ExcerptA Chapter by Dick QuisThinking Anew has been called a composition book, a black book, a work book, a sketchbook, a scrapbook, and a powerful self-improvement book.Thinking Anew: Harnessing the
Power of Belief By Eugene F.
Moynihan & Richard F. Quis Introduction I help people to think anew.
My approach is unique and effective. I love being a part of a person’s healing
process, especially when a client “gets it.” Thinking Anew is a
simple process but it’s a mystery and therein lies the challenge.
Mysteries, by definition, can’t be explained. Fortunately, humans are
capable of experiencing and observing a divine event. It
takes imagination, creativity, faith, and a change in your belief system.
This is a journey to your core, your wordless center where you do
your heavy thinking. It is a place where the barrage of information we
receive daily is combined with our intellect, will, emotions, and dreams to
create the mystery of who we are. Written goal-focused therapy is about
the most powerful thing you can do to change your behavior. This document,
your Book of Intentions, will become sacred to you. You will unearth
powerful memories, dreams and desires. Be respectful of these thoughts and
don’t become afraid. Courage is an important part of this journey. The
courage to think anew, to try again and again. Remember, help often arrives
when we least expect it. So be willing to work-out by writing, writing,
writing. When you get tired, put it down. Be willing to try again
tomorrow. Your Book of Intentions is your written record of your
conversation with your inner voice, your psyche, your sixth sense, a power
greater than yourself and your soul. Any changes you make as a result of
your writings will alter who you are and how others think of you. These
changes to your operating system are permanent and best done with the help
of a good counselor, your best and oldest friend and your Higher Power.
Every change you make should be well thought out and of your
choosing. This is a learning process. What
does it mean to be human with all its strengths and weaknesses? How
do we accept that humans are predictably irrational? This is not a simple
“if all else fails, press the default button and your operating system
will roll back to the day you were created.” What you seek to learn is how
to think anew. Bring all your baggage. Few
enter this process without major issues. They are often scared, depressed and
petrified. They are at a crossroads. They are exhausted from trying to
change themselves. They know they have lost control of their lives. They
have tried everything they know, and it hasn’t worked. They have wallowed
in denial for months, even years. They are tired of being angry, depressed
and bewildered and blaming others for their actions. They know they are
isolated. They want a fresh start. If any of this is you, this book is
your gift. What is unique about this gift
is that you are giving it to yourself. You have demanded change and you
are willing to entertain new ways to make change stick. Mental health
experts like to say an addiction is broken in three or four days and it
takes twenty-one days to break a habit. I will tell you it might take
ninety days to rid yourself of negative thinking and start Thinking
Anew. These are goals. It takes however long it takes. This is not a
lot of time unless you are the one doing it. However, what you can’t
ask on this journey is when is this going to happen or how is this going
to happen. Pain Is Your Friend Think about how you got here. I
would guess not much of what used to work for you is working now and that
a new approach is needed. There is a lot of pain in your life. You have
been playing hurt, shamed or you just don’t want to do this anymore.
Perhaps some event has shaken you to your core. Fortunately, you have options.
So don’t turn away from your pain. Face it. Feel it fully. Feel it " but
don’t think about it. You’re going to be okay. It will all work out. Many
others have walked this path and have done just fine. This approach works.
It is so simple, but remember, simple is hard to execute. I guarantee if
you write for a week you’ll get an a ha! moment. The best is yet to come. What
you get out of this is the understanding, a belief that you can do
something you never thought you’d be able to do. Keep in mind, in order to start,
you need to ask and focus on these questions: • Why are you reading this book? • Why are you here? • What do you want to see
happen? • What do you expect? The Human Condition Our understanding of the world
is subjective. All that we know is partial and incomplete. Facts are hard
to come by. Everything is constantly changing, and no one knows the
future. Man has learned to do the best he can under these difficult
circumstances. It is the human condition. Therefore, we develop subjective
ways of thinking which we call perceptions, probable beliefs and emotions,
which strongly influence how we see the world. However, we must realize our
beliefs are not facts. Much research has been done that
shows half of what we think we know today will be disproved in ten years.
Folk lore, superstition, hearsay were tools our ancestors used to explain
their world. Today, we use science which is based on observation. However,
even with this base of knowledge, none of our theories are regarded as
indisputable knowledge. New observations continuously demonstrate
inadequacies in existing theories. The only thing we can be certain about
is that we will continuously discover new information that will change us. Finding and Trusting Your Higher
Power We must begin this venture by
establishing the foundation. This foundation supports the success or
failure of discovering the unbelievable power of thought, and its
influence on attracting its corresponding realities into our lives. The
mind is the builder. Thought is the parent to the deed in every aspect of
our life experiences. We truly do get what we think about, and the power
that enforces this attraction is something bigger than ourselves. I am careful here to be
inclusive. Words are powerful! Many believe that a power higher than
ourselves refers to the God of their understanding, or the God of their
religion. Sadly, for many, religious references close the door to receiving
any information, and shut down the possibility of experiencing our
creator, universal source energy, prime mover, or ultimate power. Let us begin by agreeing upon an
unbranded term, Higher Power, as being a phrase which describes a
power greater than ourselves, and move on to the application of the term
to our process. For some of us, finding a Higher Power is difficult,
almost impossible, mainly because of the power of our preconceived notions
of a religious nature, but mainly because of the dilemmas and life problems
which plague our human experience. Let’s use a neutral, pure, inclusive
and unbranded name that sufficiently identifies the cause of just how we
will believe this simple process works. Higher Power it is for my
teaching. You use your term in your writings! Now, you need to learn to trust
this Higher Power. How do we learn to trust something? Trust is built by
evidence, evidence that someone, or something will behave in a consistent
manner, in a way that “proves” we can rely upon it. In interpersonal
relationships, trust is “earned” by the consistent, supportive behavior of
one individual towards another. In a religious context, trust in one’s God
is proven by the positive results of one’s worship, rituals, petitions or
prayers. In our context, the daily
discipline of consistently writing down what is wanted, in positive
language, and in a way which focuses our thoughts each day, begins to
produce results which can be almost predicted, anticipated and relied
upon. Remember, trust influences belief, and belief responds to evidence.
