Marriage

Just a little rant I guess... I reposted again to capture some great reviews.

Marriage should be a partnership I think.

 

It’s okay to have a designated leader in the marriage, an alpha, usually the male. That’s fine.

But still it should be a partnership where both parties have equal input and both opinions have equal importance. And the alpha decides unilaterally only when the other partner, the beta, doesn’t have a strong opinion. Or the decision, whatever it happens to be, doesn’t affect both. 

 

I know different cultures have different views about this. I guess that’s okay too.

But what really troubles me, whatever the culture, is when the female is treated like property. And when the male calls the shots about everything. The when, the where, and the how. The time, the place, and “the schedule”, for everything in the marriage. That really grieves me.

That’s how it was with my parents. I watched that for too many years. And I’ll never forget my mom’s frequent black eyes from “falling down”. I guess dad expected us to believe that. That’s one thing I’ll always remember about him. That’s his legacy.

 

I’ve always had great respect for women and I think they have the most difficult roles in the marriage. They are expected to keep up the house, bear and raise the children, prepare the meals, clean the kitchen, do the laundry, etc., etc., etc.

All this in addition to their career or their job outside the home that is almost essential in today’s expensive world. And all the man is expected to do is keep the oil changed in the car, watch football, and announce when he’s ready for... well, you get the idea.

 

Now I know some you guys are asking “so where’s the problem?”

 

For me the problem is that often the family dog is treated better than the wife. That drives me nuts! Women are absolutely the coolest thing God created. They are His masterpiece!

They are typically smarter, more patient, more understanding, more compassionate, and better educated. Oh, and they are usually drop-dead gorgeous and smell better as well.

 

I’m not saying men should cower behind the skirts of their wives and cater to their every whim. I’m just saying that life is just too short to not realize the amazing value of women. Their strength and intelligence is under-appreciated and most men need to get a clue.

 

If she wants to be beta in terms of the marriage then that’s great. But she is not property, or an indentured servant. She is strong and powerful and delicate and fragile and giving and needing all at the same time. She is all of that, and so much beyond that.

Men need to realize what God has given them in their wife.

 

 

Men need to treasure the perfect creature standing at their side!

Reviews

[MARIA STRELLA SAMUEL]

YES, its true. I beleve that a man who loves God knows to love his creation too. But in our time since people no more believe in God and so they end up messing their and their partners life too. its in such in marriages where " sacrament becomes suicide".
Very nice and expressive piece Ak.

[Sensual Lilac]

More men need to read this...it is indeed a partnership...two together along the same road.

Beautifully expressed...

[Argentina]

Wow! I couldn't have said it better myself, even if I tried.

For me the problem is that often the family dog is treated better than the wife.

I would have to agree with this statement, since I was in a similar situation. Seem like no matter how hard the wife tries, its never enough for the husband.

But she is not property, or an indentured servant.

Thats right, and don't you forget it, Men!

She is strong and powerful and delicate and fragile and giving and needing, all at the same time. She is all of that, and so much beyond that.

Wonderful write, so true, and then some.

Argentina

[J]

Ohmygosh, you make me weep. And i'm thinkin, "in a perfect world," ya? I'm sorry for the example you were given ......... and I know you knew it was all wrong, but I also know you had to "learn" how to love and "do" relationships. Such a painful road, dear d. I love this "not quite a rant." Most unexpected from you ....... a bit of personal disclosure used in a positive manner that underscores your golden position statement. Keep it coming ..... this heart of you. I am honoured to call you my friend.

Beyond!
j