Unworthy

Not my words, but words I recognize as true

Stop telling people that no one will love them until they love themselves.  Stop planting the idea in people's brains that they are unworthy of love because of their own struggle.

Author's Note

Not my words, but when I read them, I immediately recognized the real and honest truth.

Reviews

[Samuel Dickens]

While I would never put it to someone in that way, I do believe that loving one's self is important and quite useful. If we walk around feeling like we're dirt, it will show. (Especially when hoping to find romance.) I'm no kind of expert, of course, just an introvert who suffered many years of low self-esteem.

[Carol Cashes]

So many wonderful souls, such as yours, suffered damage as children, and seem to be the ones who have to work the hardest to accept and acknowledge their worth. I'm grateful for my uneventful and normal childhood as it made it easier for me to resist adopting others' bad opinions of me. My struggles have been primarily my disappointment in others that I wanted to trust or turn to.

[Effector Prime]

Aye I can relate. Normal childhood, abnormal lessons... (sometimes subnormal) even uber normal

[Carol Cashes]

You are making me laugh...and I sure needed to today. How many prefixes are there for "normal"?

[Effector Prime]

quite some I believe... What with all our incarnations... you're cute

[Carol Cashes]

*snort* It's a new beauty regimen I like to call candlelight!

[Effector Prime]

Hahahaha! The snort gets me clean. Good on ya'

[Mirror]

Ugh!!!! And you look handsome!!! I wish i was there to tell you I am in love with you in those years of low esteem. I wouldn't have told you because I wanted you to know, but because it is... you are.

[Mirror]

Yes. I have read of these words too. But right now, reading it on your wall, I have a true picture. Love is effortless and can be given by all even when we don't give ourselves. We just need to find the right people. Besides, who can stop suicide if it is not outside love telling the inside love to wake up. Not everyone love themselves enough to live. Sometimes they need others to tell them. So, "telling people that no one will love them until they love themselves..." is untruth.

[Jon Roggie]

To the nay-sayers, I dedicate a middle finger rampant.

[Quickbeam]

Totally agree. It may be that they learn to love themselves through loving someone else.

[Stella Armour]

i think the meaning is, "Learn to love yourself first"

When you learn to love yourself , warts and all then you learn an empathy with other people, you see the good and realize that no-one is perfect.
I would never say that no-one will love you if you don't love yourself ..that is absurd

[Carol Cashes]

I agree, but we are smart women, eh? The young tend to believe what they are told if they love and trust the person telling them - whether that other person is "worthy" or not. And yes, learning to love yourself has to include your warts. Flawed strong women carry their families, their communities, and mostly themselves.

[Stella Armour]

hey do indeed, sometimes they have to..there is no choice but to get on with it. The young are very impressionable i agree.

[Jimmy Yetts]

Am only familiar with: You can't truly love someone else unless you first learn to love yourself. Do think this is true.
Agree with your assessment of the faulty philosophy cited in "Unworthy."
Excellent work, Carol!

[Sourav]

No one is unworthy it's just the perception of the society.

People will like / love you when they'll find positive vibes are with you. Whether they are going to admit or not that's another issue.

[Carol Cashes]

And some people never figure out what "love" is and mistake infatuation and lust for "love" all the time, never realizing that a person's damage can be loved, too, especially if you're not responsible for it nor are you responsible for fixing it.

[Julie McCarthy (juliesp..]

Very true
I agree
Well done

[Carol Cashes]

Wish I could take credit for these words, but I read them somewhere, and I immediately thought of all the angst and pain I've read here and just thought maybe someone might need to know this.

[Effector Prime]

Enough said!

[Carol Cashes]

Yaasssss!!!

[Effector Prime]

nailed it little miss : D hyuk hyuk!