BAD WORDS

There are several bad words in the english language.

There are even quite a few bad phrases

You may not realize what these words are and what they mean

If you are male that is

Wow, is not used by a grown woman to express a happy sentiment

It is used to mean- wow, this person's mouth moves a lot but not much is coming out

Or wow, what an a*****e, idiot, moron, jackass, loser

Wow, is used to express oneself when you can’t believe the crap you are hearing

FIne is also another bad word.

This one in particular means the person using the word is absolutely not ok

Sometimes they are not completely sure of why they are feeling a particular way and saying “fine” is an invitation for you to press for more details

Other times it means “ you better watch it because I am getting pissed off now and you need to shut up and leave me be”

Sure is a tricky one.

Depending on the tone one uses it could mean yeah or ok or why not I had no previous plans

Or it could mean not my department, why can’t someone else whose job it is to do that sort of task do it

And my personal favorite “Sure, but only because if I do this you might shut up and I can get two minutes of peace from your blathering”

Moving onto phrases to stay away from…

“ you should smile” is most likely to win you a*****e of the year award

This comment is exceedingly unwelcome and the woman you have said this to has absolutely planned out your murder in detail- at least mentally

It may have not popped into your head that perhaps she is not having a particularly good day

Or that simply because she is a female does not mean you are welcome to her happiness any time you would like it

This also extends most truly for customer service workers-you will piss them off and you will be talked about in the back room

Trust Me

“ you’re such a nice girl don’t act that way”

This phrase is often used when a female tries to adequately express her outrage or anger over an event or thing that has occured

Particularly used by family members; this hurts our pride and demeans our intelligence

If you are trying to raise a human being- you must raise the entire person- not just the parts you can enjoy telling your friends about

I think parents and also grandparents forget that emotional development is just as important and physical or mental

Schools can teach math and say “ tell an adult” all they like but if complaints fall on deaf ears,

as they often do, then other methods will be enacted

The tragedy of this phrase is that it teaches young girls and women that it is more important to keep the social status and appearances than to actually vent their feelings and fears

This leads to eating disorders and self harm as the only way to truly express themselves

Let us feel what we are feeling and don’t dismiss us!

Trust that what we say is the truth- who would go through all of the hardship and embarrassment of having to get others involved in their issues if they could solve them themselves

“ that’s not very ladylike” is a traditional phrase going back centuries

When men take up excess space or “man-spread” it’s  just guys needing more room because they are bigger

When girls do it it somehow becomes vulgar and unattractive

Because women and supposed to be three things: silent, subservient, and small

When these “ rules “ are broken women are chastised and ostracized by the community

But women in peculiar are often loud and boisterous when they are girls

They hit puberty before boys and therefore are larger than them for a time

And most importantly are subservient to NO ONE

Have you ever fought a teenage girl on anything? She will defend her argument till her dying breath

Women are not meant to serve as though servants in some ancient king’s palace

A husband is not a king- a marriage is made of equals

If you wish to be treated like the best thing in the world than you must be the best thing in the world

You must listen to your partner and embrace all their sides- the Queen, the B***h, the Lover, and for some- the Mother

Let this piece serve as a public service announcement.

We don’t hate you- we just hate the treatment we have been taught to receive without question

So I leave you with this, dear reader,  if we blue was once considered a feminine color and pink a male color, if we all once played on the same playground and learned the same lessons in primary school, what is so magical and life altering about periods and boners that we can no longer treat each other with the respect and trust we deserve as human beings?

Author's Note

I was watching a documentary on second wave feminism and this just sort of came to me.
Also- I know my grammar may be inconsistent- I couldn't decide on a specific flow for the piece.