the One

I am not a cynic. I am a realist. I changed the title because I think it was getting confused with the Fairy Tale Trap.

the One fairy tale.
It's a nice story --
and belongs on the
shelf with the
glass slipper
and grandma's big teeth.
there is no One.
there are many
paths we can take,
many loves who can
keep us warm at night ...
and each will find
something good
in my heart;
take what they like --
and leave the rest
for the next One.

Author's Note

"Take what you like and leave the rest" is borrowed from my
One Day at a Time Alanon book

Reviews

[redzone]

well, we certainly don't need fairy tales to find love, in fact they can become unrealistic notions that cause harm when faced with the real world... and this view of women as princesses, as needing to be rescued and put on a pedestal, of being taken care of is a cruel slap in the face as women are more than capable of doing everything... two into one always leaves someone missing... just as kissing a frog leaves you nothing but warts...

There may be many paths to take, but not all will get out of the swamp and headed to where you want to go... you may travel your whole life and never get from NYC to Seattle so if you really want to get to Seattle and not just wander around they you need to find a way from NYC to Seattle and if it is important for you to get to Seattle the direct route is the best route.. It maybe fun to just wander but in this world who really has nothing to do but wander and it doesn't matter where you end up??? So yes, be open to many new things but also dig into the reality of what it is you want in life...

Of course, these are just my thoughts as I was reading your poem KL
redzone

[Lyn Anderson]

Thank you for your thoughts. And most definitely, wandering around aimlessly thinking you will get hit over the head with it is a pretty silly notion -- chances are you already were given countless opportunities and missed "the One" because you had a certain expectation it would happen a certain way.

[barleygirl]

Some people need firm beliefs to comfort them. I think you & I are similar in preferring to entertain all life's possibilities with equal interest. "The One" could be a loved one or a spiritual entity. The reason I don't hold firm to beliefs is that, at my age, I've seen that our understandings of life constantly evolve. I like your poetic suggestion that we open up to the unknowns, instead of clinging to comforting knowns.

[Lyn Anderson]

Yes, I agree, I do believe you and I are similar, and instead of becoming entrenched in the knowns, our hearts and minds expand with experience. Setting yourself up to believe there is only One true path for you is a recipe for leaving good things to wither while you search for something better. :)

[Nisreen]

I guess this would be a rather practical way of approaching love

but i still believe in the one
i am not that shelf up there lol

dont dust me away

nice one

[Lyn Anderson]

The One is the One you decide it is. :)

[Jon Roggie]

Brutal honesty. I expect nothing less from you.

[Lyn Anderson]

Thanks, I take that as a compliment. If you spend your life thinking you will stumble across "the One" you are likely going to be lonely a long time.

[Matching Socks]

You're probably right about that. I have to admit I'm stupid about love.
The whole fairy tale thing. Maybe a little less so now that I've experienced disappointments.
But still... I guess I've watched too many romance movies and have unrealistic expectations. Because I haven't really been 'romanced' in a while.

[Lyn Anderson]

I thank you. The thing is, love can be love, without all the fairy tale trappings. We can find love with more than one person. We can fall in or out of love depending on many many things. My own experience makes me mistrust the fairy tale - every time I had that, it was a lie. Grand gestures that in retrospect stung all the worse because the relationship was false.

[Matching Socks]

Yes, I agree, to me 'romance' is about the little things.
A song, a dance, an unexpected kiss. I don't expect flowers or candlit dinners or anything grand.
Fairy tale trappings... Now there's a poem that could be a funny one. :)

[Lyn Anderson]

Hey, off topic -- this "Found Poetry" crap they started teaching the kids in school. Talk about mixed messages -- don't plagiarize, but ... Anyway, I told the teacher my kids can write their own poetry.