Chapter 1A Chapter by S.LeeSomeone once wrote, “In this world nothing can be said to be certain, except death and taxes.” I would have to disagree. While taxes may promise permanency…I’ve learned death sometimes does not.
We can be no more certain about death than we are about life. Most of us assume that when we die were a greeted by the white light and pearly gates and all of our dead loved ones. But, the reality is no one really knows what happens after we die. All we know is that it will happen.
We do not know how.
We do not know when.
All we know is that someday everything that we
have worked our entire lives to create will be mercilessly ripped away from our
shoulders with no second chance. One day you are and the next day you're not.
Whatever comes after that is anyone’s guess...except mine.
Our house was built in the Queen Anne style in the 1890’s by my great grandfather. It’s a grand old thing and always reminded me of a big Victorian doll house with its high gables and wraparound porch. I always loved this old house with its beautiful bay windows and conical roofed tower on the east side which made it look like a castle.
At the very top of the tower, three storeys up, was the most beautiful room in the whole house. Stained glass windows with pink and green magnolia blossoms circled nearly the entire room. Every morning when the sun came up the rays would peer through the windows and light up the room with colorful lights. This was my room. My sanctuary.
Growing up in this house always made me feel as though I was living in a fairy tale. The house itself sat atop a hill just outside of town and was surrounded by a forest of beautiful gardens and magnolia trees. On warm summer nights I would open the windows to my bedroom and let the rich and heady scent of the flora below waft up and nestle me to sleep. In the daytime I would take my precious books out to the garden and read by the tiny river that ran down the hill and into Loon Lake about a mile below. I would imagine I was the Lady of Shallot coming down from her tower to the river which would take her to Camelot. Or I’d pretend I was lost in the forest and the fireflies which lit our summer nights were actually fairies guiding me home.
The gardens were my mother’s labor of love. She would spend hours out there weeding and pruning. I remember how beautiful she used to look in her sun hat and dirty gardening clothes. She would stroll along the narrow pathways pausing often to admire the freshly bloomed flowers. I remember the way she used to smell them; cupping her hands gently around the blossom while pressing her nose right into its centre and inhaling deeply with her eyes closed. She always looked so natural in the garden, as if she had grown out of the soil herself.
On the days that I would join her she would give me little botany lessons. She would say, “See this one Cecilia? This is called a Globe Thistle. Aren’t they beautiful? They come from Africa so they need a lot of sun in order to grow up strong but they are not fussy about the soil. They can go weeks without water and still grow as long as they have sun. Which means it’s up to us to make sure that the area around them is completely clear. Oh, sweetie, don’t touch them. They’re prickly.” I put my stung index finger in my mouth and her laugh made a sweet chime.
The house and garden have since been overgrown by weeds and vines. Without my mother’s nurturing hand the garden has grown out of control and sections of it have died of suffocation. Now, only weeds, tall grass and the occasional group of wildflowers can grow there.
The front of the house is still sea of magnolia blossoms in the spring but since the life has been taken from the house it’s as if they bloom against their will. With the uncut grass sucking away all the nutrients, the blossoms appear later and fall earlier than they used to when I was a child.
The windows of the house now seem more like the cataract ridden eyes of an old woman with all the dust and film that has settled on them over the decades. Inside, all of my mother’s beautiful antique furniture has been covered by white sheets. A layer of age and cobwebs has covered every surface in the house. It’s dismal and dusty and depressing. Nothing like place I grew up in.
It was as if the house died along with me. Now we both just kind of exist here on our lonely hill overlooking town. On a plane of the universe that is both completely separate from that of the living while still being a part of it. Trapped in a state that is neither fully alive nor fully dead.
My father used to call the house a “her” and would talk about it as if it had a soul. Now I suppose she really does have one, me.
How do I even begin to describe what it’s like not to have a body? How do you describe the sky to someone who has never seen the colour blue? How do I put into words the ineffable emptiness one feels when they have forever lost everything there is to possibly lose?
If I were being honest I would tell you that even after all this time it has never gotten any easier. It’s still hard for me. Not being able to touch anything, grab anything. No human contact, no one to talk to. No hugs, no kisses; not even a handshake. I’m unable to feel my feet on the ground or the breeze in my hair. What I wouldn’t give for one last bite of my mother’s Sunday roast or a juicy bite of watermelon on a hot summer day. I would die again just to feel the sun on my skin while walking through the garden or the cold bite of a winter morning on my cheeks as I stepped out on my way to school. Those everyday pleasures I took for granted when I was alive all seem like part of a distant heaven I once belonged to. Not anymore.
I think the strangest part about being a spirit is being invisible. On the first morning I woke up dead I could still see myself but it seemed like the moment I realized I was dead I lost all connection to my physical self and I became completely invisible. I was already invisible to the living but something about not being able to see your own hand in front of your face was really disturbing. Living like this, you start to feel like you are just a floating brain; A bubble of all these thoughts and emotions floating around with no vessel to hold them. I have no sense of touch or smell or taste. I can only see and hear the world around me with no way of interacting with it. Like living in a barrel.
I
remember a book I read when I was alive. It talked about a man named Descartes
who theorized that the very act of doubting one’s own existence is in fact
proof of its reality. He summed up his philosophy in one simple statement, “I
think, therefore I am.” He basically meant that if you have thoughts floating
around in your brain, whether you’re pondering the universe or thinking about
dinner, it means you exist.
I suppose it was my fear of failure that made me too afraid to take any risks. Afraid I would make a mistake and disappoint my family or get hurt. I became a prisoner of my own fear and my comfort zone was my cell.
However, the process of accepting the fact that my life is over has brought along a sense of clarity. I no longer feel afraid of those things I was too frightened to do in life. The ironic and devastating fact is that, it is only now that I have no hope of doing anything that I want to do everything. I can’t help but regret every day of my life that I wasted.
I read a poem once that I think would apply here. It was about a little bird in a cage. All the little bird wanted to do was to fly free and swing on the branches with the other birds. The bird beat his wings so hard against the bars that they become bloodied and bruised and when he could no longer beat his wings the bird began to sing. “It is not a carol of joy or glee,/ but a prayer that he sends from his heart’s deep core,/ but a plea, that upward to heaven he flings--/ I know why the caged bird sings!”
I remember feeling sorry for the bird. Trapped all alone in a little cage with no way of escaping no matter how hard he tried. I could feel his frustration as he beat his wings in vain against the cruel bars. My heart broke when he finally gave up and could do no more than sing his mournful prayer. I remember wanting to step inside the poem, unlatch the tiny door and release the bird. I wanted us to be free together to sing happier tunes.
I've
learned since then that not all cages have doors. The walls of my cage, though
invisible, are really quite real and separate my world from that of the living.
My torture has been to watch for countless years as life and time and joy elude
me"passing me by with no way to stop it as it flows through my ethereal fingers
like water.
All alone on a solitary stone in the middle of a vast ocean with nothing but the endless horizon of empty space.
Stranded.
Alone.
And that is all you will ever be again. Standing on a rock, in the middle of the ocean with nowhere to go and nothing but your own mind to keep you company.
Forgotten and unloved.
That’s what it’s like, becoming a ghost.
© 2014 S.LeeAuthor's Note
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