think like a man

something someone said to me.

"You think like a man,"
he said to her,
like it was some kind
of compliment.

He isn't the first to have said it, either.

She doesn't want a ring,
she just needs to hold you
for a little while.

She doesn't need to be
the centre of everything,
just the corner of your smile.

Often others
don't relate,
think she is cold
and calculating

and maybe, just maybe, she is ...

just how many
she could
keep dating --
thinking like a man.

Author's Note

Reviews

[Baby Ricochet]

It's long been thought the highest developed psyche is androgynous. So if we're evolved (that would be the hard part) we'd be both masculine and feminine. I think I gotta work on that

[Lyn Anderson]

Yeah, you and me both. LOL.:)

[Fran Marie]

We women have always been looked upon as emotional warm and nurturing..so yes I would say we can be logical cold and calculating also...and think like a man..neat write

[Lyn Anderson]

Thank you, I appreciate it. A lot of people took it to the extreme feminist point with this one. I really intended it more or less as you interpreted. Thanks.

[icelandicblue]

Great ending. There is still that mad men mentality around but I do hope that it is changing. Remember the old insult, "You throw like a girl," and I was the pitcher for my varsity softball team! It's a mixed up world indeed.

[Lyn Anderson]

If we all could learn to take a little of everyone it would be a better world indeed.

[icelandicblue]

I could not agree more. Our brains might be hardwired a bit differently but it does not mean our thinking must be hardwired so that we can't each learn from the other.

[therisa]

Sigh, must gotten the wrong interoffice memo, KL, about male thinking. Before I came out, from the Trans closet, have been accused of acting, like a woman, with my emotional display. I know, they weren't saying this, in a positive way, towards me. And yeah, it does hurt.

[Lyn Anderson]

Yes, well, in my case it was really meant as a compliment, but I like the discussion that has ensued. Thank you.

[therisa]

Your welcome, KL. It's something that needs to be aired and shared.

[AprilRN1210]

Men think????... damn I missed that newsflash.. when did that happen?... love pretty reckless by the way.. oh yea.. I have been accused of the same thing.. why do they label it cold and calculating?...

[Lyn Anderson]

Who the heck knows, perhaps we should all take a little of each.

[Matching Socks]

I'm so with MommaZ on this. I don't know why it's delivered as a compliment...
We're all the same, we have the same needs and desires. It all just boils down to timing.

[Lyn Anderson]

I always consider the source and the intention, and I just think we all need to realize the best people are balanced, not skewed either way.

[Matching Socks]

That's truth right there...

[MomzillaNC]

Y'know, I had someone say that to me once, smiling. I wanted to wipe that smile off his face with a brick. When I was still working, men thought that was the highest compliment they could pay a career woman. I always found it demeaning and insulting to our entire gender!

[Lyn Anderson]

It is a double edged sword. Strong, confident, no nonsense, all the sudden means not feminine. Both genders, if we are lucky, carry the best of both traits.

[MomzillaNC]

I totally agree.

[Rene Salinas]

Everytime someone posts a song from this band I remember actually semi - liying to the diehards as I wanted to go and see her so pretended to be there but not intentionally so to speak....
I think the modern times has opened a door to the concept of the Alpha female if I am not mistaken within that context "cold" thinking or closely related to unemotional is part of the traits to be developed. When it comes to relationships then of course they're the Dominants simple as that so it seems to narrow their possibilities somewhat. Steretypes will do that I guess.

Great subject

Thankyou

[Lyn Anderson]

Thank you. Pretty Reckless rocks, in my opinion. She's come a long way from Cindy Lou Who.

[John Alexander McFadyen]

An ex girlfriend of mine used younger men for years. She would date two-three a week although she did not sleep with most of them. When men do it they get away with it, when women do it they are 's***s', hardly equality.

[Lyn Anderson]

Yes, most certainly. I thing our gender bias is borne of thousands of years of nurture and nature not to be transformed overnight.

[Delmar Cooper]

I enjoyed this poem, I enjoy most of your work. This poem could be larger. It could be more encompassing, less self limited. As always, your choice. Just sayin', you know?

[Lyn Anderson]

It'll probably take a month or two to wrap my head around that. I write them as they come it. It is an entirely unsophisticated ungraceful thwap onto paper.

[Delmar Cooper]

A month or two well spent.