A tribute to my ever loving father....A Story by Arun RajThis memoir is a small and humble tribute to my father who have returned of God's lap two months back....
He wrote on his diary
He was always connected with people, and there were many to whom he was closely associated with, many of those friendships and relationships were really close to his heart. Even though we were into such a small and humble business, from the business circle and from the social life he had many friends who considered him as an important person or a special friend. When I stepped into his place now to look after the business and getting myself connected with these people in his circle of business and social phases, my pride of being his son is getting intensified. People coming to me and telling me about the help my father had done for people in need with all the emotions following in, initiatives and actions which he has taken for the development of tourist boat industry in Cochin based at Sealord Jetty from a humble beginning with just one or two boats as a simple family business, the charities he has extended in his own humble way, the lives has touched with his words and his actions. He had strong connections with the people, from officials of Cochin Port Trust to daily laborers working in those boats running in Cochin Lake. Everyone had only good words to say about him, people with whom he had small conflicts related to business also came to me and said, “your father was always right, he never cared for his individual gain but he stood and said for the rest, yes we had conflicts of interest as we were self centered in our business individually but he was always took care of whole tourist boat business fraternity with his stands”. I have noticed during my earlier visits to Sealord jetty, when it came across, he found time to talk with a small boy who was selling ground nuts in small packets, walking around the Marine Drive. Something in that boy’s story had caught him and they shared a good bonding. This boy is actually from Thirunelveli " Tamil Nadu and the boy was at his native place when my father passed away. I met him after around 20 days of his demise, and I asked him “do you know me?” He was not able to recognize me, and then I showed him my father’s picture kept in my wallet and said him I am his son. Suddenly his eyes changed with affection and he said after looking at my father’s picture, “He was a real nice person, he always had a smile for me and we talked most of the days. He used to ask me about my family and personal things. He never considered me as a simple ground nut seller, he was a father figure. I never knew that you were his son. He was a great man” Few weeks back before his demise when he was at home, on one of those occasions when his friends visited him, one of them said to my father, “there lies a lot of hard work and sacrifice from Raju for development of Cochin tourist boat industry centered at Sealord Jetty & Marine Drive, there was no jetty or anything before and there were only few boats which could be counted by fingers and it was with your efforts, the industry started to grow and develop”. But the other friend (who is actually my friend’s father) said, “Yes but it was Sakthi (my father’s immediate brother) who diverted the boat business to tourism. Even before us having the Sealord jetty, Sakthi used to sit under trees at Marine Drive to save him from the sun and the rain, he canvassed individuals, companies and tourists; that was how the industry got started”. Without wasting a second, my father extended and held the hands of his friend and said. “Yes, you are absolutely right. It was him my brother, Sakthi who started the whole thing”. He was so happy at that point of time, he really and deeply missed his two elder brothers who left him for heaven. He badly missed his father too; he always took and kept all of them in his heart. When his elder brother “Mani” passed away, in his remembrance, the name of family boat business was changed to “Mani Brothers” by my father and my his immediate brother. To pay respect to his father, he introduced a new logo for our boat, a lifebuoy with initials PVR at the centre. When there were bitter experiences, like the people whom he brought into the business had cheated or ditched him or when the people whom he had given a job and a source of income had behaved in negative ways, even though he was shaken he kept all those feelings and emotions inside and within his heart. He forgave many, even though he was deeply hurt. He believed and followed deep personal relationships which made him get emotional at times when the other person was going through a bad time, the bonding which he had with my mother’s father was a one like that, as he lost his father when he was running in his youth phase, he gave all the love and respect which he had for his father to my mother’s father. I saw his eyes getting filled and tears rolling down through the corner of his eyes, once when he heard that father-in-law had met with a household accident and injured. The legacy of temple connection started with his father and had continued through his brothers and also with him. He was always there for Ponjikkara Sree Ayyappa Temple, in the night and in the day, in the sun and in the rain, in the bad time and in the good time, when he was strong and when he was weak, when he was healthy and when he was bed ridden. Ponjikkara Sree Ayyappa Temple was always in his heart, he gave it all that he had and could spare for the temple with his energy, with his hard work and also with contributions. Even though his health was deteriorating badly for the last one year or so, he never excused himself from the responsibilities of the temple and carried out his duties and responsibilities the best way which he could. It was his words which described Almighty to me, it was through his eyes I saw the divine picture of God and it was through his sacred love I realized that “real God is real love”. He believed that God is the ultimate power which is reflected from our inner selves, he taught to make my heart as clear as I could make it, so that the reflection is more clear and perfectly visible. For the last time when he was admitted in hospital, my father was totally in a different state, he was gradually becoming stale and was suffering with slight breathing difficulties. The day before he passed away I was sitting beside him, holding his nebulizar mask in position. He didn't like the nebulizar mask placed onto his face, he was irritated, disturbed and distracted by the mask and he always tried to pull it away. Taking our turns me, mother, my sister and my uncle sat beside him holding the mask gently onto his face, placing it above his nose and mouth. At times when he amasses some level of