I use to find myself trying to be something i am not, and to tell you the truth i was not happy at all. I thought that to gain happiness you needed to be like everyone else, and have everyone like you. Well i wouldn't blame my self either, or anyone else in this world, expectantly when all around you, you see ads saying how you should dress, act, and look. So it is only natural to begin to think that way, isn't it?
I thought this way for quite amount of years before i realized that this is not me, and the people who claim to be my friends did not like me for who i am. I had begun to suspect that those group of people were not my true friends. So i decided to show them what i actually like, and how my personality actually was. I got my answer, and that was the answer i suspected. So i lost a group of people who turned out was only using me to help them get good grades, but in return i gained true friends, who liked me for who i am.
For every flaw, and weirdness i carry inside of my personality. I would not have wanted it any other way, and even though that was over five years ago when i met them, they have been there for me every time i needed help. I was in return there whenever they needed my help for anything. I could not have asked for better friends, they are the best friends i have ever met.
So if you think that you are not being your true self, then let your true identity break free and wander off into the world. It might make you lose friends who were not true friends, but you will find people who like you for who you are, and those friends will not try to make you in to something that you are not. So be like a Turtle, and be at ease in your own shell too.
I think you had to gain experience of being used, and a healthy level of mistrust, because people will sell you acceptance into popularity with the price of conforming to what they deem acceptable. And because they're in control, they always benefit.
I'm glad that you came through this experience so safely.
I am a mother of two wonderful girls. Living an average life with a few twists and turns here. Taking time and writing is what i enjoy the most. Often it is my best way of expression. To sit back, rea.. more..