SOMEBODY ELSE’S SOMEONE.

trying to yourself once the kids have grown and not sure what is next.

SOMEBODY ELSE’S SOMEONE.

 

I have spent my life being somebody else’s someone.  I’ve quietly settled into the background, content to sit in the shadows, watching as my family became what they were meant to be.

I have been many things a daughter, a wife, and a mother. I’ve never questioned my place in this life. I’ve stood behind my husband, shouldered the burden of raising our children, worried over the bills, and maintained our home, allowing him to focus on his career. Cheering him on as he rose up the ladder of success.

I’ve stayed home to raise my children, this was my choice, not my sacrifice. If given the opportunity to do it all over again, I wouldn’t change the course which I’ve chosen. I know in my heart it was the path I was meant to take.  Yet, somewhere in the hustle and bustle of it all, I’ve gotten lost. I look in the mirror and no longer recognize the woman staring back at me. The passages of time have left their mark, the lines on my face, a reflection of my life’s story.

I’ve come to realize that I am entering a new phase of my life. This is not a mid-life crisis, but a coming of age. It is my time to become something other than, somebody’s someone.  It is time for me to find my wings and fly. Where I am going, and how I am going get there is yet to be determined. But I am looking forward to the journey.

Reviews

[Chris Shaw]

It is your time now to pursue new ventures. You have nurtured your family, supported them and shouldered much responsibility. Maybe poetry and writing will guide you in a new direction. There is so much to choose from. You may want to try several new things. You write well about your role of a mother, wife and daughter. Good luck for the pathway ahead.

Chris

[carol]

Thank you, I've had many women tell me that this resonated with as well. It was written a few years ago, and pales in comparison to what I am facing now as a widow.

[Chris Shaw]

I am so sorry to hear that and know that you will have many hurdles to overcome in the days ahead. A loss of a husband is devastating. Take good care of yourself.

[carol]

Thank you for your kind words.

[John Alexander McFadyen]

An oft repeated story Carol. But joy now to be found in the rebirth. Me I was always known as Ann McFadyen's husband as my wife had the ability to rise up the ranks, effortlessly study a master's degree and assist me in the bringing up of two children and her step son. Needless to say we are no longer Mr and Mrs lol. Anyway an uplifting read and get out there and just do it!

[carol]

Thank You and I did, this was written a few years ago, and has resonated with a lot of women, feeling the some sense of loss.

[John Alexander McFadyen]

So what have you found?

[carol]

I found that I had the courage to start my own performing arts company for teens and about teens. I found that I can do crafts and I'm good at it. "who Knew".. My husband passed away suddenly in April, and I've found the strength to go on.

[John Alexander McFadyen]

Sorry to hear about your husband but it sounds like you have found that new you after all. Hope all goes well.

[carol]

Thank You, for your kind words