Not That Easy

You tell me that I'm strange
Because I'm not a player and I won't play your game
You tell me I should show some skin
And if you should knock upon my door, then I should let you in

I'm not ashamed of my body
But what makes you think you should get to see
All the treasures that I have to offer
What makes you think you are worthy

I don't have to show some skin
To feel beautiful within
I don't need your validation
If you ever want to know
What is underneath these clothes
Well, then you've got to show some appreciation

Did you buy me flowers -- no
Did you buy me dinner -- no
Yes, you took me to a movie
But it was only so that you could feel me up in the back row

Whatever happened to the nice guys
The ones who treat a woman with respect
All I've seen so far is selfish arrogance
Someone tell me are there any nice guys left

I don't need your false words
I'll just end up getting hurt
When I realize your words are lies
If you want me to see the light
Come closer, let me hold you tight
And let me see the truth in your eyes

If you want me to respond
Well, then you've got to treat me right
You've got to make me feel special
Make me think I'm the most important thing in your life

Take the time to get to know me
What are my goals and what are my dreams
As you get to know me better, you can dig a little deeper
What turns me on, what are my fantasies

If you want into my heart
I've got to feel it from the start
I've got to feel that we have a connection
The only want into my pants
Is through my heart and with romance
There simply is no other direction

You've got to show me that you are willing
To put my happiness before your own
If you can't do that, then you won't get anywhere
I'll send you packing, you'll go home alone

I won't give it up to you
Just because I think you're cute
Physical attraction is just the start
If you're honest and sincere
And you show me that you care
Then you already know the way to my heart

If you want to have some fun
Show me I'm the only one
Look into my eyes and let me see
That you feel it every day
And you mean it when you say
That I love you and you love me

Reviews

[Chemical Kitten]

Hell, good for you! You have every right to feel appreciated before you give anything to anyone. You are so much more than just a body. And yes, there are some nice guys still out there. I've been with mine for a year now. They always show up when you stop looking for them. (Which is usually when you need them most.) So don't lose hope. Wonderful poem!

[Somber Eyes]

Thank you for your kind words; I truly appreciate the words and the sentiment. Unfortunately, the sentiment is somewhat out-of-place on me because I'm a heterosexual male (I'd like to think that I'm one of those few nice guys left).

When I wrote this, I thought it might get that reaction because a lot of people assume that a piece written from a female perspective is written by a female. In fact, my intention was that these words would be the lyrics to a song sung by a female (I do have the music for it, but only in my head).

We've all seen the way that society sexualizes women of all ages, from clothing and accessories to marketing and product placement to the way women are portrayed in television, movies, and music. Society expects women (especially young women) to exude sex and to be overtly sexual, as if that's the way it's supposed to be.

I wrote this to show women (especially young women) that it's okay to not be sexual. You don't need to show your body or be sexual in any way, regardless of what other people may tell you. Your body is your own, and you control who gets to see it and touch it. If anyone thinks differently, then may their eyes be blinded by a thousand suns and their hands shattered into a million pieces.

Since I'm not female, I'll never really understand the pressures society exerts on women, but I hope that this piece adequately captured the essence of what I'm trying to say. And I hope the fact that it's written by a man will help show women that we're not all perverted, juvenile pigs (though, really, comparing the average male to a pig is a big insult to the pig).

[Chemical Kitten]

Haha, well I, as a young woman, appreciate the effort. You did a good job portraying the view you were going for. Women tend to compare themselves to everything, and sometimes this helps them learn, and sometimes it hurts them. They look at the girls the media promotes, and how men find them attractive, and feel the need to look the same way to get their attention. Some even become so obsessed over it, they completely forget why they're doing it. It's ridiculous.

I've never been with anyone who made me feel like I had to give them anything, because if they ever did, then a first date wouldn't be an option to begin with. So (fortunately) I've never had to deal with the pigs. But I assume the reason they demand so much from women is because the media tells them that women should look and act a certain way that isn't exactly true, and that if she's willing to go out of her way to do it, then why not? And if they're promised this and suddenly find it's not true, I'm sure they feel jipped.

Granted I'm not a man, and I'll probably never know the reason behind it. But I think the first steps to understanding the opposite sex is to stop looking at them as the opposite and start looking at them as the same. As a person. Then we'll start to see more similarities and get along and treat each other a lot better.