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My dad always told me to put others in front,
He showed me how to show compassion and selflessness towards others, never giving a thought to himself when someone else was in need.
I watched him give money to the homeless, he jumped cars stranded on the highway. As a paramedic he had to give himself endlessly and it rubbed off on his daily endeavors.
He never questioned the intentions of others, no random act of kindness too small.
He's laid this foundation for me, as an adult I realize how much I am like him.
I give my love whole heartedly, and I care for others as I would want them to care for me.
Maybe this isn't something to be so proud of, I never thought of it as a negative trait.
I don't know how to NOT care about the people I love. I don't know how to back off and give space, because I was always told to lend an ear, lend a shoulder.
I always assume I'm needed, that someone could always use me.
I don't want to change that part of me, because I'm proud of the good parts my dad has passed down.

But I need to learn that people deal differently, my presence is not always needed.
I have to learn to back off when it's something I can't fix.
I'm not letting my father down, because in the end I AM helping. This is how I willI show my compassion for my love and be supportive in the way he desires me to be.
I'm sorry that it's taken me so long to see that this is what you need.

Reviews

[Samuel Dickens]

That is the way I wish we all were, and your dad should be commended for teaching it to you. It was the same in my family. Only now that I'm old and have a bad heart do I not routinely stop to help people with their cars. (Though I still help when I don't think it will harm me)

[Tumadre]

Thank you, I know I've been taken advantage sometimes because I'm so open to helping others, but I'm still living to learn.

[Samuel Dickens]

Yes, that will happen sometimes. Most are not like that, thankfully.