understanding love

Sometimes it is hard for me to understand love. I feel like when I love someone, nothing they can do will ever make me stop. That goes for multiple contexts. For example, with my father. This man tried to ruin me, tried to make my life his puppet show, but yet after all that pain and suffering I faced because of his control, I will always love him. That's why it hurt so much more when we stopped talking. The amount of love I felt for my father wasn’t enough for him. Another example is my relationship with my boyfriend. I love him endlessly, and I know God forbid something that made us separate, I will always hold love for him in my heart. Now, I do agree that you can fall out of love with someone, like my mom and dad. My father put her through so much pain that she fell out of love with him and was blinded by anger. The person she once loved showed their true colors, she only loved an illusion. I think the reason it’s so hard for me to understand love is because I’ve always been shown love as being transactional. I knew for my whole childhood that I had an obligation and a loyalty to love certain people, but I was taught to do certain things to get praise or “love” from people that should have shown me love unconditionally.