Little known fact bout life part one=]

What does innocence mean to you?

Some people will say to that its a child that every child has innocence which in its own way is true, but what about those children who have accidents happen when they are children the ones who are just a small child not knowing any better who have accidently killed thier older brother because the parents kept a gun in the house under the bed did that small child lose his innocence that night or does he still keep it?

Some other people would say innocence is your virginity, Now this is a huge one espcially to girls i only know because of my own personal exerience, We always tell ourselves that through our life we are not going to have sex till we are married but then once our body matures and the guys are going through puberty we start dating and think we are in love with them after 2 weeks but in reality its all the motions going by fast and we just want to be loved by another person  and believe that we really are wanted but in reality we are not the ones wanted we are the ones wanting the guy and thinking that they are true to us but once we continue being with someone we find out its not  real and we just gave them something of ours we gave them a piece of our souls and our hearts . Now did we just get rid of our innocence after making some mistakes?

Alot of us as people will always make mistakes but in the end is it really true about us losing our innocence or can we still claim our innocence what if we made the biggest mistake  our lives but learned from it are we able to get our innocence back or not?

How about forgiveness should people really earn our forgiveness? Going to my church for the past 2 and a half years or about 3 years, they told me i should forgive everyone but what about the people who really hurt me in life the ones who just never cared abut anything but themselves and they are the ones e who just come and go through my life  ones who had made a promise to stay there forever should i really forgive them for leaving me alone in this world?

How about the people who have been committed to eachother for years and years and they are going trough a rough patch and everything seems like its falling apart completely so they decide to try and work through the rough patches of life togeher but later on you two are back togther and things are amazing  you find out that the other had found another to sleep with would you really forget and forgive and cotinue being happy with that person would the trust still be there, Or would you lie in bed beside them thinking of them and that other person and always think about that before you go to bed can we really forgive them?

How about the friends we come across and we absolutely adore them in every way possible for years and years till one day you realize throughout the friendship they never really cared about you and that your just a friend to pass time by with  your just the friend that they complain to you and nothing else your just thier friend that they would talk to when life is falling apart for them but when its your turn for your life falling apart they dont care about you at all they only think of themselvs even when your father is going to jail or you and someone special just broke up and that one friend just only thinks about themselves trough everything even though you have always been there for them no matter what you dropped your life for them but the older you get the more you realize they just dont care about you ,should you forgive them for treating you like garbage through out those years of your life.

Going through life i think we will always come across stuff like this and we will have to ask our selves alot of questions and in the end we have choices to make and in the end we will find out if we made more good choices then wrong thats really how i view it, i always believed that the good always out did the bad. so in the end if we had done more good we truly are innocent.

Reviews

[Iota]

A lot was asked and shared here. Innocence to me is taken away through knowledge and education. The more we learn the less innocent we become. Thus a child is considered innocent at first until they learn the ways of the world and then they are no longer innocent. Can they reclaim their innocence, well if they can unlearn what they learned then yes, but honestly innocence gone is just that gone.

To forgive or not, this one I use to struggle with for many reasons. I feel it is hard to forgive when my feelings are hurt but when they heal it is much easier to forgive because by forgiving I am able to close that chapter in my life and move on to the next chapter. I don't like living in the past or having the past affect my present life. Now is all that exists and the past is just that the past never to happen again.

I have cheated on girl friends and been cheated on, both sides suck when it all comes out into the open. I was much younger when I cheated and I stopped once I got cheated on. When it comes to trust I feel people place their trust into someone, to me that is mistake, instead I trust that this person will be who they are, thus if I am with a cheater I expect them to cheat and if they do I don't get upset with them I get upset with myself because I knew better in the beginning. I know people lie, but a cheater has red flags it is my job as my own best friend to pay attention to those flags. Can I forgive them, yes of course, there are much worse things in life to live through. Will I stay with them however is another story. I truly believe women cheat more than men, I have only known a handful of faithful women, but I do know a lot of faithful guys. Maybe guys cheat more when where younger but now that I am older being committed and having character is much more important than a piece of a*s.

I have many friends who love to talk about themselves but never give me more than 30 seconds to talk about mine before they interrupt me to talk about themselves again. To me they are broken, they are needy, and they want attention because they need it. I don't mind giving the attention to them, because I do have internet friends that allow me to talk about me, and there is the balance. Many people tell me all there secrets, and I hold them and those same people barely know anything about me. I don't mind it being that way so do I forgive them? well I don't think they did anything wrong. People love to talk about themselves and they hate to listen to anyone else, it is what it is.

To me forgiving is the hardest thing to do, but I force myself to forgive because there are plenty of times in my life that I needed to be forgiving and there will be other times in the future. I am not perfect and nor are the people in my life perfect. I chose to forgive because I too need forgiving.

[Rouge Pen]

Innocence is taken when you become jaded. When you are aware you are doing the dance with darkness and you have done nothing to stop it. No one is completely innocent, however there are some more jaded than others.