a small cut by a knife pains us a lott however on the other hand let's consider the scenario where a soldier is held as a prisoner of war and is being tortured. He gets hit brutually(both physically and mentally), but does that mean those cuts/hit doesn't cause him pain. It does pain him alott but are overcome by his the state of mind.
So when we are listening to loud music or getting involved with our office work, we are just fooling our mind(remember the pain is still there).

Also i would say pain given by wrong people or wrong incident should not be absorbed and rather should be immediately forgotten. It shouldn't hold importance to even waste single moment of our precious time and on the other side pain given by right people or pain received of a rightful act should be cherished and a lesson should be learnt in order to educate ourselves and others for future occurrences.

God gives us so many things to stay happy and couple of things which makes us sad too. However we tends to remember the sad ones and keep repenting and cursing about them.

As you said "life is never going to be so easy" holds valid and stands justified too. Just think if there r no pains then would we even be able to cherish/feel the happiness. God may have his point of justification that i give u pain so as you can test yourselves, improve urself, so as you get a chance to identify between a wrong or a right person.
It's god's test series to prepare us for main exam of life. "One who passes becomes a good human being".

[Chhawi]

Thanks Anuj! everything you said is justified and so true. And it indeed is test series and we all have provided the caliber to pass this test, it just depends on whether we will attempt the questions or not. :)

[Marianne Rose]

Was you speak of pain, I feel yours. I understand why you want to bury it. Many spiritual teachers have written on how to transcend pain, or understand that the world is suffering. I have always felt that pain is something that connects me with my fellow humans. If I never had pain, how could I develop the depth of compassion I have for others? I don't agree that we seek pain, instead, I believe it is part of the human condition. From the first pain of labor that brings us into the world, even the pain of shock that we are no longer in the wound, we are subject to pain. Now, I don't resist it, or merely live with it- I use it to deepen my experience of being part of the human family. Suffering is different to me- a state of the soul responding to deep spiritual experiences that confound us or confront us - but even suffering has it's place as a teacher. I really believe I could not feel the heights of joy without experiencing the depths of suffering, not once I am no longer an innocent child, in which pure joy is possible. Thank you for sharing your heart,mand for a thought-provoking read.

[Chhawi]

Thanks Marianne for your response. By seeking pain I didn't meant that we actually want to suffer, it simply means sometimes to make our dreams come true to feel the happiness, we justifies the pain we have suffered. :)