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Once there was a boy, a bit overweight and a bit of a geek. He didn’t fit in with any crowd so he stood alone which made him the perfect target. He never raised his hand during class. They teased him and pulled on his clothes in the hallway. He is just human, all he wanted was to fit in and he thought to himself “maybe this is my passage. If I let them do this then maybe they will let me be like one of them.” That wasn’t their goal; their goal was to bring him down. Down to the ground begging for God to take his life.

 

Have you ever been called names?

Made fun of because of your sex, clothing, looks?

It doesn’t feel good, does it?

 

30% of teens get bullied.

They get bullied for their race, hair color, weight, height, the clothes they wear, or the group they are in.

They don’t ask for it, no one does.

 

Why do people bully?

Not that many people ask this, but what causes kids to bully one another?

Cultural causes such as if a culture is fascinated with winning, power, and/or violence. This may cause kids to bring that to their social life.

How a student acts at home to at school and vise versa. Social causes such as being known for negative behaviors than from positive behaviors may cause people to want to be better but put it in a negative way, lack of personal and social skills. Family issues at home of feeling unwanted, not loved by the most important ones in their life. Rejection upon rejection, compounds into a vicious cycle of perceived negative self worth. People who have had academic failure in their life that’s still hanging onto them may cause them to take out their frustration and anger on people who can’t defend themselves. Some people just want to have power. Take control. Feel like they are in charge of things, but they put it in negative things. Typical victims are the ones who are annoying and condescending to others that are not picked up by authority but the bully may feel like they can get away with it. We don’t really just need to help the victim; we also need to help the bully because that’s person who needs the most help. They are the one who has the least self-esteem and they need help.

 

A young teen that was only in 7^th grade was very desperate to “live the teen life” and she dated two guys at once. She knew it was wrong but she wanted to be a rebel and soon both of the boys found out. They didn’t last long and she was heartbroken, but then it got worse and worse. People never let it go and she lost all of friends.

 

She knew she was in the wrong yet they will never let her live that down. People make mistakes, we are only human. Bullying is more common in younger teens then older teens. Bullies will pick their targets with or without knowing it. Sometimes you might not even consider it as bullying.

 

What is bullying?

Bullying in teens indicates behaviors that focus on making someone feel inadequate or the focus of be lifting someone else.

 

If you have been called names such as four-eyes, fat, ugly, homo, etc. that is verbal bullying. The bully is demeaning to tear down the other person. Use of sarcasm is used. To make fun of the other in front of people.

 

Have you ever been pushed, kicked, punched, etc.? That’s physical bullying.

This is the most obvious form. Victims will always have fear of the one bully.

 

Emotional bullying is more subtle than verbal. The bully aims the ones that are depressed, alone, and/or isolated ones.

 

How about when you go online on Facebook, MySpace, Meet Me, etc., do people says stuff, post unreal things? This is cyber bullying. Electronic bullying this includes messaging, cell phone, or texting, or online social sites used to humiliate and embarrass others. This is the most common with high school students.

 

In the hallways, you can see a boy get tortured. He’s laying down while older boys are kicking him, yelling at him! Calling him a homo in a rude tone, saying God should drag him to hell and leave him. You see him crying every night but you don’t do anything.

 

Homosexuals are two to three times more likely to commit suicide. Five times more to be bullied and 28% drop out. This is the second biggest reason of bullying.

 

A girl gets called terrible names because of a guy falling for her instead of her best friend. Her best friend is the one everyone wants to be friends with but he choose her and everything went down hill. He fell for her instead of her best friend and she will never get to hear the end of it.

 

Revenge is the best way for girls to bully one another. They get jealous and they use one another to get revenge, to feel good about themselves and they won’t stop on their own.

 

It doesn’t feel good. Bullies are around you everyday whether you know it or not.

 

There is a girl, she has a speech impediment and as a kid she got made fun of day after day. She doesn’t remember everything but she would get called four-eyes, fat, ugly, bucktooth, & people would mock her with everything she said. It didn’t start to get to her until middle school then it really picked up. She cried every night, she would never tell anyone. She did everything in her power to make them stop but they wouldn’t. She got so depressed that she tried overdosing, cutting, but every time she would get to point of that she would pick herself back up.

 

 

That girl is me.  I have grown so strong that the bullies that used to bully me don’t anymore cause it doesn’t effect me. I am loved and I know that there will always be people. No one stood up for me, everyone kept quiet, but I never gave up.

 

I’ve seen people get bullied sometimes I do something other times I don’t know if they are kidding or I freak out and don’t know what to do. That’s the problem. We don’t know what to do anymore. Parents don’t see it and faculty doesn’t either. Everyone needs a friend not an enemy.

 

There is a site called imgettingbullied.com. You can read stories of people who have gotten bullied, my story is on there and so is a million other kids just like me; we need to make that number go down. Teens, kids, adults shouldn’t have to go through this. If we are just a friend to most then that number will change. Bullying will not just change over night, this is something we have to work on together and never give up. Don’t carry it on, drop it right there.

 

 

If you were walking down a street and saw someone getting kicked and pushed. What would you do?