what colour would it be?

a drastically overblown misinterpretation. because men and women really reside on different planets, and I am somewhere in between.

what's up darlin?
what'd you think I'd do?
Call a decorator
when you're out of town?
hire a preacher
to take you down?
slap that ring on
while we linger,
accost your poor
unsuspecting finger?
same old been there done that?
what makes you think I want all that?
not saying never,
but, damn baby,
"forever is a mighty long time"*
I just want a little company
it's very far from here to there
and where we might someday be.
besides, what the hell would I wear
for dress number three?

Author's Note

* Prince - "Let's Go Crazy"
I should have been a man I think. But I love being a woman.
Just hate being misinterpreted because of my gender.

Reviews

[Lorry]

Open and honest words. I think the wariness of third time forever is wise, when you so eloquently say that forever is a long time and let's just go for now. A little company is good :)

[Lyn Anderson]

Thanks. It's funny, even the smartest man still thinks that's all a woman wants.

[Lorry]

But even the smartest man has to keep up the pretence of not being a dumbasss, which is an awful lot of work for me, I mean them. :)

[barleygirl]

This little rant is a nice balance between being elusive, yet also revealing enuf details to help us guess what's up with the message. Never having been married for almost-60 years, I can relate to quite a bit of this, and yet, I can't relate at all to it, at the same time! I love contrasts like that. Good job crafting this enigmatic revelation.

[Lyn Anderson]

ha ha thank you. I had fun writing it. And the recipient had a chuckle too. One of these days he'll believe there's no underlying motives ...:)

[Einstein Noodle]

blue jeans and T shirts ma'am! :) ... i like the way you raise this marvelous question and discussion .. using all those ?s worked well says i! i like the short chopping lines (like fighters use when on the inside) i believe the significance of saying "i do" needs only that ...i do love you ..i do not intend to desert you in bad or troubled times ...but the reality of relationships ending can not be denied ... and the only forever we have in anything is the "now" ... finding a focus in the "now" that brings gratitude and humility and stronger selflessness can go a long way in our lives ... love your poem .. especially enjoy the sarcasm in the closing two lines ..be "now" my friend!! :)
E.

[Lyn Anderson]

Thank you, yes, I had fun writing it, and sending it to my adorable angst ridden partner/boyfriend, whatever you want to call him -- I have had the labels, the paperwork the ring -- I am not ready for all that again, if ever. But sometimes, a little thing to one person seems like a huge thing to another, depending on their life experience that is -- blame the previous gold digging, manipulating, trapping women for that -- and the buddies, I am sure, who just can't believe he's got it as good as he has ... and me, I am just happy to have someone who only mildly perturbs me every 6 or so months, and we iron it out.

[Einstein Noodle]

ahahaha ..myself and Norma will not "do the right thing" either ..we are too old and the USA tax man complicates lives joined in such a way ... for some who are in the middle brackets .. we are quite content and with each other ;)

[V]

"I just want little company" Amen to that. Some men just want or read too much into relationships or actions, words etc. I've frequently experienced this...unnerving attitude at times...

[Lyn Anderson]

Thank the women who went before you for that little bit of drama -- and our crazy society that still thinks that is what all women want. My clock ticked, I had two kids. I have been married twice, and no intentions of jumping back into that particular pool, no matter how much I love the man. My children first, and play second. Anything else is too far down the road for me to contemplate.

[V]

That's a good way of thinking.
Sadly, still nowadays I'm surrounded by people who think marrying and having a family belongs to a normal way of living. Not for me...I don't intend to have any of that..

[Lyn Anderson]

Normal is highly overrated and deeply confused.:)

[V]

Yes abs. I'm glad I'm not and I don't want to be or have any kind of it ^^

[Matching Socks]

I guess guys spook easy but to be fair, A LOT of women want this. Communication is good, understanding...
I've had the ring, what I need is love. That doesn't come with a ring. live and learn...

[Lyn Anderson]

Oh, I agree. When a man has experienced the "where is this going" talk one too many times, he tends to look for things that are "warnings" -- they just don't apply to me. Love is love. It doesn't have to come with a rule book or strings.

[jacob erin-cilberto]

um yes, on this...third time wasn't a charm, a 4th would be severe harm, so i am content just to spend some time...Awhile sounds good at this point.

[Lyn Anderson]

Can I get an amen to that! Whew. Hard to explain to a man, who is used to dealing with a certain type of woman, that you really aren't that type.:)

[The Rock And Roll Cowbo..]

I was thinking of Toby Keith's song "I'm Just Talking Bout" as I read this... tis tough when one want more than the other in a relationship...a hilarious take on the situation.

[Lyn Anderson]

Well in this case, he just imagines that's what I might want ...:)

[redzone]

Mars and Venus... different worlds... that's too easy an explanation for what goes on between women and men KL... I know it may not seem like a good things most times, but that we live on the same planet makes it possible to actually communicate and too get things right... and believe me, you do not ever want to wish you were a man or to develop the attitudes of a man as it is pretty stupid down here most times... lol

so "darlin' " all I got to say is I got what I expected.. another wonderful poem from KL, may she always love being a woman and getting the lovin' she deserves... now that would be a great color...

redzone

[Lyn Anderson]

Here's what I mean by that. I am too experienced in practical terms with relationships to read much into little things that couples do ... whereas an inexperienced man, used to women who do things subtly, and use little "cues" to make them assume a man is leading them to the altar, may read much more into a little action than was intended. I don't think like those women. I am not in any rush to do anything other than enjoy life -- I don't need rings or strings, or pieces of paper -- been down that road a couple of times already, thanks.:)

[redzone]

good for you KL, I did understand mostly what you intended.. I too do not appreciate the "subtle things" and would much more relish the straight up and open... besides a ring or paper hids a lot of abuse and torment and says nothing really about love and mutual respect... and historically has meant and still does reflect "ownership" in some form or another, and this is true even by those who want things differently... sorry, what I am trying to say is I think you are right KL...

[Bacchus]

best to be honest...
just wanting company-
color, sounds like you don't need to think about it yet-
but clever line :)

[Lyn Anderson]

Absolutely. Some people take themselves a little too seriously, and read things into things where there isn't anything to read.

[Pryde Foltz]

it's very far from here to there
and where we might someday be.
besides, what the hell would I wear
for dress number three?

Just one under my belt. You brought a smile to face with this write, KL. Thank you:)

[Lyn Anderson]

Thanks. We have to laugh at ourselves. And realizing, we all come from very different places in life. Someone who has had a few (too many) serious relationships tends not to take certain "steps" in a relationship as leading anywhere in particular, whereas another, less seasoned farmhand might take certain things a little too dramatically.:)

[Pryde Foltz]

For me it is about a good night sleep and an even better cup of coffee. Wishing you the same:)