the ugly parts of me and you

on conversations with Noel

for a while I wrestled
with who we are.
but really,
that was just me listening
to what society
expects of you and me.

if it's "going somewhere"
we must amalgamate
assimilate,
conjugate
our socks and bills
and dishes and dreams

but what if the somewhere it's going
is where it has already been --

and both of us are happy
just the way we are.

it isn't that we've
seen the others' uglies --

but by living apart
and being together,
we're never
in a place where
life's every day supplants
the us we choose to be.

Author's Note

Reviews

[Lydia Shutter]

Society expects certain things of a couple, but there is no reason why you can't relate the way that makes you comfortable. Knowing what is best for you is the key to happiness if you ask me. Good write. Lydi**

[Lyn Anderson]

Thank you very much, and yes, I think so too.:)

[A hare off]

if it works, if it feels good and if it makes you happy, then why not. Sounds like a good relationship to me.

[Lyn Anderson]

yes, I think so too. It took me a bit to shrug off other people's expectations of what they believe I need after coming out of a bad relationship.

[A hare off]

Everyone has an opinion. Some mean well, some just like to hear themselves talk.

[Coyote Poetry]

The life circles we do run.
"but what if the somewhere it's going
is where it has already been --"
Life teaches us many things. One is. We like repetition. It is safe ground. I liked your thoughts and places you took me dear poet. Thank you for sharing the excellent poetry.
Coyote

[Lyn Anderson]

Thank you for your thoughts. I appreciate the reviews.

[Coyote Poetry]

Always my pleasure dear friend and you are welcome.

[jacob erin-cilberto]

nothing like being who we are and being happy with that...

loving the place that is us...and not listening to others who say we should be somewhere else or with someone else instead.

insightful words...
j.

[Lyn Anderson]

Thank you, yes, it's hard sometimes to listen to your own heart, when everyone is trying to insert their opinions.

[Einstein Noodle]

stimulating thoughts ... hmmmmmmmmmmm the closing is terrific says i! we do have a great deal of power in choice ... and external forces can not be ignored .. but the question that remains for me is .... the choice of the me (let alone an amalgamation of us) is it the real me? perhaps thats when the external really kicks in and lets us know ;} ... what a life! ... i would never be young again :))) all those self struggles and issues ... very thought provoking KL .. your style and thought evident ...i believe that the coming together and separating is as natural as ebb and flow in a good healthy relationship! but thats just me ;)
E.

[Lyn Anderson]

We have never separated. We have chosen to live separate -- don't know that I would want to live with someone, other than my kids and dog that is, again.

[Einstein Noodle]

i hear you! peace and joy KL ...there is a difference isn't there ..between living separate and being separated ...that kind of unity found in the John Travolta movie "Phenomenon" love that movie...especially when he realizes how the trees are connected and communicating with one another through their root systems all around the globe ... Einsteins time and space continuum ;)

[Lyn Anderson]

Thanks for your thoughts. I have been in a bit of a funk. Mustering the necessary brain cells to write intelligent reviews is tough at the moment.

[Einstein Noodle]

have a big hug on me! :))) just for the joy of it! :)))

[Lyn Anderson]

xxxxxooooo

[highonwords]

this one made me really think, kl, an open relationship without the usual attachments that might complicate it - made me think hard - bypassing somehow societal expectations on what is proper in a relationship - and being in a relationship that works for you, not necessarily what works for everyone

steph

[Lyn Anderson]

Thank you, yes. That is exactly it. Been there, done that, more than once with the traditional expectations -- and now that I am truly content, ignoring the expectations that I require something MORE ... imagine, a relationship in which two people come together for all the fun and none of the fuss -- help each other through because they want to, and not because they have to ... and people questioning why we don't want to change it ...

[highonwords]

you're welcome, my best to you, steph