Stay with this concept for now, and proceed to our next thought. You Must Turn Your Will And
Your Life Over To Your Higher Power Everyone has direct access to
their Higher Power and there are ways to activate this force. This is
about setting up the context that will allow your Higher Power to take
possession of you. Who turns their will or their life over to anyone, or
anything? As difficult as this seems, it is a critical step in producing
the belief, the motor, which drives the mechanism of manifestation in
getting what you truly want. The change in your belief about how you get
what you get, revolves around the concept that “thoughts become things,”
and that it is your Higher Power that makes it happen. Sometimes, in our past, we
wanted something badly, and we got what we wanted. At other times, we wanted
something so badly, we began to worry about NOT getting it, and, sure
enough, we did not get it! We did not realize that we had access to
something more powerful than ourselves that we could lean on to accomplish
the mission of achieving our desires. Once recognized and acknowledged,
this power becomes part of our belief system, and there are things we can
do to activate it. We also begin to trust that this power has our best
interests at heart. As with all change, time and practice produce the
trust and belief that as we think, so we are. Again, please keep
this simple. Ask for your Higher Power’s help and allow the process of
daily writing to convince you and make you a believer. The Secret Is Me…What I Am Meant
to Be The issues that brought you here
are solved. Whatever trouble and effort was needed to get you here, it was
well worth it. Listen and obey what is best in you. Challenge your
pre-conceptions. Get your ego out of this process. Do what you truly love
to do. Determine what you don’t want. The goal is to become what you
are meant to be, the vision of your Higher Power. Understand you
are unique, an attractive mystery to others. Dare to dream. Dare to
imagine. Dare to Think Anew. Use these powerful words frequently: imagine
if, maybe, just maybe, wouldn’t it be nice if. Concentrate on being
what you are meant to be. Achieve your childhood dreams. Accept that much
can be done with little. Let the details go. Remember, you are trying to
get access at a conscious level to your inventive, intuitive,
imaginative powers. Stay Out of Your Life, It’s None
of Your Business Your Higher Power is going to
give you a gift of passion to learn who you-are-meant-to-be. Understand, we
don’t MAKE anything happen, we LET IT HAPPEN! If you can accept that
statement at this stage of the process, you are already way out in front
of the pack, in producing your desired results. Most of us are action
people. We are conditioned from childhood towards competitive beliefs. Go
after what it is that you want, wrestle it to the ground, and MAKE IT
HAPPEN! Fight for what you want! Never give up! Please don’t
misunderstand. I am not advocating doing nothing. What this suggestion
means is that we put all the effort needed into identifying what it is
that we want. Visualize, fantasize, flesh it out mentally, daydream and
anticipate with great excitement. Just don’t try to make it happen! Yes, this is much easier said
than executed. Most of us will never have any trouble putting energy into
any venture, if we really want it. Many of us will experience great
difficulty in letting go. Here is where you find out how much you truly do
believe. The guidance here is: think about what you want and identify it.
Write it down each morning in the most positive manner possible. Rein in
your ego and free will. Then, allow it to happen. If you fail
to resist the temptation to leave it alone, and you set your fine hand to
it in an effort to manipulate it in the slightest way, it will most likely
fail or turn into something totally unwanted. Remember the saying: “Be
careful what you pray for?” Then you are likely to get what you think you
want! When we let go, and trust this Higher Power, and ALLOW it to happen,
it has been my experience, and also the experience of countless others I have
worked with, that amazing things happen. Most folks report outcomes better
than they, themselves, could possibly have imagined. So please trust me on
this. Stay out of your life, and what you want. Trust your Higher Power,
and LET IT HAPPEN! Most of all, accept what is but don’t be afraid to
arrange the opportunities that come to you. Eugene F. (Gene) Moynihan, Jr. is
a street-wise psychotherapist in private practice. He had the contract with the New York City
Police Department for ten years helping cops deal with the dark side of their
profession, as well as 9/11 first responders. Richard F. (Dick) Quis is a
writer, fine artist and an investment banker. After a near death experience
where Dick was asked by his surgeon to help with his survival, he became
intrigued with Gene’s uncanny ability to help people get through rough times.
He helped document Gene’s highly successful written self-improvement
methodology. Learn more by visiting www.helpthinkinganew.com. © 2013 Dick Quis |
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Added on March 7, 2013 Last Updated on March 7, 2013 Tags: Self-help, crisis therapy, writing therapy, life changes, aspirations, writing for therapy, goal setting, recovery process, addiction and recovery AuthorDick QuisAboutEugene F. (Gene) Moynihan, Jr. is a street-wise psychotherapist in private practice. He had the contract with the New York City Police Department for ten years helping cops deal with the dark side of.. more..Writing
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