Children of Divorce...Who's fault is it?

I am writing on the subject of Divorce because it seems to be so prevalant in today's society. A few suggestions to all family members who might be going through the gray days of a tragic divorce:

1. It is never the child's fault...no matter how old they are. Let them know, the choice of divorce is between the parents alone.

2. Do not make a child no matter how old, choose between the mother or the father. Let them see and speak to both anytime they want.

3. Regardless if the child of the separated parents is 5 or 25, they should not have to become messangers between the parents. Let communication situations be between the parents only ...not heart broken children.

4.  Do not think a child is not experiencing pain or does not care, their world is turned upside down and they are just as confused as the parents are.

Message to someone going through divorce NOW:

Divorce is tragic and heart breaking. You are not alone even though you feel isolated. Alot of people are dealing with the sadness and pain of this life altering tragedy. There are always people to talk to:

1. Clergy...these men are never too busy to stop and say a prayer with you

2. Family....do not make this a topic your family is afraid to talk about.

3. Friends....they want to be of service but don't know what to say....approach them and break the ice

4. Strangers....group therapy is not for the birds...it just might be helpful! Try it out.

Most of all....Do not make Suicide an option! Too many people are connected to you! They love you and want the best for you!

 

Reviews

[Barbara Walker]

Great advice that all should heed! Divorce hurts everyone and children are the innocent victims. Keep the love to them flowing!

[LSS]

Wonderful and insightful. It seems you have had to deal with, or seen the awful pain and harm that surrounds a divorce. I agree the pain of the children is the most tragic.
LSS

[alyssa]

Very well writen... i agree 100%!! my parents have been divorce since i was 1. so its good i was to little to rember.. but i wish all parents knew this.. i have friends that their parents are going through divorce and i know the feel pain but they never show it....again very good write and very true!!!

[The Rock And Roll Cowbo..]

Wow laura what a wonderful piece you have written.. I agree 100 % with everything you said especially the part bout letting the child know it isn't their fault cause so often they think it is for all the times they get into mischief... Wonderfully done.