strength he used to pull away the mask from his face. With all the love we had inside, we interrupted and stopped him whenever he pulled the nebulizar mask away and we kept it back to the position. Continuous course of injection drips was administrated for him by the Doctors, when one bottle gets empty the next one was hooked within a short interval. One of those moments, he indicated me to come closer heaving his head and neck from the pillow beneath, even though I was sitting beside him. Baffled, I moved my head over to his face and simultaneously he also raised his head and part of his upper body as much as he could from his bed, his left hand to which the drip injection tube was connected was also in a raised position. His position made me understand that I should bring my head a bit more down and I did it. Then happened something which I have never expected in his such state, I consider it as a wonder and a bliss which could ever happen in my life. Even though he was suffering with in-explainable and shrilling pain, and going through all those disturbances and difficulties, he kissed me just above my forehead. It took me few seconds to realize what my father had just done, emotions started flowing in me, that kiss on my forehead from my father is the biggest and greatest blessing which I could ever get, with that single kiss he said all those unspoken stories and advises which he had for me, he made me understand how important and valuable I am to him, he lifted me up to show his ocean of love for me. I smiled at him back and I thanked Almighty for giving such a life, and for the opportunity of being the son of such a great father. I felt the God's touch.... One thing I never realized was that, he was kissing me good-bye. Sometime later that day, he told me and my sister that he is just going somewhere. Mother, sister and me standing next to his bed, pleaded father not to say anything like that and said him we want him back for rest of our lives. For sometime at night that day and next day early morning, he breathed gently and calmly without the help support of artificial oxygen. He was given sacred water of Lord Siva temple which my sister had brought in. We were keeping an eye on his oxygen saturation level, it was OK most of time and not showed much of a dip. Later both oxygen and the nebulizer was administered back again, and there was no wrong signs or indications. By afternoon the same day my father started his journey back to God's lap, as like in most of the occasions when he was going through deep pain, he didn't let any of us know about it, he didn't utter a word or shed a tear. He just went back..... He lived for all of us - the family; he sacrificed his time for all of us, he shared his love for all of us, he prayed for all of us, he blessed all of us and he went back. He joined his father and his two elder brothers in haven, whom he must have been missing so badly..... God has been so kind to me, blessing me as my father's son and now its my time to pay the tribute, And my life is my tribute to my father.... I would like to express our sincere gratitude on behalf of my family and myself to all those kind ones who had prayed for my father and who had helped us when we were saddened by the deep grief of his separation. I would like to thank my father's friends and his business associates for their help, support and visits made to both at hospital and to our home, your visits were a great encouragement for him to get back to life. I would like to thank Doctors of Amrita Institute Of Medical Sciences who have treated my father, the staffs, brothers and nurses of Amrita Institute Of Medical Sciences, especially my friend Sarath's little sister Mrs. Sharmila, "you been a great help and you treated my father like yours". I express our heartfelt gratitude to Dr. Gangadharan, Dr. Arun Warrier and Dr. Anupama and to their team at Lakeshore Hospital, we know you did your best and your efforts helped us to get my father's time extended for few more months, so that we could add some more cherished moments in life with him. I owe my organization, my reporting officer and my colleagues for helping me with words, work support and leave days for taking care of my father. Many thanks to Private Boat Owners Association & Labour Union of Sealord Jetty and to Committee of Ponjikkara Sree Ayyappan Kovil . I sincerely thank all those who have helped me and our family with their heartfelt words of condolences. Dear relatives, my friends, my last office-colleagues, your presence and words were a big relief. I would like to present my sincere indebtedness in the pellucid form right from my heart to those friends who had stood by me sacrificing their personal matters and even job for helping me every time when my father had to be taken to and discharged from the hospital (you all cared and carried him a lot; thanks), for making many visits to the hospital and to my home. Running around and helping me days and nights during the intermittent hospital phases, at the day of his demise and also for further days of rituals, you all have been a great help as my brothers. I am not naming you all personally, I know what you people have done for me and my family..... I always owe you brothers. Achaa.... Things are not the same and right ever since you have left us, you know I am not that strong and adept to run the family. I know you had to go and I knew you will be going one day, but I never expected it to happen too soon. I was wishing and praying for few more years of happiness with you. Living in your anamnesis, we miss you and we miss everything you did. My days are not bright and nights are not colorful anymore, everything you said about life was true, slowly stepping into your shoes I now understand how much you sacrificed and how great was your hard-work. I miss you at our home, in our boats, in the temple and everywhere, evenings when I am home, at times I think “it's time for you to come back home”. Pain of missing you pierces my heart, it could be small compared to the real pain you had suffered. But I want that pain to be there inside my heart, now and forever. I miss you calling my name loudly, I miss hugging you, I miss you nagging me for real and for fun, I miss you in all the ways. Being besides your father and brothers in heaven, I pray you to guide me with your eternal love and care. I am your boy always and my life is my tribute for you..... Love © 2013 Arun RajAuthor's Note
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Added on December 11, 2013 Last Updated on December 11, 2013 AuthorArun RajCochin, IndiaAboutI am just an insane story teller... May be I should rephrase the last sentence, "I wanna be an insane story teller" more..Writing
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