Chapter Nine : The TherapistA Chapter by bree.bennettOur therapist touches on the intentions of adults versus the needs of children.After
hearing about the orphans story and relationship, I came to an eye opening
conclusion. We, as a society, assume that all orphans want is a home and a
family, no matter what cause it takes to gain that home. Instead of putting
children in a home environment they would be happy with, we put them where we
think they’ll be suited best. We tear up families, friends, and futures to put
these children in “suitable homes” but, what exactly is suitable? Obviously,
when talking about suitable, we are not discussing where the child would be the
happiest. To us, Joshua and Annabelle’s suitable home would be anywhere with a
roof and safety procedures that are followed as they should be. We believe
safety, education, and a sense of authority is the key to these kid’s happiness
and future lives. To Joshua and Annabelle, a suitable home is both of them
staying together; however, we never asked the children what would make them
happy. We see them as items with an agenda, instead of beings with feelings. The
apparent fix to this solution would be to get them adopted as a pair. The only
problem with this is, the chances of a teenager getting adopted are very slim,
let alone two getting adopted. Teens in an orphanage or foster home are often
seen as troubled kids and are frequently judged for their lack of family. They
are often called delinquents and usually have a few marks on their record for
things like theft or fighting. The sad part of all of this is, their
delinquency is not their fault, but our own. It
all goes back to society not paying any attention to what the child may want.
These teens are smart enough to know that if they were to be sent to a home,
they would be separated. They are grown up enough to understand how society
works and how they will be treated. This, consequently, causes them to steal
and fight with others to obtain things like food, water, and shelter: the
necessities in life. We force them into this series of criminal like acts
because we think we know what’s best for them, when we, in turn, obviously have
no idea. This
pair has one of the strongest sibling connections I have ever seen. Through
their trials and “criminal acts”, they have formed a bond that we cannot even
begin to completely understand. I f we cannot understand the bond these two
share, then how are we to ever understand what is going to be best for them? As
adults, we jump to the conclusion of “these children are too young to
understand that we are trying to help them”; however, the real problem is we
are too old to understand that they are trying, with desperate measures, to
help themselves. They, like this pair, are going through everything and
anything to keep their happiness, because they know it can be taken away in the
blink of an eye, and we are the only ones who can take it away. That’s exactly
what we’re doing. If
these little orphans have taught me anything, it’s we should not meddle in
something we do not clearly understand. Trying to help frequently makes things
worse if you’re not willing to completely take into account the feelings of the
being you’re trying to help. © 2015 bree.bennett |
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