Todays Woman.....Exposed, Part 1

My first attempt at writing what I think about some issues that many new couples face in relationships.

"I trust you but I don’t trust her."

 

Men, how many times have you heard these words uttered by your oh-so-trusting girlfriend/wife? Once, twice? Consider yourself lucky! However this article is not written to debate the validity of the above statement, but rather to discuss the honesty of it. Yep, you heard that right, honesty. Lets start by rephrasing the sentence in a way that puts it into context.

 

"I trust you to not do anything sexual, but I don’t trust her to keep her hands to herself."

 

Using plain simple logic, lets examine that statement. "I trust you to not do anything sexual." Well there we go! Case closed! If she trusts him, then what does it matter what the other woman does? Your woman trusts you to keep your dick in your pants and your hands to yourself. That should be the end of it, but nope. Our typical female is not quite done yet. Let’s keep reading...

 

"But I don’t trust her to keep her hands to herself."

 

O....k.... I ask you women, when did this other woman ever ask for your trust, let alone promise to not be a man stealer around your boyfriend/husband? Mmm...just a shot in the dark here but I’m guessing....NEVER! Therefore why are you worrying about trusting, or not trusting, someone who never asked for your trust to begin with? Oh I know! Because what you meant to say was, "I don’t believe that she will respect the fact that you are mine/taken." There, now that’s what you really meant isn’t it. Well congratulations men, you are now possessions! Lets have a round of applause for the men who were once love’s of your lives, ladies, but are now demoted to your possessions. Oh wait, I’m not done yet. Lets go back and grab our new understanding of the phrase that started all this...

 

"I trust you to keep your dick in your pants and your hands to yourself, but I don’t believe that she will respect the fact that you are mine/taken."

 

Ok women, lets play this out...

 

Your hubby walks into a bar, orders a drink and sits down, wedding band in full view. A busty, blonde with blue eyes sits down next to him and starts to chat. Soon she moves her hand to his inner thigh. Ok, freeze that moment in your mind. You’re right! She ignored the fact that he’s taken, but that’s ok cause you "trust" him. Therefore, lets press play again...

 

Your hubby reaches down, takes her hand and moves it back to her own leg, gets up, says his polite nice to meet you and good byes, and walks away. Well there you have it, your trust in him proved well founded.

 

Now comes the moment of truth women. If you honestly trust your man to NOT do anything sexual if given the offer, why ask him to not hang out with so and so? Or, ladies, is it really that you don’t trust him but are too dishonest to tell him so? Hmm.... ok last question...if you honestly don’t trust your man to be faithful when given an offer of sex, WHY the hell are you with him?! What would cause you to lie to hide the fact that you don’t trust your man and/or stay with someone that you feel you couldn’t trust?! Where is your self-respect?! Gone the way of the Dodo it has.

 

All in all it boils down to this. Men, if your woman trusted you to not take so and so up on an offer of sex, she wouldn’t ask you to stop associating with them. However, if you’ve had a sexual relationship with so and so before, then yeah, sorry, you’re gonna have to keep your distance until your girlfriend/wife truly believes that you won’t go back for a little fun now and then.

 

For the women out there, be honest. You’re more likely to get him to distance himself from so and so if you tell him that you’re not sure you can trust him yet. We all know you want to trust him or you wouldn’t be with him, but if he really loves you and wants your trust he will be understanding of how you feel and take your feelings into consideration. That’s what a good guy does, and as long as you’re a good woman, that’s what you deserve. Treat him with respect and honesty, and if he doesn’t do the same for you, leave him cause you deserve better. Plain and simple.

Author's Note

The scenarios presented in this piece are quite common, though, as with people, there are exceptions to the rule.

Reviews

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Ugh! Trust is so sticky these days. I've been shocked by people that I think are amazing and should be idolized. I honestly think that with all the horrible things that happen in this world, trusting someone 100% is pretty much impossible, especially when it comes to trusting someone with your heart. It is a rare person that completely respects other people and wouldn't take the chance no matter the circumstances.

I enjoyed reading this, though! This style of writing reminds me of a blog I used to write. Thanks for sharing your thoughts on this subject. :)

[JC]

I love the sarcasm," in your face", tone, that you used. Women think that if they send subliminal messages to their male counterparts, they will automatically do what we want without actually saying it, which of course never works.

Using plain simple logic...I love that line! When have we (women) ever used simple logic when is comes to affairs of the heart. Kept me smiling the whole way through, kudos on a great write.

[Erotic Goddess]

I loved this. Those are words I have never said, not once, to a single man in my life. Because I do trust, and that is something that is plain and simple, unless that trust is broken. If that happens, then I am quite honest about not trusting the other and that is where a strong look must be taken at the relationship and to decide if it is worth the work that it takes to rebuild that trust. I think this is one of the best pieces that I have read in a long time, thank you for sharing this.

~Goddess

[Brentley]

Well, that was very interesting. It made a lot of sense too. I think men(myself included) have taken that as an insult to ourselves, with all good reason. You made sense to a very confusing subject. Way to go!

[Nicole (Carpe Diem)]

loved this... great job!