Beautiful Beginnings

Chapter One of My Life As A Wife... I am basically describing what I have learned with the beginning of my marriage. This entry was inspired by the blogs I have begun to read for marriage.

" Marriage. Marriage is what brings us together today. Marriage, that blessed arrangement. That dream within a dream." Pope from The Princess Bride

That is the line that comes to mind when I think about my marriage to my husband. Not only because it is one of our favorite movies to cuddle up and watch together,but because the quote itself expresses how a young couple feels when they stand before God and their families and friends and bind their lives forever. I have only been married 3 weeks  and yet I have learned so much, I feel like its been a couple months. There is a lot of new things to adjust to and its an exhilarating experience to be sure. 

The first thing I have learned is what it feels like to share my bed with someone else. Luckily it's my best friend and he is pretty good and keeping the monsters away! Hheheheheh! The second thing I have learned is that I really do have what it takes to properly care for my husband. I struggle from time to time to see myself as adequate because I see other newly weds and think that I could do better. Then my husband slides of behind me wraps his loving arms around me and reminds me that I know how to take care of him perfectly. That eases all of my anxiety of course because he knows how to make me feel better. In fact I truly believe we are the definition of soul mates. Its as if our characters and our hearts were, at birth, designed with each other in mind. Another sign that God does have someone in mind for us. 

" Then the Lord God said, ' It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper who is just right for him.' Genesis 2:18

And so the classic story begins. God  caused Adam to fall into a deep sleep and molded out of himself a mate suitable for his first creation. Perhaps this is more than just an account of the first marriage. Maybe a deeper emotional process takes place when God designs us for our mate. He makes one that is missing a piece yet in its place is a piece of the mate later to be discovered, and same with the other. So when the two meet by God's divine grace, they know deep inside that they are meant to be one soul. That's how I felt when I got to know my husband Stephen. The love of my life and my true soul mate. 

Goodness! Every morning I thank God for him because he is the most wonderful man and I feel so blessed. Could it be the endless " kiss attacks"? Could it be him waking  up in the middle of night and wrapping his strong steadfast arms around me? Or could it be all the wonderful moments we share during the day? In all honesty its all of the above.

Another thing I have learned is that in a marriage it helps, though its not obligatory, for a husband and wife to share love languages. For Stephen and I we give love by showering physical touch( such as cuddling and hugging) on the other person or surprising the other. We receive love by words of affirmation and physical touch as well. Early on in our dating relationship we discovered that  our love languages are indeed pretty identical. This remarkable discovery has no doubt been extremely helpful in the establishment of our marriage and prayerfully will continue to aide in the development of our marriage as we both grow and mature in our faith and experience as a happily married couple. 

Something else I have learned is how very important it is to seek God together and worship together outside of corporate services like church. I have noticed that while we are doing something or going somewhere together and we have Jesus Culture going my endorphins are raging with joy and happiness and seemingly endless love for my husband which in turn causes me to go into a blessing craze. I then begin to think about how I could bless my husband and see the plan through. For example, the other night I was reading a blog that mentioned 30 ways to love your husband and so I picked out two of the thirty options and in a combination saw them out. I picked out his favorite beverage and candy and wrote a note on a brown lunch bag and drove to his work and left the package in this seat so when he went on his last break and saw the sugar high bomb I left it knocked his socks off. He told me the next morning that the guys saw the bag and said. " Hey there Stephen, Whatcha got there?" Did your girlfriend leave that for you?" with mockery in their voice. But he just grinned and said. " No, my wife brought it!" Doing that for him was truly more satisfying than him doing something nice for me.... although if he decided to do something nice for me I wouldn't complain! 

Blessing Stephen feels amazing and when I do I feel like I am just a little closer to what Proverbs 31:12 says.

"She brings him good, not harm, all the days of her life."

This is my goal in life... to bless my husband everyday of my life.

Author's Note

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First Stage

"When it comes to marriage is important to look back and analyze how was the relationship of the couple from the start. The challenges newlyweds go through in the first stage will lay the ground for the next.

Usually the first step in a couple's relationship corresponds to romantic love, which is characterized by intense and passion, where nothing is impossible.

Then comes the reality where the defects of the other appear. If understanding existed as mutual support, the ability to share and to reconcile then what the couple will face in the second stage is beautiful."