WHAT I ORDERED VS WHAT I GOT

A common Fluff seen in marriages and relationships.

The sound of the R&B music playing on his Stereo at the waiting room had swallowed all of his attention, not until he was startled by a loud bang on the door. Edward jumped out of the couch were he laid frowing his face and charging to the door like an angry Leopard about to
pounce on it's prey.

Only to get the door and found out that it was Peggy his wife, "Did you want to keep me outside by this time of the night?". She had asked, Edward stared at her with disgusting awe. " Where are you coming from by this time of the night?". With an irky sigh and a look of disdain she brushed past him into the house.

Shaking his head in utter frustration, Edward was fed up, he wandered if she had gone to the clubhouse again to drink. Clumsily he walked back into the waiting room, sunked himself into the couch. Reached for his phone on the sofa, click a dial "Hello! Edward Johnson..." It was a female voice from the other end, "Hi Kim... uhhm.. I trust you are holding up good...?

"Yeah I am, how about you, Mr Johnson..?. There was Dead silence on the phone line. "Hello! HELLO! Edward are you there?".. by this time he was sobbing really embarrassingly. " Edwards, what's up..? You can talk to me.. what is the matter? Did you guys get into a fight again?" After another few seconds of little sobs, he regained his composure. " Kim I am in a deep mess." He continued, " Dr Kimberly, what I ordered isn't what I got. Dr Kimberly is his therapist from Washington DC.

She understood that he was talking about his staggering marriage with Peggy. This is their third year as couples. Peggy was a beautiful young lady he had met at his internship at the College Secretariat. He was head over heels for her at the time for her comeliness, intelligence and peaceful demeanor. Unknown to him she was a stripper at the City clubhouse.

His friends had intimated him and discouraged him about having an affair with Peggy. He had told them to let him be. And believed he had the ability to handle her. Right now on the phone with Dr Kimberly all those moments flashed through his face like a soap advert on TV. Edwards was in his mid thirties and Peggy in her late twenties.

He continued " Kim, I thought I married an angel, but what I am seeing here is a refined demon. This marriage is turning into a nightmare every day. Dr Kim... I am fed up already. Every thing is shattering and boring". Edward lamented amidst sobs. Dr Kimberly responded with a deep breath " hmmm, Mr Johnson, I need you to listen to me calmly please. I sincerely apologize for any emotional trauma and triggers all this has caused".

He listens to her now a bit calmly, "You see, there are four stages in every relationship that you ought to know before jumping into it. Marriage is a journey, and this journey is divided into 3 stages. The fantasy stage, reality stage and the Post reality stage. Each of this stage comes with their ups and downs moments". "Shhhhfff" Edward sniffed from the other end. She apologized once more and continued.


The fantasy stage comes before marriage, it is the most beautiful stage, this is where you both acted as angels. You fantasized about life together, traveling together, going on vacations together, making babies together.
And everything else you will want to be doing together, including your genital meetings in the other room. And it is sad to say that, everything you think you know about your partner at this stage is shallow.

"Edwards I trust you are with me?" "Oh Yes I am" She asked to be sure if he is still on the line. "This stage is often littered with emotional feelings, even when someone gives you a caution about your partner, you will hate them. Because at this point, your thinking faculty has gone on a vacation to the Bahamas. Edward was stunned, because she just described him. He let out a sigh of regret.


Dr Kimberly continued sensing his attentiveness, " You now ride without thinking on the wing's of emotional feelings into marriage. Now, you enter and meet face to face with the second stage called "REALITY". This is the stage that baptizes your fantasies in the pool of reality. It cuts down those emotional wings you rode on into marriage. It coronates you with a thinking hat. Which you lost in your fantasy Land. By this time Edward was shaking his head in regrets and letting out sighs intermittently.


"You see Edward, this stage is unfriendly, and everything you do and say in this stage, will not only affect you and your partner alone but down to your children. It could alter the destiny of your innocent children for better or for worse. I believe this is the stage you are right now. Now you will cherish your thinking hat, you are seeking for advice and help now, applaudable it is, I must say!. Dr Kimberly exclaim.

"Dr Kimberly", Edward called out now very meekly, you could decode it from his voice.
" What should I do now please?, I got the opposite of what i married. This cannot be the woman I married" he cried out. "Mr Johnson Edward, your partner did not changed overnight, it was your eyes that is beginning to open now. So, to go into the third stage of Post Reality, is to face your reality now. Confront it by introspection, have the commitment to think,say and do better. If you are courageous to do it. You will have a happy outcome.

"Mr Johnson, the sound of the post Reality stage is sweet to the ears of those who confronted it. But a lamentation to those who faked it and ran away from their reality stage. This is why, the wisest people face reality before marriage. While the fools hold onto their fantasie, even when they flew into the reality stage. Be Wise Edwards. Go fix what you got!"

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